Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

Just a few months away from "being sleeved"....I know that this is something that I need, but at the same time, I feel that it is a little drastic. I have exhausted so many other options and i just feel helpless and hopeless and the thought that this is someting that might work for me (providing I dedicate myself to doing it right) is so exciting! I wish that I could just take this lightly and act like it doesn't make me a little nervous, but that would be completely untrue! This is a full-on life change! It changes the way you eat, the way you live, the way you look, the way you feel physically, the way you feel about yourself emotionally...and so many other things, not to mention all of the side effects, complications, and restrictions that I have been reading about in my research ...because I am about to be aged out of my parents insuance policy we are on the fast track and I will probably have the procedure done in November or December. I had my first appointment yesterday and I go back to see the dietician two weeks from now, and then the therapist a couple of weeks after that...and then we set the date. This whole whirlwind experience is a bit overwhelming for me... I have great friends and family that are completely supportive and just want me to be healthy and happy but conversly, I have so many friends and family that are hesitant to support me because they don't know what it feels like physically, menatlly, or emotionally to be this overweight and they can't imagine why anyone would turn to a surgical procedure. They view it as being lazy and taking the path of least resistance. *UGH* Im so nervous and overwhelmed! Am I making the right choice? I feel like this is the right thing for me, but then I start thinking about all the possibilities (good and bad) and I just get nervous, confused, and conflicted all over again....HELP!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi there I have not had surgery yet, but I am excited. Be positive you will succeed, you know people do not understand that there is nothing easy way out regarding this process. I think most of the time people have the feelings you have because usually we think of surgery after we have been dignosed with some problem. Well for us we have had a dignosis for a long time and now thank God there is a tool that can finally help us. I think you are very smart to get this procedure done while you can. You know our weight can cause so many many other illnesses. Be encouraged :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey,,I can totally understand your anxiety. My surgery is Monday Sept. 10th. I have been patient and gone thru all the testing required. I have made pros and cons lists. Many. But you know what the truth is.... I really just want to feel better. As Chris54 said...try to be encouraged. I am sooo ready to get this behind me and just feel better.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks yall! I appreciate the positive words. I think that people make assumptions and give opinions based on preconceived notions and hearsay. I haven't been letting a lot if people know about my plans, but part of me thinks that not being open about this kind of thing and not sharing your journey is preventing a lot of people from fully understanding. Thanks again for your kind, encouraging words.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×