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My surgery is tommorow and I have knots in my stomach..and almost in tears..i was fine until about an hour ago...i could cry if I allowed myself..any advice from those who went theough this already..this forum really helps me when I hear positivity..im so anxiuos..feeling like I forgot something..and how everything will go..reality just sank in....like a brick!!..help..and advice is welcome..success stories..anything...

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hey there. I had my surgery yesterday. I was so nervous too. I'm writing this from my hospital bed! look on some of the boards here. you'll see i posted about my fear everyday. this wast my first surgery. I was nervous over nothing. The waiting is the hardest part. You go in, they give you a sedative, the next thing you know you wake up in recovery. I am a little sore today, I don't want to lie. it's not pain, just a soreness. I had my surgery at 230 yesterday and I'm already feeling better. you will do great. Remember, this surgery is statistically safer than having your gallbladder out!

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Congrats George Im so happy for you.

He is right, the anticipation and anxiety is pretty much worse than the surgery.

Stacie

(welcome to the club, George!)

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Don't be so nervous, you will do great! I was sleeved 4 1/2 months ago and I'm already down 90 lbs! It really works!

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Thanks...im ready to do this..head high..and eye on the prize..uuugh

I am tempted to pull up all of the posts where you've said why you are doing this my dear :) You know what you want to accomplish and you know you can do it! Healthy fear isn't a bad thing...I think you'd have to be nuts to be going into any surgery without some nerves....so acknowledge them as fears that are real, but fears you know you've conquered in order to move forward with this big step in your life. Why are you doing this?????? Tell yourself why every time you get overly worried :)

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Some people have written themselves letters to read when their nervous. The letter reminds them why they are doing this. Sounds like an awesome idea :)

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I am tempted to pull up all of the posts where you've said why you are doing this my dear :) You know what you want to accomplish and you know you can do it! Healthy fear isn't a bad thing...I think you'd have to be nuts to be going into any surgery without some nerves....so acknowledge them as fears that are real' date=' but fears you know you've conquered in order to move forward with this big step in your life. Why are you doing this?????? Tell yourself why every time you get overly worried :)[/quote']

Hahaha..im sure there is alot..thanks everyone...and thank you previous poster for postjng from hospital bed!

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I also had my surgery yesterday. I was nervous the day before. I was released at 1 pm stopped at Wal-Mart on the way home. Of all three operations I've had in the past, this was by far has been the easiest. I've not had any pain medicine. The other I needed the meds.

You wii be fine. Good luck

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I felt that way this morning when I woke up. I had surgery today at 10:30. I am sorry you feel that way. I feel great now. Not looking forward to tomorrow I heard that day 2 and 3 are tough.

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Congrats George Im so happy for you.

He is right' date=' the anticipation and anxiety is pretty much worse than the surgery.

Stacie

(welcome to the club, George!)[/quote']

Thanks Stacy :-)

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You will be just fine. I was a tad bit worried when they were rolling me into the operating room but by the time I got in there I didn't have time to worry because THEY KNOCKED ME RIGHT OUT!! You will wake up and not remember anything. You will have NO complications I am claiming it so it is done! Hey, we'll meet you over on the losing side ; )

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I made it back home okay after surgery today..no complicarions just alot of painful gas in my chest . It has gone away now but comes back once in a while. I thknk its still gas. And it does it when I drink tok..my chest tightens and a gurgle comes up..and then its gone..is this.normal?

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tok...???? normally I can read typoisese but this one threw me...Tea?

My general answer would be don't drink tok, but that might not help LOL

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I was sleeved 9/21. No regrets and will do it again. 7 weeks today and 34 down. It's so easy. I don't even miss food.When I try to cook something the aroma turns me off. Eating will never be the same but that's the point. The surgery was not painful at all like Jorge said just soreness. I stopped taking all pain meds in 24 hours. I was more so taking them from Nausea but soon realized it gave me more of that then less lol. Congradulations and welcome to the beginning of the rest of your healthy and active life :)

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I hope my experience will be just like yours :)

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I use my phone to type..no.checking for typos..sorry if its hard to read..very tired for that

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