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So, I'm thinking the emotional side effects of surgery are descending on me, i kind of want to hurt my husband. It's been a week since surgery (tomorrow actually) and I'm over the whole Protein adventure, still have some gas, it's too damn hot to be outside, and all I can think of is what I'd like to "chew and spit" which will make people here yell at me.

Plus to add to the fun, my family is leaving me entirely alone for the next 5 days. Older son is on mission trip, and in the morning hubby and younger son are leaving on a bike trip with the church. I have my parents close by but part of me wants to punch my hubby for not cluing in that he should be staying here with me, not abandoning me. I would probably eat him anyway:(

Gotta get some perspective and chill, I know, but like I said right now I want to punch a kitten or a baby or something:(

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I think your feelings are pretty common post-op. I was pissed at the world for 2 weeks post-op. I've read that with the rapid weight loss, lots of estrogen is released from fat stores and causes emotional highs and lows for many people. I only got the lows. :-(

P.S. You can't eat your husband! solid food is still weeks away. :-)

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I'm sorry you're feeling so low. I've never had surgery before, but my mom tells me your emotions can be all messed up for a while afterwards. Be gentle on yourself.

But to me, the idea of having the house all to myself sounds like bliss! Maybe think of it as time to pamper and get lets of rest. Play your favourite music, watch chick flicks, do some journaling and visualize all the fabulousness that's about to unfold as the weight melts off. ;)

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Hmm.. I feel like I'm the only one who would absolutely love my family to leave me alone. I mean.. Really alone. Not just when I lock myself in the bathroom and pretend I'm actually using the toilet, or when I say I'm going to the grocery store and never leave the drive way because it's so peaceful all by myself. .. ;) etc

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So' date=' I'm thinking the emotional side effects of surgery are descending on me, i kind of want to hurt my husband. It's been a week since surgery (tomorrow actually) and I'm over the whole Protein adventure, still have some gas, it's too damn hot to be outside, and all I can think of is what I'd like to "chew and spit" which will make people here yell at me.

Plus to add to the fun, my family is leaving me entirely alone for the next 5 days. Older son is on mission trip, and in the morning hubby and younger son are leaving on a bike trip with the church. I have my parents close by but part of me wants to punch my hubby for not cluing in that he should be staying here with me, not abandoning me. I would probably eat him anyway:(

Gotta get some perspective and chill, I know, but like I said right now I want to punch a kitten or a baby or something:([/quote']

Trust first weeks are horrid...im 6 weeks out....NEVER EVER THOUGHT ID GET HERE....WENT BACK TO WORK...WITH MASSIVE COMPLEMENT S.....30 lbs gone.....trust....negative emotions will be PAST.....GREAT EMOTIONS ...ARE COMING...HANG IN THERE

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Hmm.. I feel like I'm the only one who would absolutely love my family to leave me alone. I mean.. Really alone. Not just when I lock myself in the bathroom and pretend I'm actually using the toilet' date=' or when I say I'm going to the grocery store and never leave the drive way because it's so peaceful all by myself. .. ;) etc[/quote']

I do the same thing. I never have enough me time!

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So' date=' I'm thinking the emotional side effects of surgery are descending on me, i kind of want to hurt my husband. It's been a week since surgery (tomorrow actually) and I'm over the whole Protein adventure, still have some gas, it's too damn hot to be outside, and all I can think of is what I'd like to "chew and spit" which will make people here yell at me.

Plus to add to the fun, my family is leaving me entirely alone for the next 5 days. Older son is on mission trip, and in the morning hubby and younger son are leaving on a bike trip with the church. I have my parents close by but part of me wants to punch my hubby for not cluing in that he should be staying here with me, not abandoning me. I would probably eat him anyway:(

Gotta get some perspective and chill, I know, but like I said right now I want to punch a kitten or a baby or something:([/quote']

Oh my gosh me too! Today marks my 1 week post op and I was crying my ass off to the nurse! I was like why why WHY????

I called my husband in tears and my children....oh my poor children don't want to make eye contact with me in fear I will start crying!

Everyone says its normal so we must hang in there!!!

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I would of loved to be left alone! For the next five days concentrate on your next food stage. Look for recipes, make a shopping list, Go get a pedicure, take care of you! Its tough but you will get through it! Before you know it they will be back from their trip and you will be wondering "what the heck was i thinking"!

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It is hard the first few weeks, it is more in our heads than anything else, but you can do this. Just think, you won't have anyone else eating around you, no foods to smell that you can't enjoy. Get some really good movies, experiment with your shakes. Take care of yourself with no outside distractions. You can do this. It will get better and no kittens or husbands will have to be harmed.

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At this point, you are ok to be left alone. I know you are upset so take this time to have some quiet reflection and goal setting time. Pamper yourself, relax, talk to God, watch some good movies... And try to look at the positive. You obviously have a good husband and children to be involved in church that way. Even if it is "clean fun". You are not being abandoned, you are being blessed.

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hang in there you are strong. music helps me when I'm stressed. Pampering your self sounds like a great idea If you have the energy. It will pass. Punch some pillows :)

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Thank you guys:) The thing is, I too CRAVE my "me" time as both my husband and I work at home. I'm a big chicken at night alone but usually I like me alone time.

Just blew up at my hubby so no kittens were harmed. I haven't told many friends about this surgery and 2/3 of them that I told are on the trips that everyone else is on, so I don't really have anyone to lean on, except my parents.

You're right, i need to schedule a pedicure. I got some chick flicks and I have books. I am starting a cookbook of favorite recipes from here and from Eggface, etc. but looking at all the recipes makes me think of food again!!!

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Aww poor hubby. Id stay away from the cookbook part for now. Just do things that make you smile. I hear safe haven is a great movie!

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So' date=' I'm thinking the emotional side effects of surgery are descending on me, i kind of want to hurt my husband. It's been a week since surgery (tomorrow actually) and I'm over the whole Protein adventure, still have some gas, it's too damn hot to be outside, and all I can think of is what I'd like to "chew and spit" which will make people here yell at me.

Plus to add to the fun, my family is leaving me entirely alone for the next 5 days. Older son is on mission trip, and in the morning hubby and younger son are leaving on a bike trip with the church. I have my parents close by but part of me wants to punch my hubby for not cluing in that he should be staying here with me, not abandoning me. I would probably eat him anyway:(

Gotta get some perspective and chill, I know, but like I said right now I want to punch a kitten or a baby or something:([/quote']

I can relate! Found that ice has become my best friend now. I get the little sonic ice and it helps as I watch tv or feel the "need" to chew. Also, I've noticed that each day the hunger gets less as the acids in my tummy regulate.

I totally understand your vent. If it helps just think soon you will be able to eat. Stay strong.

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There are other reasons they give you pain meds.

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