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Hi there...

I had my surgery April 16, 2012 and have lost 52 pounds. I am extremely happy with my weight loss and hard work and do not regret getting the band but it can be difficult at times. I was one of the ones who did not tell anyone except my husband. So now that I have such a great weight loss and my parents and other family members can really see my weight loss why do I feel bad or guilty? I am one and a half years out but do not want to mess up my hard work! I honestly don't know how people will react....any advice???

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I wouldnt feel guilty.It still took hard work and determination for you to lose this weight.So tell them or dont its up to you.Just know that you still had to work for what you have done. Be proud of yourself.

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I am going to throw an assumption out there and say you are probably just a very honest person and to hide things feels unnatural. I get the q all the time, how did you lose the weight? I say high Protein low carbs ahahaha. It's because I don't want any judgement, opinion or to have to give an educational lecture about the band. This is a very personal decision and journey and it does not require involvement or input of others thus others do not necessarily need to know.

The q's and comments are natural. It is astonishing to see someone drop 50 and 100+ lbs in front of your eyes. It's not something that you can hide. And yes, this accomplishment can make others jealous, standoffish even defensive. So those are the givens..but I say if you can drop 50 and 100 lbs you can definitely get over this LOL

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Hi there...

I had my surgery April 16' date=' 2012 and have lost 52 pounds. I am extremely happy with my weight loss and hard work and do not regret getting the band but it can be difficult at times. I was one of the ones who did not tell anyone except my husband. So now that I have such a great weight loss and my parents and other family members can really see my weight loss why do I feel bad or guilty? I am one and a half years out but do not want to mess up my hard work! I honestly don't know how people will react....any advice???[/quote']

A cousin just asked me how much I lost and how. I told her no one knows except my husband I never mentioned a doctor. I said I am on a strict diet and that's it. Many people don't know about my surgery and I like it that way. You do what is comfortable for you.

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As I'm starting to lose weight and people are noticing, I just tell them I'm making some new lifestyle choices. No one at work knows I had a lap band put in. I'm not embarrassed about the lap band, I'm embarrassed that I let me weight take control for so long. Yep, I went out to lunch with a group this week and someone asked me why I just ordered a cup of Soup, and BAM, I just said I was making some new lifestyle choices and that was that.

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You don't have to feel guilty, you have tool but you did the work, too! I never met goal when on WW or any other weightloss plan. But with lapband I did. I don't feel guilty, you should not either!

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My mother used to say guilt is a disease, throw it out the window. I like that image. We are all entitled to our privacy. I don't like being discussed and worry about this as well as whether people will like me better when I'm thinner -- I feel like this is a funny thing to be anxious about, but there it is. I am thinking I could say that I'm eating extremely small meals. Truth with privacy intact.

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