When I lived in HI, I had a neighbor who weighed approximately 280 pounds, judging by her appearance. I had not seen her in maybe 4/5 months, but when I did....boy did she look good! She had shredded her fat cocoon and was now rocking a much smaller body..probably size 12/14. Now me, being the lifetime dieter that I am, just had to know what diet she was on that caused her to lose so much weight so fast. Now I was pretty ignorant when it came to the wls, so this was not the first thing that had come to mind. So after complimenting her weight loss and engaging in some petty conversation, I asked her what did she do to get her weight off. Her response....wait for it....wait for it...wait for it...her response was Water AEROBICS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the heck? Was all I was thinking after she responded with that. Did she really believe that I would believe what she had just told me?

Why lie about having weight loss surgery, especially to someone that is going through the same struggle that you once went through? We should not be ashamed to announce to those who want to attain a better health the tools that we have used to achieve that.

Have any of you lied to someone about having surgery, if so, why? I understand that it is your personal decision to share whatever information with whomever you wish.

Balls

Well I guess you can say balls

Oye ... yes. you should fix that. Otherwise, people are going to see that gets through the filter and then we're going to see it everywhere. That is totally f****d up.

Oye ... yes. you should fix that. Otherwise' date=' people are going to see that gets through the filter and then we're going to see it everywhere. That is totally f****d up.[/quote']

Muahahaha it's only me that can do it:p

*hugs NurseGrace hugs*

What I find interesting is they have not responded, yet, after being so heated with you, NurseGrace. I checked their activity and noticed they were on and surfing the forum for quite a while after I posted. As OP and since I quoted a post of theirs, they should have also received an email (default setting, can be changed) their post was quoted and the listing of their content would have reflected a new post to their thread. Hopefully, my post struck a sympathetic nerve and as a mental health professional, reminded them of the oaths they took.

lol I'm kind of glad its calmed down naturally. I hate getting sucked into this crap but I am home too much right now with time on my hands so it's easy to get too invested. I got all worked up when they told me I sounded like google... like.... "I'm sorry I know what I'm talking about....... maybe if I used incorrect terminology and antiquated theory I'd sound more legit!"

It wasn't going anywhere though so I didn't want to quote and respond again and keep it going. Even saying what I was thinking in this post could be taken as a little bit passive-aggressive but I'm just so tired of being called a liar for not spilling my guts.

I don't know if that person is a professional or not (I tend to think not for several reasons but I can't prove anything so I'll let it slide). I just think that claiming all kinds of absolutes about how people should handle private matters is just.... silly.

It's not about share your info who cares if you do are don't just don't lie it's not that serious stay true to yourself

I am true to myself. That's why, I say ... what I want to say .. to whomever I want .. whenever I want!

So, I post a link to this article about twice a year and I think it is due. The article speaks to emails, but text messages and forum posts will also apply as the basic underlying medium is the same.

In my opinion, we just need to assume when we read a message, there is a very good chance we are mis-interpreting it.

I guess if you put an "ed" on the end...' date='[/quote']

Wait a couple days, I am sure Alex will fix the code to censor that too.

Well, I've told a few co-workers, and only three family members so far. Not sure how the rest will play out after surgery. I'll just see...

To all, remain respectful at all times when posting. Please take anything more than the subject at hand via Private Messaging. It would be a shame for us to have to close this thread.

Thanking all in advance. Also: PLEASE read:

http://www.verticalsleevetalk.com/index.php?app=forums&module=extras&section=boardrules

as well as:

http://www.verticalsleevetalk.com/forum-74/announcement-14-please-be-respectful/

Thanks again.

Why keep things secret?

I think some sleevers obviously become vain and bitchy, (and by some of the comments in these threads, it's quite a few) someone they would have avoided when overweight.

I tell anyone who asks, especially overweight people, they need all the help and information they can get, I wish people had shared with me, maybe I would have had this wonderful operation sooner!

Why keep things secret?

I think some sleevers obviously become vain and bitchy' date=' (and by some of the comments in these threads, it's quite a few) someone they would have avoided when overweight.

I tell anyone who asks, especially overweight people, they need all the help and information they can get, I wish people had shared with me, maybe I would have had this wonderful operation sooner![/quote']

Vain and bitchy?

I don't tell people about my surgery and I am nothing close to vain or bitchy.

I don't get it?

Why keep things secret?

I think some sleevers obviously become vain and bitchy' date=' (and by some of the comments in these threads, it's quite a few) someone they would have avoided when overweight.

I tell anyone who asks, especially overweight people, they need all the help and information they can get, I wish people had shared with me, maybe I would have had this wonderful operation sooner![/quote']

What? What? What???

Not sure why you would call people here vain and bitchy??

That doesn't sound very nice does it??