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I went with hiatal hernia. I was diagnosed with one during my EGD but more importantly, hernia repair includes soft foods right after surgery as part of the recovery.

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I am very fortunate to work in a very understanding and supportive workplace. Most know my struggle with my weight and unexpected health complications (Pseudotumor Cerebri). I have openly discussed my upcoming surgery. Not all agree, but are very supporting my decision (while thinking I'm crazy I'm sure, lol). I have to eat with these people every day and in the upcoming months, I'm going to need all the support I can get. I feel so lucky to work with such amazing people. :)

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I didn't mind my co workers knowing. Maybe because I'm s nurse and I feel close to most of them, but I also knew I needed their support when I'm at work. I am lucky that all of my coworkers have been positive and supportive. But this is a journey for me so I figured being upfront was best. It is a personal decision for everyone:)

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At first I didn't want my coworkers to know because the majority of them r overweight, and I've noticed the ones that r overweight did not support me and just judged me more than others. But I did tell them eventually and it seems as though I've inspired some to be healthy, and one of them that actually joined a gym lol

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I told everyone. For me, it was liberating. I've already dealt with people saying they don't support the decision, etc., but that is nothing compared to the overwhelming support people have shown for me. It's almost made me cry a couple times, how nice people have been.

And anybody who speaks out against it will have to deal with the fact that they are powerless to change me. I know I'm making the right decision, and I make my decisions for me, not anybody else.

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I told some people. Found it easier to tell people I wasn't close to than close friends. Mostly I told others hat I had a hietal hernia repaired and bc of that have to watch what I eat hence the weight loss. I had tell my HR person and the company owner and I think she told some people but not much I can do about that at this point. Told hubby under penalty of death that he couldn't let his family know bc they like to amuse themselves making fun of people.

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I told everyone. For me' date=' it was liberating. I've already dealt with people saying they don't support the decision, etc., but that is nothing compared to the overwhelming support people have shown for me. It's almost made me cry a couple times, how nice people have been.

And anybody who speaks out against it will have to deal with the fact that they are powerless to change me. I know I'm making the right decision, and I make my decisions for me, not anybody else.[/quote']

I agree, I don't go out and yell it off the rooftop, but anyone that has asked, or notice I have told the truth. I have been amazed at the outpouring of support coming from my family,friends and coworkers. I think sometimes we don't give credit to people around us. If they talk about me..I don't care (because I'll be skinnier than them soon..neener neener) :)

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I tried not sharing with others at work. I feel that my health is my business. I lost over 100 pounds in a little less than 9 months. This is so rapid that people started asking me point blank if I had surgery. I HATE lying, so boy did it irk me when this happened. I don't say to people, "wow, it looks like uve put on quite a bit of weight. Have u been eating more?,". The other one I get is the, "r u okay. U have lost so much weight. R u having health issues?" I would never in a million years say this to people. It's like saying, "oh, is ur thyroid acting up. U r looking overweight. U just keep gaining." Grrr. As u can tell it frustrates the heck out of me. People lack boundaries. My point is this- I wish u the best of luck in keeping it to urself if that's what u choose, but be prepared for the noseys!

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I agree' date=' I don't go out and yell it off the rooftop, but anyone that has asked, or notice I have told the truth. I have been amazed at the outpouring of support coming from my family,friends and coworkers. I think sometimes we don't give credit to people around us. If they talk about me..I don't care (because I'll be skinnier than them soon..neener neener) <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />[/quote']

Haha! Love it. Yeah, that was my strategy. If people ask, they're gonna find out. :)

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I tried not sharing with others at work. I feel that my health is my business. I lost over 100 pounds in a little less than 9 months. This is so rapid that people started asking me point blank if I had surgery. I HATE lying' date=' so boy did it irk me when this happened. I don't say to people, "wow, it looks like uve put on quite a bit of weight. Have u been eating more?,". The other one I get is the, "r u okay. U have lost so much weight. R u having health issues?" I would never in a million years say this to people. It's like saying, "oh, is ur thyroid acting up. U r looking overweight. U just keep gaining." Grrr. As u can tell it frustrates the heck out of me. People lack boundaries. My point is this- I wish u the best of luck in keeping it to urself if that's what u choose, but be prepared for the noseys!

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Isn't it do strange the questions that people feel justified in asking? Sometimes I feel like going, "You're asking some really personal questions. I'm worried about you, hon. Do you have an anti-social personality disorder?"

-__- <-- the face I want to make.

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