When I lived in HI, I had a neighbor who weighed approximately 280 pounds, judging by her appearance. I had not seen her in maybe 4/5 months, but when I did....boy did she look good! She had shredded her fat cocoon and was now rocking a much smaller body..probably size 12/14. Now me, being the lifetime dieter that I am, just had to know what diet she was on that caused her to lose so much weight so fast. Now I was pretty ignorant when it came to the wls, so this was not the first thing that had come to mind. So after complimenting her weight loss and engaging in some petty conversation, I asked her what did she do to get her weight off. Her response....wait for it....wait for it...wait for it...her response was Water AEROBICS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the heck? Was all I was thinking after she responded with that. Did she really believe that I would believe what she had just told me?

Why lie about having weight loss surgery, especially to someone that is going through the same struggle that you once went through? We should not be ashamed to announce to those who want to attain a better health the tools that we have used to achieve that.

Have any of you lied to someone about having surgery, if so, why? I understand that it is your personal decision to share whatever information with whomever you wish.

For the record just in case anyone out there is listening still... or cares.....

We all have different ideas on how will handle people asking questions after we lose the weight.

And everyone is right in what they chose to do.

I am not one one "side" or the other. In fact for me it just really depends on the day, the situation or how I feel (safe, chatty,shy) as to whether I talk about "it" or not.

The problem I see here is basic really, people say things like "this is the way I do it and I feel my way is best and there must be some problem with those people doing it the other way"

It's all about tact when stating your opinion..

Write what you feel but leave out the part about other people being this way or that way, because rest assured your going to offend someone. Then they are going to say something and then you will most likely be offended too.

Does this make sense?

Laura

I never lie. Most people say why would you need to do that. I just say because I did. I wear my choices like a badge of honor. Why be embarrassed. Or ashamed. I live when people say I'm taking the easy way out. I look at them and say if you think surgery and a risk of complications is easy, your real ignorant. When people ask why I was out if work for four days I tell them my stomach and I didn't see eye to eye so u got rid if it.

And here we see bitchy at its peak

That's cause everyone's hungry lol heavier ppl are must happier cause there full

Ugh! This used to be a somewhat constructive thread! #ridiculousness

I never lie. Most people say why would you need to do that. I just say because I did. I wear my choices like a badge of honor. Why be embarrassed. Or ashamed. I live when people say I'm taking the easy way out. I look at them and say if you think surgery and a risk of complications is easy, your real ignorant. When people ask why I was out if work for four days I tell them my stomach and I didn't see eye to eye so u got rid if it.

This is why some of us disagree. We are not embarrassed, ashamed, liars, vain, or bitchy.. Yet, because we make the choice to keep our business private we are called names? We don't say anything wrong on here, other than try to make others understand our feelings about being private... Sheesh!

Wow. I wasn't trying to offend anyone or hate on those that keep it a secret. Lets settle down.

Wow. I wasn't trying to offend anyone or hate on those that keep it a secret. Lets settle down.

I think ppl are making it personal its not about them we are having a general convo they should take things so serious

It's okay if you don't wanna share if you kno your not any of those things that where said get over it .. It was not pacifically for u

This thread has gotten out of control - *unfollow*

I think ppl are making it personal its not about them we are having a general convo they should take things so serious

They shouldn't take it so serious I mean

I was the first one to be embarrassed telling my boss about it. But when I woke up in recovery I was happy and proud of what I chose to do. So I just made the statement that I posted. Never meant to piss anyone off.

Everyone is diff and how we handle situations are diff also. I for one am very open about my wls and eagerly tell others when asked. I did this for me and no one else. Do I get the looks? Do they say its the easy way out behind my back? Why sure, lots do but I dont care. They dont walk in my shoes nor do I in there's. I did this to be healthier and feel better. But there are negative people out there and all they want to do is rain on others parade. Lie? Not something I would chose to do but their are many ways to word things without lying about wls if you didn't want others to know.

Dang, I just spent way more time than I meant to reading this whole thread. I appreciate all the viewpoints (and some of you are a riot!)

I have not been sleeved yet and I realized I have no idea how I will respond to questions. It might depend on my mood that day and it will really depend on who's asking and why.

There are some people I would be tempted to tell that I lost weight 'cuz my doc changed my meds (for real, I've known some folks who lost a bunch of weight that way).

But seriously, I think if things go well, I will be more likely to disclose than if it becomes a struggle. After all the research and dithering I've done to get to this place, I would not want anyone else to take the decision lightly. So we'll just see.

For background, the only two people I know of for sure that had WLS were rather unstable so that was not encouraging. I'm very confident in my decision now in spite of some negative reactions from family members.

Thanks all, and good night!

Hehehe.. I should of told you to break out the popcorn on that one!!

You can't resurrect the thread and then go to sleep! Hehe