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When I was about 25 I said I'd be skinny by thirty. Well I'm turning 30 this week. and I am far from shinny (310) I was banded june 21, 06. I'm getting my first fill tommorrow. On one side I fell like such a failure because here comes 30, but on the other hand i've been banded and at least I'm doing something about it. Its hard to be excited about this band because i've only lost a few pounds. I dont want to be the whaterver%age of people who the band doesnt work for. I was a self pay and have taken up a second job to pay the balance off. I beginning to think I should of used the money to have my jaw wired shut. It would of been cheaper.:confused:

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Hang in there Sarabluebell. When I was turning 40, I tried hard to lose my excess weight and didn't. Now I'm 50 and just newly banded. I told my husband I wanted to be 10 years younger so I could forget the past 10 years.

This will work, just hang in there.

Terry :confused:

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Oh 30's the new 20 anyway, so you've got a decade to go. You're only very recently banded, dont lose hope, its a slow process but you'll get there.

I'm glad I got my band when I did, I have 12 months and 3 weeks till I turn 40 and I reckon its going to take me that bloody long to get the other 15kg off! Sigh.

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Been there, done that, got the stretch marks.< /p>

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Whatever..turning 30 sucked...I did it in December..I also vowed not to be fat when I hit 30, but because it took me a year to get approved from insurance, I am not getting banded until the 9th. I know exactly how you feel. I felt like I had wasted my 20's being fat and miserable and there was no way I was going to spend my 30's that way..well, now I have changed my goal to I wont be 31 and fat..hahahaha...

Its ok to think it sucked, the only people who tell you not worry about it are people older then you! Thirty is ok if you are where/doing /looking like you had thought you would. Well, as unrealistic as it is, I am not, so I got very down with it.

Trust me on this though...after like 4 months, you stop thinking about it so much. At least your doing something now..better late then never!!

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I am one of those older people, but a benefit of that is that I can look back to a place you are just now getting to...and tell you that being any age at all is only what you choose to make it.

You have made a positive decision to change some things in your life, and that's definitely worth celebrating!

Happy Birthday, and I hope you enjoy your 30s as much as I did!

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Yep. I did all that, too. Would be thin by 30; by 40; by 50. I had my surgery and my 60th birthday in the same month.

Don't be so hard on yourself about the number of lbs. You are actually in the healing stage and easy, soft foods are not the best for losing weight, but they are best for healing. You may be a turtle, you may be a rabbit. Just be patient and kind to yourself. It will come. This isn't a race.

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