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I would normally do this on Facebook, but since I am not sharing my procedure with my facebook world, I thought this might be the best venue. So many people post about not having a support system. I feel that it's time to give thanks for those people in our lives who are supporting us beyond our wildest expectations. I am on the miserable pre-op liquid diet. My husband (who also needs to lose weight, but whose BMI is too low to qualify for surgery), will only eat canned chicken in front of me (breakfast, lunch, and dinner). This canned chicken smells so bad that the cat thinks it's cat food. He has cut out all alcohol, soft drinks, and coffee as well. We are both hungry, but his theory is that if I have to be miserable, then he will be miserable with me. His plan is to eat what I eat and do what I have to do. It will be in bigger portions, of course, and it will not be pureed. However, I don't know how I would do this if I had to cook a separate meal for him or if I had to watch while he ate any of my favorite foods in front of me right now. On top of all of this, I have been PMSing for the past week that I've been on this diet. So, you can imagine how unbelievably horrible I have been to every one around me. No food and PMS = a mean mean girl! To all of you who are not blessed to have such wonderful support, I feel for you. Find true friends and I hope you find comfort on this site. To all of us who have support, let's not let them ever forget how much we appreciate them.

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That is wonderful! Kudos to all the fabulous hubbies and other super supportive family members. I have a rocking hubby like that too! He is so supportive of all my decisions and everything I do. He has loved me through thick (currently) and thin (someday post-op).

3 cheers for the hubbys! HIP HIP HIP HOORAY!!! :)

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Your husband sounds wonderful and extremely supportive! He will likely benefit from all of this too by losing some weight during your pre-op too! I am very lucky to have some very supportive people in my life. One of my friends did the pre-op diet with me. She didn't need to lose any weight, but she just wanted to make me feel like I wasn't alone. She texted me everyday the picture of her morning Protein Shake. She was a great cheerleader. My mom and dad helped me spring clean the house before surgery because I didn't want to be laid up at home noticing dust bunnies etc. They stayed at the hospital with me during surgery and after. They helped with the kids, helped take care of my disabled husband, made meals, and kept things tidy around the house. When I wasn't allowed to lift more than 10 lbs. my son did any heavy lifting for me, including packing and unpacking the car daily on a trip (without too much complaint) My husband and kids have been great and are enjoying the healthier meals we are preparing. Also, I have a friend that had bypass four years ago. She stopped by the hospital to see me and gave me a Magic Bullet blender for making my smoothies and purreed foods. She called me several times pre-op and post op to check in on me and answer questions. One of my friends made my family a meal (nice not to have to cook when I could not eat it!) when I got home from the hospital. I am sure I have forgotten to mention others, but I was overwhelmed by the support and I do appreciate every one of them. I am truely blessed to have such wonderful family and friends.

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My support system people are my husband, who is wonderful, and my mother. I couldn't get through this change in my life without them.

Kudos to your husband!!!

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My hubs is my rock. He has gone through Medifast, Nutrisystem, Low - Carb, Low-Fat, walking at 5 am outside, Walk Away the Pounds Video, Jillian Michaels and now this. He has gone to all my appointments and supports me with all his heart. I am so thankful to him.

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Awesome.

Great idea for a thread. I am blessed with my husband. He is so supportive, I was self pay here in NZ, which was approx $20K and he was 100% on board. He supported me through pre op and post op and even now is my biggest fan and cheer leader. I have had to start packing up what I don't eat to stop him eating it and gaining weight!

Our kids are awesome and so are our parents and I do feel truly blessed. But he is number one.

I must remember to tell him......(lol)

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