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How Would You Respond?

So I posted on FB today that i'm down 50lbs and have gotten a lot of congrats and such. But then I got this text from my cousin.

"hey i'm trying to clear up a rumor ur dad started.. and i dont believe it... did u have surgery to loose the weight?"

How would you respond. I didn't tell very many people, at all. (Mostly just my immediate family). I don't want to take away from all the hard work I put in by people thinking I took "the easy way out". Help.

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    • GeauxForIt
      GeauxForIt

      I always like to answer those questions with a question or some vague 'answer'. "What a weird question." "What difference does that make?" "Our family is nuttier than a fruitcake!" "It's hard wo

    • SunnyCox
      SunnyCox

      I would say, "I lost weight by eating less and exercising." This is the truth. I wouldn't elaborate further. Don't lie but don't be direct. Then, I would have a talk with your dad.

    • COsleeveDude
      COsleeveDude

      My question is: if you don't want questions about how you lost weight, why are you posting about losing weight on Facebook? It is your choice on how to respond, but at that point you basically just

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    Private can also simply be quiet, intimate, and protective.

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    The woman who lost those 50 pounds is a warrior. Big time. Sit quietly and listen to her.

    I don't think of Facebook as private in any sense of the word.

    And OP titled this topic "how would you respond". This is how I would respond. But I won't be told to sit quietly like a child on a chat-site!!!

    Sure keep it secret! Lol! Like people won't snicker it behind your backs, knowing nothing, because you've told them nothing.

    Oh, and yeah- low carb high Protein has REALLY worked for y'all before!

    Thank you mam!

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    I think DeterminedGirl was hoping the OP would listen to her inner voice by saying that. That's how I read it anyway.

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    Oh *blush* if that is true I'm sorry :( I got too riled up... My OH says arguing online is like arguing with a baker when you asked for a dozen and they didn't give you 13... Lol

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    Oh *blush* if that is true I'm sorry :( I got too riled up... My OH says arguing online is like arguing with a baker when you asked for a dozen and they didn't give you 13... Lol

    LOL

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    Whoa. Sorry to have this happen. I just thought that, whatever was said outwardly, there was an inner response that needed to be made as well. I was just trying to speak to that. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

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    Yes! I would tell her "yes I did' date=' and I'm proud of my decision to take control of my health and my life! If you sould like more info I will be glad to give it, otherwise please keep any negative opinion to yourself. I didn't do this for others, I did it for ME!"[/quote']

    Awesome response! The best one so far. Be proud ,WLS is another tool that we are able to use to helpuse. Let them say whatever they want,its your life and only you can live it

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