Backed Out..so Far

[jasleeve 440]

veeeerrrry well put!

I think if you have any doubts it is good to not have it at the moment. It would be good if you could speak with your Dr. I don't regret it myself. I never felt scared. But you need to be sure. It is life changing, in many ways, not just how you eat, how you live day to day, It will give you many parts of your life back, but it will take some away also - you need to be prepared for that.

[notime 340]

Thanks everyone, I appreciate your insights,

I have two children with autism, and my husband was recently diasnosed with terminal form of early dementia, so they are the resons I decided to have the surgery and now it is like they are the reasons I feel like I should not get it, God forbid I become one of the low percentages of people with complications, I am just so worried about everything no it is rushing through my mind like a movie in fast forward. I certainly know the reality that cancelling last minute is a big deal and maybe if I decide I want it my doctor will tell me to take a hike, IDK, I just don;t think that is a reason I should not cancel if I have doubts?

I am 40 years old, 5'3" and I weight 255 pounds.

Right now I am fairly healthy despite being obese but that is not the reason I decided to cancel

I am just soo scared I will be hurt in surgery, have a bad reaction to something, get really sick, the life style changes are not my worry, I am all my family has, if I am somehow injured from this, where will we all be?

I am just all the sudden saddled with the weight of the world..and I felt fairly good up until they called me with the time I was suppose to report to the hospital

Not sure I made the best or the worst decisionmof my life

My family situation was nowhere near as challenging as yours, but, in my opinion, dealing with the short term challenges is well worth the long term benefits. I was called out of the blue and told to report for surgery in one week. They had a cancellation. I thought I had two or three months and was shocked it was so soon. I was frightened but got over it by remembering the reasons for the surgery. My health was good, too, but probably not for long.

If you really want the surgery, do it. Only 3 out of 1,000 (.003) die within one month of it, but 16.6 percent of all deaths are due to complications of obesity. Do whatever you think is best, but please don't use your family as an excuse.

[Thinner Peace 24]

You have a lot on your plate yet you continue to go forward. I think you can handle anything! If you decide not to do the surgery, make sure you do something to take care of YOU.

[karenb4729 309]

Well I think you made the right decision for yourself. While we all may have doubts and feel scared going into surgery, if you don't have the time to focus 100 percent on yourself after the surgery it will be very difficult. It sounds like you have some extreme challenges with your family and that can make recovery harder. Good luck to you and your family!! When the time is right you will know it.