When I lived in HI, I had a neighbor who weighed approximately 280 pounds, judging by her appearance. I had not seen her in maybe 4/5 months, but when I did....boy did she look good! She had shredded her fat cocoon and was now rocking a much smaller body..probably size 12/14. Now me, being the lifetime dieter that I am, just had to know what diet she was on that caused her to lose so much weight so fast. Now I was pretty ignorant when it came to the wls, so this was not the first thing that had come to mind. So after complimenting her weight loss and engaging in some petty conversation, I asked her what did she do to get her weight off. Her response....wait for it....wait for it...wait for it...her response was Water AEROBICS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the heck? Was all I was thinking after she responded with that. Did she really believe that I would believe what she had just told me?

Why lie about having weight loss surgery, especially to someone that is going through the same struggle that you once went through? We should not be ashamed to announce to those who want to attain a better health the tools that we have used to achieve that.

Have any of you lied to someone about having surgery, if so, why? I understand that it is your personal decision to share whatever information with whomever you wish.

Everytime I see a notification for this thread I get anxious, but I can't unfollow.

I must be a sadist.

Looky there! if it isn't the two biggest **** stirrers here!!!!

Hehehe *looks around innocently*

Who me? *looks even more innocent*

Did I mention that I think everyone should have to tell everyone that they ever meet that they've been sleeved?

I think you should also have to stop people in the street to tell them and take out a small ad in your local paper.

*sits back and watches*

Im just going to start wearing a crop top and write on my belly "ask me about these" and have an arrow pointing to my scars

Im just going to start wearing a crop top and write on my belly "ask me about these" and have an arrow pointing to my scars <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

Cracking up with this.

Laura, you can have my tee shirt that says "I lost my stomach in Tijuana, MX"

Laura' date=' you can have my tee shirt that says "I lost my stomach in Tijuana, MX"[/quote']

Bwahhahaha! That's awesome!

Too fun-eee...

Lying= "Did you have weight loss surgery" and you answer "no.

Not lying= "What have you done to lose weight?" and you answer "I exercise, eat protein first and have cut way back on carbs and fat."

If someone is considering weight loss options, They don't have to look. Dry far to get info in surgical options. I'm not sleeved yet, but if someone asks me point blank if I had surgery, my response will be, "Wow, that's a very personal question." Kinda like when waitresses ask me if I had IVF. yes, that has happened more than once. (two mom family with 4 little boys)

I decided early on to just answer honestly when asked. I am not passing out pamphlets on the street, but I do consider myself an advocate. Because I was self pay I also realize not everyone can afford the expense. I was one of the lucky ones who carried weight well, so I don't think people are expecting the " I had surgery" answer when they ask. I think they are expecting to hear WW or that horrible hormone fad diet. I am a teacher so there is always someone on some diet. I do wonder about the whispers behind my back, but what ever. Head held high, it eliminates any extra chins.

Head held high, it eliminates any extra chins.

LOL, cute.

This is such an interesting conversation.

Why lie? What is a lie?

I have generally, with most people immediately in my life (family, close to moderate friends, work collegues) I have been honest with, they all know about the surgery.

If I run into people in the street, ie my mum said something to a lady in a store about me loosing 150 pounds, and she was life how. The surgery was not something i wanted to get into, so I said watching my food and exercise, both true, I worked my butt off, but obviously the sleeve helps with the food.

I have been dating and occasionally some guy will notice the small amount of food i consume and ask about it. I was initially honest about loosing the weight, but then the guys were never to be seen again...so now I just say I eat very little, do the whole 6 small meals a day...also not entirely a lie just not the whole story. When one sticks around long enough I will be honest with them about t he whole thing...

But really everyone is different, I judge who I tell what based on how I am feeling and how well I know the person.

Just my 2c.

This is such an interesting conversation.

Why lie? What is a lie?

I have generally' date=' with most people immediately in my life (family, close to moderate friends, work collegues) I have been honest with, they all know about the surgery.

If I run into people in the street, ie my mum said something to a lady in a store about me loosing 150 pounds, and she was life how. The surgery was not something i wanted to get into, so I said watching my food and exercise, both true, I worked my butt off, but obviously the sleeve helps with the food.

I have been dating and occasionally some guy will notice the small amount of food i consume and ask about it. I was initially honest about loosing the weight, but then the guys were never to be seen again...so now I just say I eat very little, do the whole 6 small meals a day...also not entirely a lie just not the whole story. When one sticks around long enough I will be honest with them about t he whole thing...

But really everyone is different, I judge who I tell what based on how I am feeling and how well I know the person.

Just my 2c.[/quote']

Really? Guys disappear after you tell them "the truth?" How shallow is that. It is unfortunate you have to omit part of who you are.

A lot of people see it negatively. Also, a lot of men don't want a fattie. If you're a fattie once, you can be one again. Kind of damaged goods thinkibg.

Really? Guys disappear after you tell them "the truth?" How shallow is that. It is unfortunate you have to omit part of who you are.

Yep, it has been my experience.

I conceptually get it, but dont understand it. It is one reasons I have become the person I am, that they are/were interested in. I am no different afterwards as i was before I told them but still i am.

One can hope that one day I will find someone I can be honest with.

Missmeow, anyone can become a fattie, whether you have been skinny all your life, or been fighting it your life. Actually I (well we are) am less likely to ever be a fattie again.