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Pardon the slight OT rant here, but I am just really frustrated with my employer. There has been a position open since the end of APRIL for an HR recruiter. Prior to this I have expressed my interest with the recruiting manager several times over the past year and a half about transitioning into HR. He even was nice enough to take time out of his busy schedule to meet with me in his office and talk about this. This was a year ago and at the time he said to keep doing what I was doing and that after the first of the year, he would take me along with him when he went to local venues for career fairs. When that never materialized I reminded him about it and he didn't remember offering that. *Sigh* Never bothered to offer it again, either.

But with this I had a lot of transferable skills to this position, so I applied. The recruiting manager made me wait over a month before responding. No chance at an interview, he mentioned that they were "very serious" about having someone with the right background and they were looking at competitors to hire from. Never mind the fact that you might want to PROMOTE FROM WITHIN.

*Deeeeeep breath*

Anyway, that was back at the beginning of July that happened. I was peeved but responded back civilly that if a position should become available in HR again to let me know. As of today that same position is still posted on the site, but someone has filled it. Someone that works here already. Someone that has not been here as long as I have. Someone that has ZERO HR background.

Someone that is also tall, thin, pretty... not fat and round like me.

Maybe I am jumping to conclusions but add this to anothe reason of many I hate being fat - being overlooked for EVERYTHING. I really want to chew the recruiting manager out, or at least ask him WHY.... but I know I can't. All I can do is keep my eye on the prize... a new, thinner, more confident me. :first: She is hiding there underneath all the flab.

And someday she will get that promotion!

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Well, I don't mean to be vulgar... but it's not who she knows... it's who she blows. Haha I can so relate !!! My boss has never even looked at me, he never talks to me or smiles at me or asks me anything. He goes through my supervisor, even if I am standing right there !! He happens to be a workout freak and thinks he is God's perfect specimen and I know what he is thinking when he sees me... I am just a fat chick and I disgust him !! There are two other women who work there who are beautiful and he talks to them and cracks jokes with them and even gave one a ride to her car across the lot one day !! I can't wait til the day he actually notices that I am there, and I act like I don't notice him !!!

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I understand EXACTLY where you come from. Here in Vegas, our kitchens are very image conscious. Sure, I was good enough for chef jobs in room service, employee dining, banquets and MAYBE the buffet. But I never get the big-ticket fine dining spots. They always go to the slim chefs. They flash their degrees (AAS) and viola, they're in. Yes I have a degree. Two. I have a culinary degree and a bachelor in Hotel Administration...ALONG WITH 20 YEARS EXPERIENCE!! It freakin' sucks. But F them.

Yeah, I said it, so what!

I'll just move on to a better, bigger gig elsewhere. Hospitality is EXTREMELY image driven in Las Vegas (and anywhere else I imagine). I hate how they delay my internal interviews, go outside the company to hire a newbie and use my ideas as their own. Welcome to the armpit of culinary arts. It's dark here and it stinks at times too.

Anyways, screw them. Don't give them the satisfaction of doing this for them. Do it because you DAMN deserve better. They'll be singing the blues when they realize they lost a most prized asset. Their loss. You may not want to work for snakes like that later on anyhow.

Best of luck to you.

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And one more thing:

YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL NOW (ALL OF YOU)!!! JUST BECAUSE SOME JERK CAN'T SEE IT DOESN'T ME YOU EVER, EVER LOSE SIGHT OF THAT!!

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Thanks for the words of encouragement - and of course you are right. Still what I would give to give that guy a piece of my mind. Maybe someday. ;)

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Your someday is coming very soon. Don't worry. :-)

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