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Before surgery, I only told my mother/father and inlaws (and of course my husband and kids). I wanted to get through the surgery before I told the whole world.

Now, I will share my story with anyone who asks or comments to me on my changing appearance. (50# in 2 months needs some explaining) I have been sick a lot during this time so alot of people are worried about me, too. The rumors in a small town are very very interesting.

I will say that people are definately hesitant to ask - they know something is different about me and tend to think I have a new hair color or did something different with my hair.

I am a person that has no problem sharing or talking with friends/family - I have shown my belly scars to many people at many different places. If your lucky, I will even let you feel my port.

Tracy

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I am pre-band. I've told my husband, mom, sister, brother, 3 friends, 2 co-workers, and my boss.

I will not tell anyone else. Those I have told are those I feel safest telling. I do not feel it is my duty to educate anyone, nor do I want to be a role model. For me, this is a personal battle, and my successes will be sweet and my failures will be brutal. I cannot trust the failure with many people. I don't want to be measured, questioned, gossiped about.

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I didn't want ANYONE to know before my surgery but now that I have had it, I tell people if it comes up in conversation or if people ask me why I was gone I just say I had stomach surgery and people usually drop it at that. If someone asks me if I had WLS I won't lie, but I am the only girl on my crew and work at a gold mine so most men have been married long enough to know not to ask a woman ANYTHING that has to do with their weight.

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