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shuckybucky    107

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I can say I my very first post on here was responded by someone very aggressive and mean. She called me a liar about having my surgery and that no dr would do my revision in same surgery as removing my band and that they couldn't have nicked my spleen because it isn't near my stomach (to sum it up). She then started a new thread with the caption I call BS on this and a link to my story. I even posted operative pictures to prove I wasn't telling a lie. I couldn't believe her response to my story and it made my first experience here upsetting but to be fair she did apologize later. Just unnecessary for someone to deal with that while trying to heal and deal with the emotional changes after surgery. I have also had some very kind people since then so just like anything take it for what it's worth and move on.

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shuckybucky    107

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Hey pdx I was told to GO TO HELL a couple of days ago (along with a few other choice words)

Do you think I misinterpreted it??

<img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' />

You must have misinterpreted that. The person meant have a lovely day and God bless you. Lol

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No game    14,437

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You must have misinterpreted that. The person meant have a lovely day and God bless you. Lol

Hehe... I'm sure thats what she meant :P And shuckybucky I remember that horrible post about you that kind of thing pisses me off... It was a horrific way to treat someone.

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shuckybucky    107

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Hehe... I'm sure thats what she meant <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' /> And shuckybucky I remember that horrible post about you that kind of thing pisses me off... It was a horrific way to treat someone.

Just no purpose in that kind of nonsense. I do have the 9 scars to prove it really happened and the massive medical bills... Lol

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shuckybucky    107

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Shuckybucky I remember that thread' date=' it went left so quick my head was spinning like the exorcist. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wacko.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':wacko:' />[/quote']

That seems to happen a lot on this site.

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emme    27

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I can say I my very first post on here was responded by someone very aggressive and mean. She called me a liar about having my surgery and that no dr would do my revision in same surgery as removing my band and that they couldn't have nicked my spleen because it isn't near my stomach (to sum it up). She then started a new thread with the caption I call BS on this and a link to my story. I even posted operative pictures to prove I wasn't telling a lie. I couldn't believe her response to my story and it made my first experience here upsetting but to be fair she did apologize later. Just unnecessary for someone to deal with that while trying to heal and deal with the emotional changes after surgery. I have also had some very kind people since then so just like anything take it for what it's worth and move on.

Wow.. That's horrible! In a case like that I most likely wouldn't hold my tongue

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shuckybucky    107

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Wow.. That's horrible! In a case like that I most likely wouldn't hold my tongue

I responded strongly but not cursing and nonsense. I got an email for engaging in it from the site administrator. A little slap on the hand I guess.

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No game    14,437

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I responded strongly but not cursing and nonsense. I got an email for engaging in it from the site administrator. A little slap on the hand I guess.

Really ?? Say its not so? You did not engage in a way that was out of line!

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shuckybucky    107

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Really ?? Say its not so? You did not engage in a way that was out of line!

It is so. I wasn't happy when I got that message but life goes on. No I didn't say anything out of line but I guess I responded and I shouldn't have. I also used sarcasm :)

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emme    27

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I responded strongly but not cursing and nonsense. I got an email for engaging in it from the site administrator. A little slap on the hand I guess.

It sounds like u handled it well.. All I know is I appreciate reading everyone's experiences , i usually just focus on what will help me or someone else..I'm having my surgery in 2 weeks and it is 100% easier for me thanks to this group..

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emme    27

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Oops I guess that wasn't nice!! <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' />

It's past tense so it doesn't count ????

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