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Sleeved 2/19, down 32lbs. Yesterday, I stood and looked at myself in the mirror and I cried. I cried because I can see the contours of cheek bones. I cried because I have one roll and not two stomach rolls. I cried because I have a range of clothes in my closet from 22-14 and the 18's are almost too big. I didn't even try 16 yet. I cried because I am worth it and to have a boyfriend who doesn't compliment me because he is scared of losing the fat woman has given me confidence.

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Yea!!!!!!!!!!! So happy for you....this is a journey for all of us.

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Sleeved 2/19' date=' down 32lbs. Yesterday, I stood and looked at myself in the mirror and I cried. I cried because I can see the contours of cheek bones. I cried because I have one roll and not two stomach rolls. I cried because I have a range of clothes in my closet from 22-14 and the 18's are almost too big. I didn't even try 16 yet. I cried because I am worth it and to have a boyfriend who doesn't compliment me because he is scared of losing the fat woman has given me confidence.[/quote']

Men are insecure and he's afraid of losing u; they don't understand what we go through; keep your head high and continue your progress and don't let anyone stop u from your goals; congrats to u keep it up

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Congrats on your NSV's! You have done great and there's a ton more to come. It sadens me that your boyfriend is so insecure and scared that he can't compliment you to give you the support you deserve! He's acting like a boy, not a man.....It's time to sit him down and have a talk with him about his nonsupportive behavior....This is the time to let that confident woman out and ask for what you need from him, if he can't give it to you, then maybe it's time to reconsider your future with him bc it will just get worst....... Smile you are so beautiful and deserving of nothing but love from all the people around you..... :)

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Congrats on your NSV's! You have done great and there's a ton more to come. It sadens me that your boyfriend is so insecure and scared that he can't compliment you to give you the support you deserve! He's acting like a boy' date=' not a man.....It's time to sit him down and have a talk with him about his nonsupportive behavior....This is the time to let that confident woman out and ask for what you need from him, if he can't give it to you, then maybe it's time to reconsider your future with him bc it will just get worst....... Smile you are so beautiful and deserving of nothing but love from all the people around you..... :) [/quote']

Thank you so much Ms. Skinniness. He just informed me that he is moving out. Guess I am not enough (overweight) woman for him. HA!

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buffythefatslayer you need a reframe. LOL You are too much of a woman for him! At least this keeps you from kicking him to the curb! Isn't life interesting but painful at time.....But please remind yourself the best is yet to come, it does get better in all ways... :)

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When one door closes another opens; keep that in mind, now that he is gone the guys are gonna be lining up for u

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He'll be back... and it will be too later for him... he's too insecure and he can't stand the fact that your confidence is shooting up. You'll be okay!!! Its time to bring out the freakum dress and go dancing!!!

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It look as if you're finding you and in the process losing him. Now I bet you know your own worth and you don't seek his approval! Sometimes change shows us who's with us and who's against us. True love is able to accept change especially when it's a change for the better! I'm sure there were signs of brokenness well before your transformation. Better days and things are ahead!

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