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Hello everyone - I am 188 lbs, 33 BMi, and scheduled for surgery on 12/26/12...

Sometimes I feel like I am crazy - other times I am able to rationalize this move - and then I flip flop several times throughout the day.

I've tried everything... and yes during all of those crazy attempts I have lost weight. NOTHING ever stayed off once my attempt was over... be it injections, pills, WW, etc. It's been a roller coaster - and it makes me sad.

I am looking for honest feedback and input - I understand that my weight is not comparable to others, but please understand that my feelings are... and my self talk is probably the same as the rest of you. We all have our own demons.

Thoughts, input, caution, encouragment... all welcome.

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Ok, insecurebuthopeful- I also was a low BMI (32), my weight was 177. I did have comorbidities: high blood pressure, high cholesterol, pre diabetes, etc. as you, I tried dieting, weight loss pills, exercising & would lose weight & gain it back....over & over again. I chose to have WLS to give me a happier, healthier life & to ribose me with a tool that I could use for a lifetime. I am now 3 mos post op, down 45 pounds, 3 pant sizes, 2 shirt sizes & I feel better than I have in years. So, to those that chose to pass judgement, until you've walked into others shoes, we all wish to be healthier & happier. Best of luck to you & I've got your back ;)

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If you have health reasons then you go girl good luck do you have to go to Mexico because of low BIM

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I say do what u have to do to take care of u!

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I'm not going to Mexico - that would freak me out... I am a self pay patient - my husband and I used our CU to finance the surgery.

I also do not have any health issues. I guess that's one of the scary parts - I wonder if I will develop issues post op different than those that are due to being overweight, etc. Although I am not diabetic or have high blood pressure I do realize that at the weight I am today - I am very inactive, always tired, have depressive tendencies, etc.

Unlike most patients I do worry about things such as getting too small. My RD, explained that if I was to reach goal and not want to lose anymore that my diet regimen should change to include more calorie dense foods - thus stabilizing the weight. That was comforting, but being a skeptic - I also wonder if they are just telling me what I want to hear? #conflicted

Like I said, I teeter totter - I dont see anything else working long term, nor do I see myself having the ability to go it alone.. It's been a life long battle. And to me it's sad because what I find is that if you are somewhere in the middle of "normal" and "obese" there is little to no help - becuase people assume that you are just lazy and could lose the weight on your own. Last year I spent 6 months training with a personal trainer 6 days a week... only to get down to 179. I was strong no doubt but I was still big. (And not like bulging muscles big) just big...

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I say go for it! You know your body better than anyone. We are doing more harm to our bodies by the yo yo dieting than anything. The sleeve is a tool to help us change our life! if you needed a pace maker to make your heart beat normal would you question it? I think of the sleeve as my life saving tool!

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I am 5'2" and 179. Surgery is scheduled with dr. Alvarez on 1/18/13. I am a serial yo yo dieter, but I am more up than down. My highest weight was just a few months ago at 205. My bmi was 37.5. I rarely am at the same weight for a month. I am either gaining or losing. I am very worried about maintenance! I have battled this for 20+ years. Enough is enough!

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My BMI was 31 (no co mordidities) and I had the same doubts as you. What made my mind up for me was two things. First, I just didn't want to spend the next 30 years of my life battling my weight. I have done it for 25 years and I am tired already. Finally, I had a second daughter and realized if I didn't get my eating habits and food choices under control my girls would learn everything from me just like I did from my obese mother. I wanted to do everything I could to help them avoid being a chubby teenager. So I am starting by being the best example I can be. This is your choice and only you can decide if its worth it. Good luck

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My answer isn't going to be the popular one.....I personally would not have the surgery. Recently there have been people with horrific outcomes. Probably because the surgery is becoming more popular, so stats go higher. There is no guarantee that everything will go ok, there just isn't.

I needed to lose 100 pounds and had severe health issues. The weight was making my health worse and it was a Catch-22. I was ok with knowing that things could go wrong because my life sucked pre-surgery.

But please know that I don't walk in your shoes. Nobody does but you. It could be life changing for you, and if you decide to have the surgery, then I hope it is. Just make sure you weigh all the pros and cons beforehand.

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I'm with the majority... and pro WLS. Good luck!

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Thx SleeveMaster - I appreciate your candor and honesty. I will keep everyone posted. As of right now - I am done with preop testing and scheduled for Surgery 12/26. Its not a matter of if... it's a matter of hearing others experiences and knowing I am not alone. Again, I respect everyone's opinions and appreciate the mutual honesty. :)

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This is life changing you will not eat the same again it's hard, I am for weeks out and glad I did it. But I had 100 pounds to lose. Put a lot of thought into it because now that's its done, my free choice has been taken away. I say that because some days I'm nauseous all day somedays I wish I could eat with family or friends. In my head I'm still hungry but the minute I start eating something it is so uncomfortable. It's no fun at all. It was the best move for me but I know that I need to work on my longing for food. This is not an easy route don't let anyone make you believe it is.. I'm not trying to talk you out of it. Just make sure you really want to make these drastic changes.

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I was very worried too because I have a bmi of 35 and weigh 200.. My surgery date is Jan 5 th

Go for it :)

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