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Trixie2012    28

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Perhaps if you opened up about your experience it would make it easier on your aunts to accept and ease any anxiety your cousin might have?

Amanda Rae

I'm sure it would. My overwhelming anxiety just thinking about the possibility of telling them makes me fully aware I need therapy.

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Nicolanz    1,484

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They'll be fine once your back and see that you're ok.

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schavez2010    32

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I went to Mexico earlier this month! It was a great experience!!!! Drs and nurses were great. I went with dr Fernando Garcia at mi doctor. It's much more common then you guys think!!! You should still go!

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schavez2010    32

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Not nice on your husbands part btw!

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bee13    44

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Thank you so much. I have been reading the responses and all I can say is that you guys are wonderful. I have no new news, though :(

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AmandaRaeLeo    2,145

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I'm sure it would. My overwhelming anxiety just thinking about the possibility of telling them makes me fully aware I need therapy.

Anxiety can be crippling. I know it too. I hope you are able defeat the anxiety.

Amanda Rae

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stefaniwg    172

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I totally understand where you are coming from. I currently have the band and had it done here in the states. I told my parents and sister of course my husband and they were not quite understanding about it then how about me going to Mexico to be revisited to the sleeve! Uh heck no I'm not going to tell them!! Maybe one day I will and maybe not. They would rather me stay obese and develop my family genetic diabetes, high blood pressure, stokes and heart disease than get healthy from a surgery and definitely not one in Mexico! Just kidding but not really. They love you even your husband though he went about it in the most horrible way it was out of love and fear. Now he would for sure be in the dog house and deserve whatever you give him. We can't give you answers but you have to do what's best for you because no one else will. We are all here for you.

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CBT    450

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They just found out. You've known for a long time. They're trying to catch up. Give it a few days? When's your plane? Have more conversations. You'll find peace with this. Give them time to catch up and you time to rethink and recommit to your health. Your path. (((Hugs)))

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bee13    44

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They just found out. You've known for a long time. They're trying to catch up. Give it a few days? When's your plane? Have more conversations. You'll find peace with this. Give them time to catch up and you time to rethink and recommit to your health. Your path. (((Hugs)))

I fly out Sunday afternoon. I might ask them to go with me since they offered. Thank you for reminding me that THIS TOO SHALL PASS :)

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bee13    44

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I said..."MEXICO!" It was hilarious. He got online and booked a ticket and went with me.

I think is exactly what happened. I started to pack all of my things, round up my items, etc. and DH must have panicked. He knew I had the money, passport, plane ticket, but the crap on the table was his wake up call that I was serious. Until last night, all he said was, "I don't think it's a good idea, but you're going to do what you want anyway." I asked him point blank why he just couldn't show me how he felt? Telling me his opinion is not the same as showing me that he's worried about my health. Ah, men.

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anniemay    150

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ask them to go - then they will feel less anxious when they see how it works

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cindysc    108

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Yes ask them to go. I am so glad you decided to go ahead with it. I think you will be so happy in the long run. I hope to see you at the Marriott. Be strong!!!!

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takroom    192

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You are welcome to use me as a reference if they would feel comfortable talking to me. I went TJ last September for my VSG. If you need my number send me a private message.

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simonetwentynine    16

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You are welcome to use me as a reference if they would feel comfortable talking to me. I went TJ last September for my VSG. If you need my number send me a private message.

That's a great idea, that may help easy their minds! Perhaps your mum should also go with you ?

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bee13    44

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Mom just called me and started sobbing and begging when I told her I wanted to go ahead. I can't deal with this crap!

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