about 30hours until banding and emotions are all over the place....

[shell04937 0]

I will join the world of banding in just about 30hrs. I am so excited and ready to begin the new journy. But....

I have 2 little girls who I think are amazing and beautifull and are the loves of my life.

My girls are so much like me it worries me. My girls were both 9 lbs at birth and have always been on in the 100% for height and weight. Well my oldest is very over weight and always has been big. Her height and weight have always increased together. She has a very hard time dealing with her weight and often breaks down into tears because of kids saying mean things. She is beautifull really, She has nice wavey hair, big hazel eye's and rosey red cheeks and red full lips. She says she is ugly because is in her words "FAT" I tell her she is beautifull al the time. I always tell her that we can try our hardest to eat healthy and excersise but sometimes we have no control over our size. I told her what is important is how we feel about ourself and that we are healthy. Well she and I are not very healthy. She has had asthma since she was a baby. She has had her adnoids and tonsiles out and tubes put in her ears. She is 9yrs old and weight 140lbs and is just over 5 feet tall. She is starting a 2 1/2 hour dance class this week so I am hoping it helps.

My youngest is 5 and just this summer started to get chuncky in her belly and hips. She has always been closer to average on weight but tall for her age. She has not started worrying about her weight yet because it has not been an issue with other kids.

My concern is that my girls will not belive me when I say it is ok to be big. Not that I want them to be but I dont want them growning up thinking they are not ok because they are big. You can be big and beautifull. I went went thru a phase growning up where I cried all the time because of the teasing from Kids at school. But when I turned 30 I excepted my body. I decided that as long as I was doing the best I can do then that would be ok as long as I was healthy.

Well now I have a list of health problems a mile long and need this. I am having my surgery Friday morning. I am so happy yet a little part of me wonders how my girls will feel. Will they belive me when I tell them that their size is just a small part of who they are. THat they are such wonderful beautifull women. Will they look at me and think that I truly dont feel that way because I am having surgery to loose weight?

WHen my girls turn 18 if they are over weight and are unable to slim down no matter how hard they try, I will pay out of pocket for them to have this surgery if insurance wont pay for it. I dont want them to have to wait until they are 32 with as many healthy problems as I have before they are allowed to have the surgery.

How do all of you with over weight kids handle it? Has having the procedure done helped your family with their weight also or has it not made any difference? Do you think that it teaches my kids that being fat is not ok? What do you all think?

[MsButterKup23 1]

It's an emotional rollercoster. My hubby and I have both had this surgery. We both have been obese all our lives and didn't want our daughter to go through this. I send her food to daycare, I try to give her healthier choice such as fruit instead of Cookies and she eats just about every veggie there is.

Personally I think you should focus on health instead of weight loss. I had this surgery to prevent diabetes and to try to get healthier, the weight loss was a "side effect" if you will. Make it a family goal to get healthy.

Take care and keep us posted.

[shell04937 0]

Thanks. I have told my girls that the only reason I am doing this is because of my Diabetes and back pain. I tell them that hopefully mommy will be able to do more with them once I feel better.

My husband had a weight issue thru his schooling years but once he was out of school was able to get the weight off with diet and alot of exercise. He is now 6 feet tall and 170 ish pounds. My oldest knows I have been big since I was about 7 yrs old and I think she thinks she is just going to be like me and be big all her life. I tell her that maybe she has her dads genes because he was big from the time he was a baby until graduation and now is able to keep his weight off with excersising 3-4 days a week. Also my brother was big until he was about 12 so I tell her maybe she will be like him. I also always tell her that it does not matter what the scale says it matters who your feeling physically and hope that will help her to feel good emotionally. We are doing the 2 1/2 hr dance class so that she feels she is doing something positive about her weight.

Anyways thanks for taking the time to reply.... :}

[LadyK 0]

I will join the world of banding in just about 30hrs. I am so excited and ready to begin the new journy. But....

I have 2 little girls who I think are amazing and beautifull and are the loves of my life.

My girls are so much like me it worries me. My girls were both 9 lbs at birth and have always been on in the 100% for height and weight. Well my oldest is very over weight and always has been big. Her height and weight have always increased together. She has a very hard time dealing with her weight and often breaks down into tears because of kids saying mean things. She is beautifull really, She has nice wavey hair, big hazel eye's and rosey red cheeks and red full lips. She says she is ugly because is in her words "FAT" I tell her she is beautifull al the time. I always tell her that we can try our hardest to eat healthy and excersise but sometimes we have no control over our size. I told her what is important is how we feel about ourself and that we are healthy. Well she and I are not very healthy. She has had asthma since she was a baby. She has had her adnoids and tonsiles out and tubes put in her ears. She is 9yrs old and weight 140lbs and is just over 5 feet tall. She is starting a 2 1/2 hour dance class this week so I am hoping it helps.

My youngest is 5 and just this summer started to get chuncky in her belly and hips. She has always been closer to average on weight but tall for her age. She has not started worrying about her weight yet because it has not been an issue with other kids.

My concern is that my girls will not belive me when I say it is ok to be big. Not that I want them to be but I dont want them growning up thinking they are not ok because they are big. You can be big and beautifull. I went went thru a phase growning up where I cried all the time because of the teasing from Kids at school. But when I turned 30 I excepted my body. I decided that as long as I was doing the best I can do then that would be ok as long as I was healthy.

Well now I have a list of health problems a mile long and need this. I am having my surgery Friday morning. I am so happy yet a little part of me wonders how my girls will feel. Will they belive me when I tell them that their size is just a small part of who they are. THat they are such wonderful beautifull women. Will they look at me and think that I truly dont feel that way because I am having surgery to loose weight?

WHen my girls turn 18 if they are over weight and are unable to slim down no matter how hard they try, I will pay out of pocket for them to have this surgery if insurance wont pay for it. I dont want them to have to wait until they are 32 with as many healthy problems as I have before they are allowed to have the surgery.

How do all of you with over weight kids handle it? Has having the procedure done helped your family with their weight also or has it not made any difference? Do you think that it teaches my kids that being fat is not ok? What do you all think?

What this will teach your children, is that mommy is taking getting healthy seriously. None of my children are overweight, they do not eat healthy but they are athletes, so that is their saving grace. The dance class should help alot, just keep them both active and be an example to your children.

Now for you, good luck with your banding tomorrow; everything will go smoothly.

[CCBSTX 0]

Good luck on your journey. It will be one guaranteed! It will be good if your focus continues to be on health and happiness. Your children will be ok, overweight or not! They have a mom, an advocate, on their side. She knows what it's like to be overweight. I can tell that you are focusing on your health and theirs, they will benefit from that! Continue the fun exercise and healthy eating. You are doing the right thing. I can tell how much you care!!

Let us know how it all goes!!

Shawn