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Getting your stomach ripped out won't kill you, it will make you a badass!

Now that's pretty badass. Love it...rock on.

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Thanks guys...I am listening to ALL of you :D At 4:45pm I called my doc's office back and admitted to them I am scared and my fear was the reason I canceled. IDK if this is a "sign" of any kind BUT the receptionist totally understood and said that my appointment time was still available if I wanted to re-book it.....so I did. Tomorrow at 9am I will be going in to talk with the surgeon about all of this and letting her know all of my fears. The last surgery I had was just this past April, I had to have my ankle re-fused because it didn't heal right the first time. When I woke up in recovery my heart started to race on me and my nurse kinda scared me with the panic I could hear in her voice (she was yelling to the others "This one is going tachy! Mine is going tachy on me!" I kept asking her who was going tachy, if it was me? Finally she told me "Yes, you." so I bared down and took a deep breath, holding it for a few seconds and released it and my heart rate came back down to normal before she ever had the chance to get me any sort of meds. Not sure if that was just like that I came back to normal on my own or what but it freaked me out pretty good. Later I asked the doc about it and he said no one had mentioned it to him but that maybe I was just having a slight reaction to one of the anesthesia drugs? He wasn't completely sure what could have caused it....but this was orthopedics not GI).

Hey there Nicci...I'm afraid too....I just pray and give it over to God to handle. If you do some research you will see other information that tells much different than that 1 in 400. Also there are considerations to take in as well......so many variables to calculate..... Did this person have a lap band ,were they a smoker, male ,was it open surgery and so on.... Each doctor has his or her own statistics..ask your doctor about theirs...Keep yourself informed about what to watch for if there is leak.....demand attention if not given and so forth.....This is a great place to find out what its like . We have tons of people with all sorts of scenarios that can help you on you day.....I read posts every night....I'm taking notes on what to expect or worry about. Ask if you can have something to relieve the anxiety. Don't be afraid . This is your opportunity to ask questions ! I'm praying for you !

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hi. i just wanna jump in here if i can im so scared to even get started w any of it no fear of surgery pain or any of that my fear is being told no ur not eliable it would crush me i been heavy all my life been picked on treated bad ect. but i think im on the lower end w bmi n weight but am not diebetic but considered a pre diebetic im juat so affraid to here no...

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Quite frankly, it's a blanket statement to assume that since she's overweight she will eventually run into health problems.

I wasn't only healthy, I was fit before the surgery and still am. I think that's the key...fitness. I was/am an athlete so even at my heaviest, I could do stuff most thin people can't.

I have an 85 year old grandfather with Type II (since he was 30) who has never had a weight problem and will sit dead in your face and eat a bag of chips Ahoy but every morning he is running for an hour and manages to keep his diabetes under control.

I'm just saying....telling someone who's 20-ish that 40 years from now she may get sick....not necessarily convincing.

Everybody is not and will not become a statistic.

There's a guy on YT who is 600+ pounds with zero co-morbidities according to his caseworker. Luck of the draw.

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hi. i just wanna jump in here if i can im so scared to even get started w any of it no fear of surgery pain or any of that my fear is being told no ur not eliable it would crush me i been heavy all my life been picked on treated bad ect. but i think im on the lower end w bmi n weight but am not diebetic but considered a pre diebetic im juat so affraid to here no...

Look it up online they have bmi charts everywhere...then ask you insurance co. So what if they say no...If you ask you have a chance....without asking you guarantee that answer of NO.

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Quite frankly' date=' it's a blanket statement to assume that since she's overweight she will eventually run into health problems.

I wasn't only healthy, I was fit before the surgery and still am. I think that's the key...fitness. I was/am an athlete so even at my heaviest, I could do stuff most thin people can't.

I have an 85 year old grandfather with Type II (since he was 30) who has never had a weight problem and will sit dead in your face and eat a bag of chips Ahoy but every morning he is running for an hour and manages to keep his diabetes under control.

I'm just saying....telling someone who's 20-ish that 40 years from now she may get sick....not necessarily convincing.

Everybody is not and will not become a statistic.

There's a guy on YT who is 600+ pounds with zero co-morbidities according to his caseworker. Luck of the draw.[/quote']

I think that you and the 600 pound man are exceptions to the rule. The vast majority of morbidly obese individuals will experience some sort of degradation in health as a result of their weight. We didn't get fat making healthy choices and those choices will catch up to you eventually.

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OP, it took me three years to finally make this decision. Everyone has their own timetable and you'll reach the decision that's right for you.

Congrats on facing your fear and re-booking your appointment! You rock!

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Well I may have to retract that last statement I made....I believe I just found a varicose vein in my foot that I had surgery on in April....I felt a burning sensation as I was walking down stairs so I sat on my bed and removed my sock and I have a HUGE vein running across the instep of my foot. I guess that's something I will have to address tomorrow with the surgeon. Can, in fact, people with varicose veins safely have surgery? Clots terrify me (no I have never had one but I truly do know how deadly they can be, I have taken care of many patients whom were stepping down from the ICU once their clot(s) resolved. For those of you that don't know, I'm a CNA whom is ever so slowly making my way through my BSN.).

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Nicci going tacky is a tachocardia, I had had this all my life and it is caused by a short in the electrical current around the heart it is not life threatning the heart rate will increase and the short causes the current to loop. While you were baring down and holding your breath it puts pressure on the heart and cause a break in the loop cause the heart to regulate. Anastesia does act as an atagonistic to the current. I know this because I finally had corrective surgery last year.

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Sorry I hit enter to soon. Do not let that scare you. Just make sure the anestesiologist and your surgeon are aware that it may happen so they are prepared as there is a shot they can give you immediately to correct it if it does happen during surgery

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Do not be afraid we are all in this together. I go in for surgery on Friday and I know that God is with me so I will not be discouraged.

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I think that you and the 600 pound man are exceptions to the rule. The vast majority of morbidly obese individuals will experience some sort of degradation in health as a result of their weight. We didn't get fat making healthy choices and those choices will catch up to you eventually.

Again. Everyone is not a statistic. I get what "majority" means and it doesn't mean "ALL."

Again. Luck of the draw. So I guess I need to book a flight to Vegas.

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Well I may have to retract that last statement I made....I believe I just found a varicose vein in my foot that I had surgery on in April....I felt a burning sensation as I was walking down stairs so I sat on my bed and removed my sock and I have a HUGE vein running across the instep of my foot. I guess that's something I will have to address tomorrow with the surgeon. Can, in fact, people with varicose veins safely have surgery? Clots terrify me (no I have never had one but I truly do know how deadly they can be, I have taken care of many patients whom were stepping down from the ICU once their clot(s) resolved. For those of you that don't know, I'm a CNA whom is ever so slowly making my way through my BSN.).

Are you prone to clotting? Is your varicose vein due to weight? My mom has had varicose veins since high school. She wasn't fat. She had me at 24. I don't see why a varicose vein would be a problem though. Do you realize how many people have varicose veins and have surgery.

Mostly, after surgery they make you walk to help avoid clots so if you decide to have the surgery, I don't think you'll have a problem.

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Honestly no' date=' I have been big my whole life and don't have diabetes or high cholesterol or high bp or anything life threatening like that, Aside from my weight I'm in excellent health.[/quote']

Not following your logic here... If you are in excellent health why are you considering the surgery?

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You go' date=' girl! It sounds like it's at least worth going in and asking questions. Hey, the worst that could come of it is that you decide the surgery is not for you, and you don't go back. But yet even if it goes that way, it's still not really 'bad' because you'll have made a more informed decision. In any event, you'll be so much more aware of your options; be educated about the procedure, and have any doubts/concerns addressed by the doctor. Good luck, and go with your gut! No pun intended :P[/quote']

That's awsome good for u

Marie

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