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Hi All!

Just checking in and asking for a pat on the back. I woke up today a bit depressed...not so much sad...just would like to cry! I had my surgery on May 3, so I only 5 days out and feel like I am doing well. I think I am just scared and as one of you say feeling the "WTF did I do to myself". I am bored and have loads of things to do around here, but I don't feel like doing them.

I know that this will pass but I need a hug!

Thanks and Happy Mother's Day to all you moms out there!

Barb

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{{{Barb!}}} It will get better. MUCH better. WTF did you do to yourself? You took the first step to changing your life, that's what you did! Congratulations on being one smart cookie.

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Thanks for that! I needed it!

{{{Barb!}}} It will get better. MUCH better. WTF did you do to yourself? You took the first step to changing your life, that's what you did! Congratulations on being one smart cookie.

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HIya,

try not to dwell on that 'to do list' and just enjoy the recovery... get as much rest and sleep as you need -along with the fluids of course :-)

take this time, where you can't do much to catch up on other things... when I was at your stage I dug into my books... read solid and it was fab! Also caught up with tv progs and movies that have been on my hit list for ages.

Hopefully that will help take your mind of the other stuff you feel you 'should' be doing... or well that is what it did for me!

Take you time, and chin up! =]

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Hugs, Barb!

Welcome to the official "WTF did I do to myself" period of your recovery. Length of this period varies, but moving toward a normal life seems to be the key. Oh, yeah - and the tears and strong emotions, as uncomfortable as they are, are so normal my surgeon's office includes them in the pre-operative education handbook.

You'll get through this!

Good luck. Feel better soon.

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Hi Barb,

The first couple of weeks are hard on your emotions sometimes. Your body is recovering, and you also have to recover from heavy aneasthesia (sp?), along with taking pain meds, which are depressants. Just remember all that when you are feeling blue, and realize that this, too, shall pass! Don't worry too much about your to-do list. I watched a bunch of movies when I was recovering, and did a lot of walking in between! Those things helped me to keep my mind off my emotional state. Hope that helps!

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Hugs to you, Barb! It's me from Support Group. I looked for you when I was roaming the halls the day after my surgery, but I guess we were out and about at different times.

You are just one day behind me on ALL the same things I'm feeling. The day you had your surgery, I spent mine either dry heaving, sipping, or walking. This Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday I have been "down in the dumps" too. Watching my family eat all the food that people have brought over has just made me so depressed. Not hungry . . . just left out.

Allow yourself naps and more naps. I am getting outside now, and the sunshine seems to help my mood. Let's hope it hangs in there for awhile and we don't go back to the day after day of rain that we had the whole month of April. I've been reading, watching movies and letting everybody else do the work. I tried to do some laundry yesterday, but that wore me out.

I go back to see Spaw this coming Thursday. When is your follow up? I'm kind of hoping he might let me move along to thick liquids a few days early.

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It's Lisa, Right?

I asked about you when I first came out of surgery! Man,do we have things to talk about! Dr. Spaw and Rebekah were wonderful, as usual, but the in-patient care at Baptist left a lot to be desired!

I am so happy that were have started on this JOURNEY together! WE are going to be known as the HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL SLEEVE SISTERS!!!

I go in to see the Doc on Thursday, May 19. You are not going to believe this but out DAY of Surgery Weights were exactly the same!!! It will be interesting to see the scales say on our 2 week visits!

As far as recovery goes, I think we are both right on track. I had my fatty tumor removed as planned and it is much more painful than the Sleeve. He cut a 6 or more inch incision from my right side to my backbone. Came home with a drain for that but not for the sleeve! Go figure!

I feel better now than I did this morning, for sure. I'll continue to keep pushing the fluids and rest before I need to!

Talk to you soon!

Barb

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oh sweety!! sending you lots and lots and lots of HUGS!! I hope they all are delivered as they come from an overseas sleeve sis to another!! and in some weeks u are gonna read this post and actually have an inner laugh about how u felt!! just a phase, and u will be feeling awesome soon!! XOXOXO

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Thanks so much for the HUGS! I can feel then here in TN!!! I actually feel much better now than I did this morning. I think I just hit the 5 day out Blues! Thanks to everyone for your wonderful words of encouragement! Having this forum is a true Blessing...my family and friends...the ones who know about the surgery, try to understand...but I know it is hard for them because unless you have walked this path you just don't get it!

Thanks again! Have a great week and I am sure we will be seeing a lot of each other on this site!

Cheers to us ALL!

Barb

oh sweety!! sending you lots and lots and lots of HUGS!! I hope they all are delivered as they come from an overseas sleeve sis to another!! and in some weeks u are gonna read this post and actually have an inner laugh about how u felt!! just a phase, and u will be feeling awesome soon!! XOXOXO

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Thanks so much for the HUGS! I can feel then here in TN!!! I actually feel much better now than I did this morning. I think I just hit the 5 day out Blues! Thanks to everyone for your wonderful words of encouragement! Having this forum is a true Blessing...my family and friends...the ones who know about the surgery, try to understand...but I know it is hard for them because unless you have walked this path you just don't get it!

Thanks again! Have a great week and I am sure we will be seeing a lot of each other on this site!

Cheers to us ALL!

Barb

I TOTALLY agree about Baptist inpatient care. Several times my hubby or daughter had to go get a nurse because nobody would ever come even when I called. My stupid IV alarm kept beeping incessantly and I would buzz to tell them but we'd have to listen to it for 15-20 minutes because nobody would come in. But you are right about Spaw and Rebekah. They were both GREAT!

I had a hernia repair at the same time, and that is really the only pain I have. The sleeve incisions are just itching like crazy! Wonder why my surgery was only a day before yours but I'm going back for my two week a full week before you? I hope they didn't just schedule mine wrong.

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Huge hug to you -- so you know you are not alone -- I had a similar WTF did I do day. I'm day 6! Frustrated because I feel a lot like I did at the band's worst, but going to post there. That's why we're here. Hugs from Georgia. Hope you're not in flood zone. xoxoxo

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I cried every day for 2 weeks after I got back from the hospital - something about this sleeve surgery makes you so emotional.

Hang in there and know that it does get better.

Take care,

Lara

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