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Addicted to "weight loss praise"

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DougNichols    124

DougNichols
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Anyone else addicted to weight loss praise?

YOU DID FANTASTIC! when losing some weight. People are happy, excited for you. You get attention from everyone.

And then ...

It fades. And you're just a normal person once you reach your goal. Sadly, the bonus attention is very addicting for me. And when I was young, I remember gaining/losing 100lbs more than once because I wanted that experience again (I had other addiction problems, but that was one of the weight cycling causes amongst many others).

Anyone else?

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TES    858

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Nooooo--I am so the opposite! I hope that I can get to goal without anyone noticing. LOL! It's funny how we are all so different. :)

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Ms.AntiBand    2,984

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Lol.. No one ever says anything to me because I'm such a yoyo'er that they get tired of my dieting so.. They ignore my weight loss. I'm not good with compliments so it's all good

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Canary Diamond    186

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Nooooo--I am so the opposite! I hope that I can get to goal without anyone noticing. LOL! It's funny how we are all so different. :)

I feel the same way. First of all, I'm not comfortable with people commenting on my body in any capacity and secondly, raving compliments just make me think, "Gosh, I must have really looked awful before!"

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DougNichols    124

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I see a pattern of women hate it, guys like it.

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No game    14,437

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I don't mind people noticing! In the first month or so it was weird because I felt like I was on display.. But now?? You better notice b***h! :D

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No game    14,437

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I see a pattern of women hate it' date=' guys like it.[/quote']

Oops perhaps I have to much testosterone in me :o:P

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KBT    35

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A compliment is nice every once in a while but I get really tired of it. I had three comments at work before noon today and I was even sitting in a meeting for two hours of the morning! It gets so tiring...... That's not what I want to talk about at work. Wish I could change jobs and go where no one knew me obese!

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Writergirl    230

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No, I LOVE getting praise! I wear new clothes all the time just because it's so much fun to get noticed again. There are a lot worse things to be addicted to. But... I would suggest that you start looking for other successes in your life. Now that you are on a permanent lifestyle change, maybe you'll be known for your great smile or some talent you could never fully develop at your former weight! Those things never get old!

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GoldyGirl    186

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I HATE getting noticed....but I am beginning to be able to Just Say Thank You, and Move on....

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TJL    222

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I don't mind getting noticed for weight loss, and I too have just learned to say thank-you. Accepting compliments used to be a hard thing for me, but I've gotten much better at it.

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*susan*    1,709

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Oh heck yeah, I worked hard to get here, and I definitely want everyone to notice it and comment on it, that's what helps keep me motivated after all these years.

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Beach Lover    1,084

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I go back to work in 4 weeks. I work for a high school with at least 80 employees and 1600 students. I run the attendance office and have contact with most of the kids. I am hoping to slide back into my office without much notice. I seem to be a slow loser and have lost 30 pounds and am 6 weeks post op (loss includes my 2 week liquid diet also). I figure I will lose more weight but the slow weight loss will be a blessing when it comes to people noticing a difference since I haven't seen them over the summer. I really don't want to talk about it with these people (I like them) but I don't like the attention focused on me for this reason.

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SerendipityHappens    1,594

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Well when the weight loss praise wears off there's always :"new haircolor praise", "face-lift praise", "awesome perky new boobies praise" and my personal favorite "ginormous new diamond engagement ring praise"

Actually, I take that back.. I think "awesome perky new boobies praise" is going to be my favorite.. I'll return and let you know how it goes once I get some. :P

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