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LadyIvy

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LadyIvy    159

LadyIvy
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Let me start by saying I was supposed to have my surgery in March. It was moved to April. Had I had it March, I had months of good habits behind me and was ready to go. However, for some reason, when it got moved, I felt the reason to have multiple food funerals. I have been on a terribly unhealthy diet for the past two weeks now. I'm almost acting like I will never see food again. I haven't gained any weight, I am maintaining, but I went back to my old ways of coffee in the am and eating once at night. I even slowed down my Water intake (which is strange because I LOVE water and tend to drink a lot of it, its not something I had to learn). Its almost like a stupid teenage rebellion. I don't know what the crap is going on with me mentally. I am going out with my family to have sushi on Saturday night and then Sunday I am starting my liquid diet two days early. Right now, I am sitting and drinking some Decaf tea trying to mentally prepare for this. I have been practicing good habits for 6 solid months now, I can't have blown them all in 2 weeks. Its almost like I tried though :( Now that I have realized this, I can get it back under control. However, I would like to try and figure out what in the world was going on with my brain. I believe for the past two weeks I was actually eating WORSE than I used to. Did anyone else do this? I know it was a mistake and it actually happened to help me learn a few important things Pre-op. Everyone says don't do food funerals. I'm just afraid of how much harder I made my post op life right now. sigh....

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greensthings    7

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Better now than a couple months post op, which is when most people have their food funerals! All is not lost, it has only been a couple weeks. You recognize you had a problem, and the next step is to change your behavior and go back to eating right! Like all things, this too will pass!

I imagine it is directly related to the stress of the postponement and thinking aboout the future weight loss and how it will define you. We all go through it.

Mine was 3 months post op when people started to notice the weight loss, and it dawned on me I am losing my "wall of fat" that I used to keep people at a distance with...I then had to reset my mindset and get back to business of losing weight, working out and I have been fine since....and so will you!!

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LadyIvy    159

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I did not realize that most of the food funerals are post op. Maybe my definition of them is incorrect. Going to have to check into that. I thought it was when you overdid something preop that you realize you may never enjoy the same way again.

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Lilu    65

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Let me start by saying I was supposed to have my surgery in March. It was moved to April. Had I had it March, I had months of good habits behind me and was ready to go. However, for some reason, when it got moved, I felt the reason to have multiple food funerals. I have been on a terribly unhealthy diet for the past two weeks now. I'm almost acting like I will never see food again. I haven't gained any weight, I am maintaining, but I went back to my old ways of coffee in the am and eating once at night. I even slowed down my Water intake (which is strange because I LOVE Water and tend to drink a lot of it, its not something I had to learn). Its almost like a stupid teenage rebellion. I don't know what the crap is going on with me mentally. I am going out with my family to have sushi on Saturday night and then Sunday I am starting my liquid diet two days early. Right now, I am sitting and drinking some Decaf tea trying to mentally prepare for this. I have been practicing good habits for 6 solid months now, I can't have blown them all in 2 weeks. Its almost like I tried though :( Now that I have realized this, I can get it back under control. However, I would like to try and figure out what in the world was going on with my brain. I believe for the past two weeks I was actually eating WORSE than I used to. Did anyone else do this? I know it was a mistake and it actually happened to help me learn a few important things Pre-op. Everyone says don't do food funerals. I'm just afraid of how much harder I made my post op life right now. sigh....

Yes I did the same after I was cancelled on feb. 6th but I am having the surgery now in april 11th and in the middle of March I finally woke up and I am back to healthy eating. I did because I was down about the cancelation after waiting so long since 2010. But it will happen soon.Good luck it will get better you will bounce back

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PEvette    297

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I thought you had food funerals pre-op too..because I feel like I'm starting to drift into one....I'm fighting the urge to start eating crazy stuff....because I don't want to feel like I'm giving up something, but I am gaining a new life

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bigkim    109

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It show u how addicted to food we really are....I have not cheated by the first three days were horrible.....I am craving starches and nachos but I have a shake instead....protein shake..

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PEvette    297

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YES! I know right....the psychologist told me to consider starting therapy before my procedure, I'm starting to understand what she means....I think in going to look into it on Monday....

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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