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Guest Rosalind

I was in the physician required Support Group and there was a woman sitting beside me that looked atleast 50 lbs heavier that me. I was shocked when she said she weighed 10 lbs less. (I never revealed my weight):nono: . People there were asking me why I was having surgery???:confused_smile: I know I have lost 35 lbs but I am a lot heavier than I look and apparently...........she is a lot smaller than she looks>:confused2:

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People said that I didn't need surgery either!!

I am TALL and weighed 225 day of surgery, 280 at my highest. I was heavy, but very well porportioned. I was fat everywhere and not just my legs and stomach.

When people learn I have lost 95lbs already, they are like "did you even have that much to loose???" flattering, but i didn't look that big! because i am tall!

People do carry weight differntly and I am living proof of that. I definatly look different that someone that is 5ft 2in. tall that weighs the same amount.

Hope this helps.

kelly :)

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Guest Rosalind

I am short but I have a shape as well. I am well proportioned too.....my legs are thick and I carry a lot of muscle. Maybe that is it?

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People seem to carry their fat different places. Mine is carried all in my belly and kind of up high. I don't really have any hips so I am not proportional. Very Ugly! Carrying the weight this way makes me look and feel very clumsy...

Khy

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Yup, people do carry weight differently. Most people think I weigh somewhere around 200 to 220. In reality I was 288. Mine is concentrated in my torso and upper legs. I had in January bought myself size 28W for the first time ever. Right now, if you were to look at me without clothing, it almost looks like I am pregnant in my torso, but still have big thighs.

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Guest Rosalind

Thanks for posting! At 275 and 5'3", I wear a loose 22 pants...........that is with a big butt. The only reason I wear a 22/24 top sometimes is because I have huge arms. I usually wear a 18/20 tops. (women sizes)

I asked my doctor what a realistic weight is for me. She said 160 would be a good number. She said it is funny how people carry weight differently because I don't look like I weigh as much as I do! That may make some feel better but my knees still carry 275lbs! That is the reality of the situation. That is the only comorbity I have. That is not bragging because reality also is that in time, I will have many more comorbities if I don't handle this now.

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Yeah, I am a size 16 up top and a size 20 on bottom. I carry it all in my hips and thighs. I hate it. I can't wear dresses because they are either too big up top or too small on bottom. I would love to be proportionate one day.

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People do carry weight differently. I saw posts of someone who is 20lbs more than me wearing a size 6 and I wear a size 10!!!! Everyone's body is different.

I COULDN'T STAND when people said I didn't look "big enough" to have surgery. Even a NURSE in the bariatric hospital said it to me. Keep your eyes on the prize and remember this is about getting healthy. Looking HOT is a great side effect! GOOD LUCK!:D

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And that is another thing, I weigh 185 and wear a loose size 12.

You would think I would wear a much bigger size at that weight. I am sure some of my weight is my height.

Kelly :D

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I agree with the topic of this thread - people really do carry weight differently. I have always "weighed more than I looked like". At the start I weighed 253. I wore 24W clothes and 3X tops were loose - but 2X's were snug. Now that I have lost 79 pounds ( I weigh ~174 on dr's scales), I am wearing a 14. I am broad shouldered, have a dough boy spare tire, small hips and a flat ass. I think people think I weigh less because I am broader in my shoulders than my hips. And there is no way I will every wear size 4 anythings - my skeleton would probably never fit into that size. :P

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It's true for the guys sometimes too. I now weigh 222 and people say I look like I weigh 180. My size LARGE shirts hang on me loosely, my size 36 pants are baggy. I have it in the hips thighs and I generally carry a little fat EVERYWHERE, feet, hands, face. I also seem to carry a lot of inter abdominal and inter thoracic fat, which is really bad stuff to have as it can press on your organs and cause serious issues.

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This reminds me of when I went to the Bariatric seminar. I was clearly the smallest one in the room.(5'4 230 size 14/16) I got all the awkward looks. I had my psych eval today and my therapist asked me if I was even 100 lbs overweight because I didn't look like it...but Yup. I carry my weight all over.

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Guest Rosalind

I can identify lovePink! If I were 230, I would wear a 14/16!

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When I was at my highest ever weight 281 lbs I was 9 mo pregnant and wore 2x tops and 18/20 jeans at 5'4. I have no clue why I carry my weight in a way that looks a lot less.. I'm porportioned minus the fact that I have a flat ass. LOL.

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