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I totally feel guilty about the food I ate for dinner :( I hate feeling guilty about anything so this just sucks! LOL I know that today is almost over and tomorrow will be a new day and I will do better! I know that I have to work at this each and everyday but right now I do feel guilty!

I had every intention of making a roasted chicken for dinner from a recipe from a WLS cookbook I bought but that didn't pan out and I let DH convince me to order pizza :( I ordered a thin and crispy pepperoni and black olive and I ate a whole slice! UGH! I am STUFFED to the gills and I HATE this feeling!

I have been doing so good on my food eating good Protein and veggies for dinner and now this :(

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Think about this! You ate one slice of thin crust pizza. Hooray. I would have been ecstatic to limit myself to this prior to surgery (happy and starving). This is what thin people do. They eat normal amounts of good food on occasion. This is why I personally had the surgery - to eat normal and feel normal afterward.

Do you track your calories? Did you go over your allotted amount? Even if you did, I bet it wasn't much. Prior to surgery I could put away 3000-4000 calories on a "lost" day where I made a mistake. Now my mistakes are usually no more than 100 calories. I don't think I could eat 1500 calories if I tried, much less 3000. The sleeve works just like it is suppossed to.

I decided that when I did this, no more dieting! Yes, I will work the sleeve. I will eat Proteins first. I will keep my Protein intake high and my carbs low. I will choose veggies for my starches, BUT I refuse to be a slave to food guilt anymore.

Be gentle with yourself. You deserve it.

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I totally feel guilty about the food I ate for dinner :( I hate feeling guilty about anything so this just sucks! LOL I know that today is almost over and tomorrow will be a new day and I will do better! I know that I have to work at this each and everyday but right now I do feel guilty!

I had every intention of making a roasted chicken for dinner from a recipe from a WLS cookbook I bought but that didn't pan out and I let DH convince me to order pizza :( I ordered a thin and crispy pepperoni and black olive and I ate a whole slice! UGH! I am STUFFED to the gills and I HATE this feeling!

I have been doing so good on my food eating good Protein and veggies for dinner and now this :(

Gosh, all these years we felt guilty, we hated ourselves and now we have this incredible tool to help and when we try to be a bit "normal" hell we feel guilty again. . . you ate only 1 piece! 1 thin crusted pepperoni slice and you feel stuffed to the gills to boot. . . doesn't that feel "normal". . . now then you hate the feeling, what feeling, the stuffed sliming i just ate too fast feeling? that goes away. . . don't feel so bad about the pizza slice, I've eaten all sorts of stuff and don't feel one ounce of guilt. . I'm losing weight and am happy and feel great. . . honey, you need to live your life as a human being and not some sort of odd character killing yourself with quilt. . . sorry if i sound harsh, i don't mean to but that is how i am. . ohmy.gif

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Not harsh at all!! I know it's just part of the adjustment to my new lifestyle! So much of this journey is mental and that is the hardest part! Shoot, thinking about it I could have put away an entire Med. thin crust pizza by myself before surgery!!! LOL

I have my Ipod Lose It set to like 900 calories a day which I NEVER reach and today I did for the first time but like I said, I'm FULL (still!)!

Also, I have to ask if ya'll come back and check this, what exactly is sliming? I don't believe I do this, I just know my belly is full and can't fit anything else in it!

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Dawn ... good for you! You made a sensible choice for "being bad". How did it taste? Did you at least enjoy it? I refuse to eat anything I don't like. There is simply not enough room in there to eat things that I don't enjoy.

Sliming can be a little different for everyone. Some call is foamies. It's like your body trying to get rid of excess food. Your stomach/esphogus produce a hgh amount of "slime" and you either sorta puke up the excess or produce a lot of mucas (think of that plemn you get when you cough up stuff when you have a cold). It is disgusting and a bit scary. It can sometimes last for a while, but is soon ends on its own.

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Think about this! You ate one slice of thin crust pizza. Hooray. I would have been ecstatic to limit myself to this prior to surgery (happy and starving). This is what thin people do. They eat normal amounts of good food on occasion. This is why I personally had the surgery - to eat normal and feel normal afterward.

Do you track your calories? Did you go over your allotted amount? Even if you did, I bet it wasn't much. Prior to surgery I could put away 3000-4000 calories on a "lost" day where I made a mistake. Now my mistakes are usually no more than 100 calories. I don't think I could eat 1500 calories if I tried, much less 3000. The sleeve works just like it is suppossed to.

I decided that when I did this, no more dieting! Yes, I will work the sleeve. I will eat Proteins first. I will keep my Protein intake high and my carbs low. I will choose veggies for my starches, BUT I refuse to be a slave to food guilt anymore.

Be gentle with yourself. You deserve it.

Wow, those words were really beautiful, we really do need to be gentle with ourselves. =)

Dawn, *shudder*, be glad you don't know what sliming is; I'm not sure if what I do is considered sliming per se but it is super painful and gross - I get a sudden stretching feeling like I'm going to pop, then suddenly my mouth starts producing way too much saliva that's thicker than normal and I spit up lots of that for quite a while, all while having really bad pain and the sincere desire to vomit, which I don't seem to be able to do. This just happened to me yesterday when I got carried away and ate too quickly 3 bites of an english muffin Breakfast sandwich filled with scrambled eggs and bacon. Mpfhh, just thinking about how much that hurt, hurts!

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Not harsh at all!! I know it's just part of the adjustment to my new lifestyle! So much of this journey is mental and that is the hardest part! Shoot, thinking about it I could have put away an entire Med. thin crust pizza by myself before surgery!!! LOL

I have my Ipod Lose It set to like 900 calories a day which I NEVER reach and today I did for the first time but like I said, I'm FULL (still!)!

Also, I have to ask if ya'll come back and check this, what exactly is sliming? I don't believe I do this, I just know my belly is full and can't fit anything else in it!

Sliming is when you eat too fast or too much and suddenly you get like this thick mucus crap crawl up like as if your having sinus problems. . it causes you to spit and spit and spit. . .not fun. . the other thing is your mouth fills up with Water (syliva) and causes you spit and spit and spit . . . if you don't have this bless your lucky stars. . .not fun.

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One piece of pizza isn't so bad! You shouldn't feel guilty. I ate a Jolly Rancher a co-worker offered and I was so mad at myself when I calculated it in my calories and it had 6 carbs! Pretty silly, but I know how you feel. It is a learning process and we can't be perfect all the time! : )

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