Hey everyone, one of my family members is overweight, we are the same height 5"2, we are both overweight me moreso then her. I weight 207, she weighs like 180. When I got my surgery I was 234 and that was 6 weeks ago. So i have been losing a good amount of weight. She has been plateaued at 180 for a long time (mind you she eats alot of fast food and is pretty sedintary).

Here is a list of things that I found to be jealous in a matter of a 2 hour trip to the store and home.

1) Anyways we were about to go shopping and she told me to put my winter jacket on. I dont have one so she grabbed me one of her old ones its a 1x, it fit with room so I felt good (typically wore a 2x before surgery). She then said "Keep it, it is way to big on me, it has so much space that the air would get in and I was freezing.

2) We are walking around the store and she says "oh my god my pants are so loose, I hope they dont fall down"

3) We are sitting in the car, she points out to me a roll on her jacket (typically where someones tummy sticks out) and says, I lost my roll but it still looks like its there, see its not though. She then poked the jacket.

4) We walk into the house she is ahead of me with her back to me. I very clearly saw her pull her pants down at the front (she didnt think I saw). She then turned around and took two steps, her pants fell down and she said (Oh ha, I am glad they didnt do that in the store.

Am I being crazy or does it seem like jealousy over my weight loss? How should I deal with it, or should I just let it alone? I did not say anything and didnt make a big deal out of anything but I find it frustrating that she isnt happy for me. I have always been very kind and generous to her.

My sister in law and i have always been close. About a year ago, my best friend, my sister in law and me decided to move forward with our plans to get sleeve surgery. Well, my best friend and i got our surgeries approved by our insurance companies and my sister in law did not get her surgery approved. My best friend was sleeved on Dec 11, and i was sleeved on Dec 17. Since then my sister in law has been saying catty things to me in regards to both me and my best friend. I can tell she is very jealous. I think its pathetic. She has always been very insecure in the past but this is other level. She has been nothing but saying hurtful things. I'm over it. I just don't want to deal with that kind of negativity every time i see her. Our relationship used to be so much better than this. I'm praying that things will change for the better but for now I'm keeping my distance.

Jealousy really is a monster! I recognize myself as having been very catty, jealous woman when I'm unhappy with myself and/or depressed. My sister has always kept a trim figure and I'm ashamed to say that I would say the snarkiest comments to her when I felt really insecure about my appearance when she looked hot. I love her with all my heart, but when I'ld see her wearing a skimpy sexy outfit at the beach or a BBQ and there I was in my mu-mu- the hatred I felt toward myself would come out of me directed at her! Now, I'm losing the weight once and for all and I feel ashamed of the way I treated her (and the things I've thought or said about fit and trim women my whole life when I was dying of jealousy!) As long as women are unhappy with themselves, there will be b****y women-regardless if they're your co-worker, your friend or even your sister. Now I make it a point to encourage, compliment and empower the women in my life. I want to bring positive energy to my relationships, losing the negative with the pounds!

PS-I love the pants falling down story! Priceless!