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Hi All,

I have read this forum so many times and I have seen so many people get nervous right before surgery. I have a lap-band so I am familiar with the Mexico surgery experience. I talked to the coordinator and they have offered me a date of March 7. Just over 2 weeks away. Dr Aceves - lots of glowing recommendations. Awesome, right? Now is where I laugh at myself because I am suddenly very nervous.

My partner is 100% supportive, in fact, he can't wait until I get the band out because he is so nervous about the complications I have already had. We have the money, so that isn't a real problem. I have had other surgeries that were far more invasive. So funny that I have butterflies in my stomach over this.

I am not going to let this stop me, though. I want the surgery. I can't wait to put my hand on my stomach and not feel the implant. That is really what I am after - the additional weight loss will be icing on the cake.

I am going to wait to give my final decision until this afternoon. I also happen to have a meeting with the CIO of my company (I wonder if that is what is REALLY making me nervous?!?) After the meeting, I am hoping to have a clearer head. Thanks to everyone who writes on this forum. All the stories and information are invaluable!!

Lara

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HI,

Totally understand. My surgery is next week and even though I have been through the band surgery I am scared to death. Sometimes I even think about canceling. After readying all the great posts I realize that I am even more chicken to cancel. So happy to be getting this band out and looking forward to the rest of my life with the sleeve. Flying from Florida on Monday and will be picked up and taken to Mexicali.

There is someone who helped me a lot. Here screen name is WASA and even though I have rarely PM'd her, I would read all of her posts and answers. Just found this site and everyone seems so helpful.

Good Luck on your decision.

Karen

Hi All,

I have read this forum so many times and I have seen so many people get nervous right before surgery. I have a lap-band so I am familiar with the Mexico surgery experience. I talked to the coordinator and they have offered me a date of March 7. Just over 2 weeks away. Dr Aceves - lots of glowing recommendations. Awesome, right? Now is where I laugh at myself because I am suddenly very nervous.

My partner is 100% supportive, in fact, he can't wait until I get the band out because he is so nervous about the complications I have already had. We have the money, so that isn't a real problem. I have had other surgeries that were far more invasive. So funny that I have butterflies in my stomach over this.

I am not going to let this stop me, though. I want the surgery. I can't wait to put my hand on my stomach and not feel the implant. That is really what I am after - the additional weight loss will be icing on the cake.

I am going to wait to give my final decision until this afternoon. I also happen to have a meeting with the CIO of my company (I wonder if that is what is REALLY making me nervous?!?) After the meeting, I am hoping to have a clearer head. Thanks to everyone who writes on this forum. All the stories and information are invaluable!!

Lara

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Since I have not had my surgery yet, I would like to know exactly why you are getting a revision from the Band? What complications have you had? Why wasnt the Band successful for you?

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Hi Lara! Welcome! I don't think you're alone in feeling nervous -- having had surgeries myself prior to my sleeve, I too was nervous. :) Some other really active posters here that have had the revision are Tiffykins and LilMissDiva -- I know I'm forgetting some, but they're very helpful about revisions :) Good luck to you on your surgery -- I know it will go great! :)

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Also Julies vlogs on youtube are great. Thanks julie! :) I find the was she speaks really comforting. I love reading everyones experiences but sometimes seeing someone who has been there done that and is doing just fine helps to ease me!

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Also Julies vlogs on youtube are great. Thanks julie! :) I find the was she speaks really comforting. I love reading everyones experiences but sometimes seeing someone who has been there done that and is doing just fine helps to ease me!

Thanks so much -- I try -- sometimes I have a hard time figuring out what to say and sometimes I blab too much -- sigh. rolleyes.gif

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As much as I HATED my band, I also almost cancelled my VSG surgery at the last minute. I am SOOO glad I didn't though. It's been over a year now, and it's the best thing I've done. Sometimes I'll put my hand where the port was and remember how I could feel it, how it would bump against my ribs and get in the way. It's so wonderful to have all that plastic OUT of my body. VSG surgery is scary - that's for sure. But it is so worth it - I know you won't regret it. Good luck!!

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I hated my band and I LOVE my sleeve. I mean really, really love it! It has changed my life in such a positive way. food used to have so much control of my life and it is so nice to be free!!! You will do great. Good luck and don't worry. You are making a great choice!

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I'll just be an echo here - but I wanted to say that you are NOT alone in your feelings. I've had other laparascopic surgeries so I should be somewhat secure in knowing how I'll feel afterward. I couldn't have been more wrong. As the day of surgery approached, I was anxious and shaky. I realized that I was nervous because this was a new beginning for me. I couldn't keep the smile off my face in pre-op.

I've never regretted my decision. I'm looking forward to a really bright future.

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Hi All,

I have read this forum so many times and I have seen so many people get nervous right before surgery. I have a lap-band so I am familiar with the Mexico surgery experience. I talked to the coordinator and they have offered me a date of March 7. Just over 2 weeks away. Dr Aceves - lots of glowing recommendations. Awesome, right? Now is where I laugh at myself because I am suddenly very nervous.

My partner is 100% supportive, in fact, he can't wait until I get the band out because he is so nervous about the complications I have already had. We have the money, so that isn't a real problem. I have had other surgeries that were far more invasive. So funny that I have butterflies in my stomach over this.

I am not going to let this stop me, though. I want the surgery. I can't wait to put my hand on my stomach and not feel the implant. That is really what I am after - the additional weight loss will be icing on the cake.

I am going to wait to give my final decision until this afternoon. I also happen to have a meeting with the CIO of my company (I wonder if that is what is REALLY making me nervous?!?) After the meeting, I am hoping to have a clearer head. Thanks to everyone who writes on this forum. All the stories and information are invaluable!!

Lara

Hi Lara-

I just got back from Dr. Aceves. Please check out my videos on you tube and/or my blog in my signature. They are almost a bit too detailed! LOL!

Dr. Aceves is one of the most kind hearted physicians I have ever met. It was an awesome experience. Good luck.

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Seriously, you all are the BOMB!!!! So supportive!! I wish I could give each of you a big hug...

Over the weekend (after the big meeting and having a couple of good night's sleep) I am feeling much more relaxed. I even talked to my mom about it. She knew I had the band, but we never talked about it. I told her why the band sucks so much and she was shocked that haven't had it taken out earlier. I didn't really need her approval, but somehow it was nice to have it.

So, it's official. I'm driving to Mexicali on 3/7 - which is also my 37th birthday.

I can't wait!!!!!!!!!! Get this band OUT OF ME!

I feel like I can't say thank you enough - you guys are great.

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Since I have not had my surgery yet, I would like to know exactly why you are getting a revision from the Band? What complications have you had? Why wasnt the Band successful for you?

Everyone has a different experience. Mine has been that it doesn;t work very well and the feeling of having the apparatus in me has been an ongoing source of angst. I can't bend over with pants on, I can't stretch backwards, I can only lay on my side for a few minutes, eating is very uncomfortable. Also, getting the adjustments is a pain. After 3.5 years, I can say that it does almost nothing for me and the nuisance of having it is not worth it at all.

But, that was my experience...

good luck!

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