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i decided only to tell very few people. i think ppl are so judgemental & id hate for ppl to look at me funny. i feel like i could lose so much having vsg but i would be the "fat girl who had WLS" instead of being "healthy & smaller".

i only told my ex who him & i just broke up after 9yrs. he used to be 500lbs & became a body builder and lost all the weight thru diet & exercise.

my mom who is my support system & my bestfriend of 12years. oh & my employer who had the surgery & i looked into it as soon as i saw her weight loss!

for those of you who have had vsg already, did you feel like telling more ppl after losing the weight? i started a vlog (video log) on youtube but made all the videos private. im going to keep them all private & im going to keep making more until maybe after dropping the weight. if im comfortable enough, i will put them out for the world to see.

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:) Nope! I told my husband and that is it! I don't like the negative nay-sayers and don't need to hear the bs!

I may tell my mom one day, but for now, I keep it on the dl!

Kelly

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:) Nope! I told my husband and that is it! I don't like the negative nay-sayers and don't need to hear the bs!

I may tell my mom one day, but for now, I keep it on the dl!

Kelly

at first, ALL 3 of the ppl who i told said, "HELL NO!!! YOU DONT NEED THAT!!! JUST DIET AND EXERCISE!"

well my ex boyfriend is a fitness director (personal trainer) & is very fit & my best friend is a zumba instructor & has all these zumba certifications.

i know i could diet & exercise but its a crazy long road & a billion times harder to maintain.

my mom said no until i explained it to her & gave her more info. they are all excited for me now but im terrified of not being approved thru my insurance. i know i qualify but they may not cover vsg :(

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I guess it depends on the people in your life. I told EVERYONE. I've been doing a log of everything I've had to do on Facebook for all the people in my life, real time, or cyber. I'm proud of my decision and following through with all the steps that I've had to do to get approved by my insurance. This is not a small thing, and the people in your life should be supportive about YOUR decision since it is YOU body. Just my thoughts! With that said, I wish you the best of luck!

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I told NO ONE except my wife, after I got back and all was OK I told everyone and after I started losing a lot of weight I told anyone who asked.

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I only told my husband and a friend who had WLS after me. I only told her because she shared with me and was bemoaning that "you lost weight without surgery-why couldn't she?" I felt so bad that I told her-of course she's been supportive. I do get lots and lots of attention for my weight loss but I don't feel like dealing with the judgement.

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I guess it depends on the people in your life. I told EVERYONE. I've been doing a log of everything I've had to do on Facebook for all the people in my life, real time, or cyber. I'm proud of my decision and following through with all the steps that I've had to do to get approved by my insurance. This is not a small thing, and the people in your life should be supportive about YOUR decision since it is YOU body. Just my thoughts! With that said, I wish you the best of luck!

I've told alot of people too. My family, neighbors, employer and a few co workers. I also am making a video log and its private as well. I'm not putting on facebook, but I don't mind telling anyone who ask about it.

Good Luck.

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i agree, people should be very supportive but they would take it and use it to make fun, unfortunately. im 22 & we all know that young people can be very ignorant. its sad but true.

i think maybe in the future after all my weight loss, id open up to ppl if they ask but i dont think id have the courage to broadcast it. i am doing a vlog (video blog) on youtube and im going to record my every single step but ive made it all private. maybe after i lose a good 50+ lbs, ill have theheart to make it public for the world to see. i know im proud of my decision & proud that im taking control of my life! i just think the stereo type for surgery is so negative & its sad.

I guess it depends on the people in your life. I told EVERYONE. I've been doing a log of everything I've had to do on Facebook for all the people in my life, real time, or cyber. I'm proud of my decision and following through with all the steps that I've had to do to get approved by my insurance. This is not a small thing, and the people in your life should be supportive about YOUR decision since it is YOU body. Just my thoughts! With that said, I wish you the best of luck!

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im glad all turned out well for you. what made you not want to tell others?

I told NO ONE except my wife, after I got back and all was OK I told everyone and after I started losing a lot of weight I told anyone who asked.

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at first, my plan was to tell NO ONE except my mom. not my boyfriend (who was my boyfriend at that time), not my bestfriend, no one. well my employer too because she is the one who told me about it.

i just couldnt hold in such a secret though. i think about the surgery EVERY chance i get. everytime i see someone out of shape, i wonder if they would qualify for it. i bought new clothes today because i have an event to go to thursday & i look like im pregnant with twins. im so depressed. :(

I've told alot of people too. My family, neighbors, employer and a few co workers. I also am making a video log and its private as well. I'm not putting on Facebook, but I don't mind telling anyone who ask about it.

Good Luck.

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i had lost tons of weight before on a subway diet. went from a size 18 to a 6 in 4 months. im an attractive female and have a spicy personality (im puerto rican) and i got TONS of attention. walking down the halls of my high school, all the guys would look and i became very popular because of how many different pairs of expensive popular sneakers i wore. funny thing is, i had on the same exact sneakers 4 months prior & never got that much attention. EVER!! after about 8months of dieting, i quickly put the weight on again and gained an extra 50. :(

I only told my husband and a friend who had WLS after me. I only told her because she shared with me and was bemoaning that "you lost weight without surgery-why couldn't she?" I felt so bad that I told her-of course she's been supportive. I do get lots and lots of attention for my weight loss but I don't feel like dealing with the judgement.

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While in the researching stage, I mentioned I was thinking about it to a few of my friends.. 1 as heavy as I am and one skinny. They both acted like I had lost my mind. They both told me oh u will lose the weight real fast and then you will gain it back real fast. They told me it happens that way every time. Well the research I have looked at says it that isn't necessarily true. So now... my immdiate family knows and just 1 close friend.

Khy

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and have you had it done already?

While in the researching stage, I mentioned I was thinking about it to a few of my friends.. 1 as heavy as I am and one skinny. They both acted like I had lost my mind. They both told me oh u will lose the weight real fast and then you will gain it back real fast. They told me it happens that way every time. Well the research I have looked at says it that isn't necessarily true. So now... my immdiate family knows and just 1 close friend.

Khy

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I told my close friends, family, and a few co-workers. A couple of people had negative comments and it really made me mad. Especially since one person who never had a weight problem was trying to talk me out of the surgery. I just ingored those comments! Most everyone was supportive though. The fact is this. You can choose to not tell, but people will ask what you are doing to lose the weight. I now say when I am asked : eating right, exercising, and I had the sleeve. I don't like people thinking this is the easy way out! Just be prepared with your answer because I promise you the question will come up! Everytime I see someone I haven't seen in awhile I am asked. Good luck!

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would i be wrong for leaving out the fact that i had WLS?

I told my close friends, family, and a few co-workers. A couple of people had negative comments and it really made me mad. Especially since one person who never had a weight problem was trying to talk me out of the surgery. I just ingored those comments! Most everyone was supportive though. The fact is this. You can choose to not tell, but people will ask what you are doing to lose the weight. I now say when I am asked : eating right, exercising, and I had the sleeve. I don't like people thinking this is the easy way out! Just be prepared with your answer because I promise you the question will come up! Everytime I see someone I haven't seen in awhile I am asked. Good luck!

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