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Hello All,

I need a little encouragement. I have recently decided to postpone my surgery due to some pretty serious personal problems (separating from my husband and relocating with my lil one). I was planning to have the operation in December during the holidays because that's when I would have the time off from work, and I was 6lbs within reach of my pre-surgery weight. Well, it looks like the next time I'll be able to take 4 weeks off (My doctor recommends taking off a month) will be end of June.

Since making all these decisions I've been really down and eating like crazy!! June is so far away! I'm an emotional eater and I'm trying not to be. But honestly, with the major transitions in my personal life I'm struggling and I've been eating everything under the sun! I'm scared I'm on a downward spiral to completely diving in to a bucket of ice cream and fried chicken!

Any encouragement you can offer would be nice and is very welcome! Thx community!

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You are in a rough spot. The best thing I can think of is that June will come. You are postponing because it is the right thing to do. Doing the right thing ALWAYS leads to good results. I can understand why you would want to binge to squash those pesky feelings; never having overcome that myself, I can't say how to.

Just try to focus on the positive elements of the changes you are making. You've made it this far -- 6 lbs within pre-surgery goal weight!! That's so fantastic. You can hang on a little longer.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. This route we've chosen has its negatives; that's for sure. But the positive outcome -- permanent weight loss, better health, more active lifestyles -- WILL come if we keep on keeping on!

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Hey Natty I feel your pain girl. 5 years married and we are now separated. I also have a 2 year old but lots of family and friends to help post op. I want u to think of this separation as a positive thing. Everything happens for a reason. Its time fir a re-birth and a new you :) although my hub is coming to help post op I know hhe has alit if growing up to do.

I'm not encouraging the over eating but when it happens try walking or even the gym for 30 minutes. This will help Maintain ur weight. Prob not the best practice but if u can't control ur eating it will make u feel better to know u burning it off.

My surgeon says 3weeks off work. Do u have fmla?? Feel free to add me and sending blessings and guidance your way :)

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