When I lived in HI, I had a neighbor who weighed approximately 280 pounds, judging by her appearance. I had not seen her in maybe 4/5 months, but when I did....boy did she look good! She had shredded her fat cocoon and was now rocking a much smaller body..probably size 12/14. Now me, being the lifetime dieter that I am, just had to know what diet she was on that caused her to lose so much weight so fast. Now I was pretty ignorant when it came to the wls, so this was not the first thing that had come to mind. So after complimenting her weight loss and engaging in some petty conversation, I asked her what did she do to get her weight off. Her response....wait for it....wait for it...wait for it...her response was Water AEROBICS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the heck? Was all I was thinking after she responded with that. Did she really believe that I would believe what she had just told me?

Why lie about having weight loss surgery, especially to someone that is going through the same struggle that you once went through? We should not be ashamed to announce to those who want to attain a better health the tools that we have used to achieve that.

Have any of you lied to someone about having surgery, if so, why? I understand that it is your personal decision to share whatever information with whomever you wish.

I wouldn't feel particularly comfortable by skinny people coming to ask me what I've done! I'd simply say that I cut back on portions! (Which is kind of the truth)

But I'd definitely tell someone if I know that they struggle with their weight themselves or know someone close who does...

Well one thing is for sure, everyone thinks their way of thinking is right.

The older I get, the more I realize I don't know much I like to tell my daughter "I sure wish I could be 15 again - then I could know everything, too." Like I said - I live to irritate her

The older I get' date=' the more I realize I don't know much I like to tell my daughter "I sure wish I could be 15 again - then I could know everything, too." Like I said - I live to irritate her[/quote']

Don't you just love teenage daughters!!

My girl is 16! And well, she knows everything too!

My favorite thing is when we get into it and she comes back later and tells me real quiet "mom you were right" Duh!!

Difference being that everyone has sex, not every one gets so fat they need to cut out the large majority of their stomach.

I'm in the married, therefore celibate group

I'm in the married' date=' therefore celibate group [/quote']

You'll be surprise how many ppl has cut there stomach ,,my opinion more ppl are over weight then not but some are happy w that

I am sorry I would disagree with you with your comment about how, " No one uses that term like that anymore." In fact I am sure anyone who is or had studied psychology would disagree with you.

From your postings I made the terrible mistake of assuming that you had been a student of Freud's personality theory and was making a joke to make light of the conversation when I said your "id was running rampant"... because i know mine likes to be dominant ever so often. Meant to be funny, but you didn't understand.

I do love a good debate, but to be dismissive of something and someone that started my field, shows me that I would only be going back and forth with a brick wall... Someone who pretends to be knowledgeable of the subject matter, but is truly ignorant about it.

So I bid you a good night and the best of luck with your future endeavors. Oh, if that's what your you are wanting to do, you could check out some Psych NP programs.

Sorry, I just find this post so funny. From this, I take it you have a background in the mental wellness arena. Assuming this is true, throughout this entire thread you have been pressing the point that not telling the ENTIRE story of a personal, medical decision, you are committing a lie of ommission.

First off, you of all people should know that we all have our own moral compass. You do not live by my morals and I do not live by yours. I'm sure there are many aspects of my life you would find objectionable and I'm sure I would find many aspects of your life just as objectionable. Don't impress your morals on me and I won't impress mine on you.

Deal?

Just to let you know, when discussing the number of kids I have with people, I do NOT let them know I had a vasectomy. I have been asked if my sunglasses were prescription which I replied, "No, they're just regular polarized lenses." I did NOT say I had lasik eye surgery. While playing tennis and I nail my seventh serving ace, I do NOT tell my opponents I had shoulder surgery 5 years ago.

By your morals I am a big lier. Sorry, the entity I have to answer to is OK with that.

I'm just amazed someone in the mental health field would feel so obligated to try to shame people. Not only on one post, but continually throughout the thread. Just respect that you have an opinion on something and they have theirs. Perhaps you should examine your own shortfall that you must press this point ad nauseum?

Why not lie, either straight up or by omission? People shouldn't be asking in the first place. Our bodies do not belong to the public. We are under no obligation to say our personal medical history, especially when we know the fat shaming culture we live .

I plan on repeating back the question until the person gets it that I'm not answering. Ive done out before when on diets. Its no ones business.

"You lost weight, how did you do it?"

"Oh I lost weight"

Preach!

Bows to the mighty pdx one... You're so right!

Along with my WLS I didn't enlighten others of my many other surgeries either. And trust me I have a list, but it's my business. Such a sinning liar I must be!

It's not about share your info who cares if you do are don't just don't lie it's not that serious stay true to yourself

nevermind, I am not a smart woman today.

Hello!

WOOPS. Thats what I get for staying up for 24 hours. Apologies.

You do not read well do you? I have been screaming from the rooftops that its no one's business. The only reason I was on this thread in the first place is because it rubbed me the wrong way that I felt I was being belittled because I DO NOT tell people.

You are either confusing me with someone else' date=' or deliberately misrepresenting everything I say. I would like to think you aren't manipulative so I am just going to have a chuckle and suggest you sit down and re-read a bit.[/quote']

He didnt mean you!!!

WOOPS. Thats what I get for staying up for 24 hours. Apologies.

Oops u already say.