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I was sleeved on 3/5. Healing great. No pain. Doing the routine of trying make myself drink enough fluids and meet the Protein requirement. My issue right now is a feeling of isolation. It feels like people are avoiding including me in activities. I think maybe they feel weird because I can't eat what they are so they just don't include me. I'm also aggravated that every single day I'm being asked, so how much have you lost. Just frustrated. Maybe I'm being too sensitive. Anyone else have people get all weird on them?

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I was sleeved on 3/5. Healing great. No pain. Doing the routine of trying make myself drink enough fluids and meet the Protein requirement. My issue right now is a feeling of isolation. It feels like people are avoiding including me in activities

I'm sorry, that can't feel good at all. May I ask what kinds of people (e.g. Coworkers, classmates, family etc.) and what kind of activities?

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I'm sorry' date=' that can't feel good at all. May I ask what kinds of people (e.g. Coworkers, classmates, family etc.) and what kind of activities?[/quote']

I edited my thread because I wasn't finished typing. LOL. Big thumb on small phone keyboard. Anyway.....family avoiding including me to St. Patrick's day fair and parade and shopping outing another day. Coworkers asking me daily how much I have lost.

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the how much have you lost is getting old. I think I am going to try and answer I don't know I haven't weighed lately. Will find out at my next dr. appt....I think thats my plan.

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Im down 51lbs. And the other day my sister made a stupid comment, i was telling her that i would clean my closet and donate my 16 size jeans and size 18 and her stupid comment was " why don't u keep them just in case " so my response was " I'm not planning on gaining weight it, so why would i keep them ? " it really annoyed me to hear that from her bc she was at the hospital for me and looked after me after surgery :-(

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...and the last few posts is exactly the reason why I am not sharing my decision with anyone, except for my husband, my BFF (who lives out of state & is so very supportive) & another good friend who had a similar surgery. I'm still hoping I won't have to tell my boys. Was thinking on just telling them I'm having hernia surgery or something. I just know there will be people in my extended family who would be chomping at the bit to know this & be ready to gossip or wait for me to fail. Katsnirvana ~ hang in there & just tell those that ask how much you've lost already that it's a personal question.

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I chose not to tell anyone at work because another person at work had the sleeve and I was shocked at all the negative gossip about her. Now that I have lost 50 lbs it is a constant conversation about my weight!!!!! Really ????? When they ask me how much I've lost I say I do not weigh.

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I chose not to tell anyone at work because another person at work had the sleeve and I was shocked at all the negative gossip about her. Now that I have lost 50 lbs it is a constant conversation about my weight!!!!! Really ????? When they ask me how much I've lost I say I do not weigh.

I also choose not to tell anyone at work for this reason and because it's none of their business. Since I never opened the conversation with them they realize that it's not a topic for discussion with me. Will they talk behind my back? Yes...but they were going to anyway. Now I just don't have to be part of it.

Don't get me wrong..I have some good friends at work who would be supportive, but they are outnumbered by gossiping women who are in everyone's business and I don't partake in that b.s.

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well said everyone, keep your heads up and stay positive !!!

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I'm glad to know others chose to keep this private. I told a couple of close family members like my daughter and aunt who have been wonderful. I told two friends after the surgery and they were hurt that I hadn't shared before surgery so they could play "devil's advocate". I told them that was exactly why I didn't because I wanted to be free to make the decision that I felt was right for me without pressure from anyone. Anyway this journey has been fun and interesting with a lot of things to figure out along the way so I am glad I don't have the complication of dealing with a lot of outside opinions.

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I was sleeved on 3/5. Healing great. No pain. Doing the routine of trying make myself drink enough fluids and meet the Protein requirement. My issue right now is a feeling of isolation. It feels like people are avoiding including me in activities. I think maybe they feel weird because I can't eat what they are so they just don't include me. I'm also aggravated that every single day I'm being asked, so how much have you lost. Just frustrated. Maybe I'm being too sensitive. Anyone else have people get all weird on them?

Ignorance is ignorance. no matter the intentions, and it hurts at times... I started asking folks if they wanted to order lunch or go out-just to break the ice. I even had to remind my BF a few times, that I will always find something I can have, and I'll worry about that, just as I always have. I think some folks avoid asking us to participate because they don't want to exclude us, but that is what winds up happening. Granted the first 6 weeks or so we are very restricted, but after that time I have yet to find a place to go that I didn't find a healthy choice on the menu. During the weeks before I advanced my diet, I found things to do at lunch time, just to stay moving. Took a walk, ran to the store. I even walked around the building a few times.

Asking you how much you've lost is rude regardless.

Keep your spirit and don't let anyone get you down! Congratulations on a great start!!

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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