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I'm a little superstitious about this sort of thing, but figure just this once it can't hurt. I've applied for a new (old) job and am SO stressed out waiting for news about it! :frusty:

It's my old job, as executive director of a nonprofit trade association, that I left 7 years ago because I couldn't hack the commute or time suck with a new baby. I changed careers into something closer to home that pays the bills, but as the years go by the thought of staying in my new career just makes me ill. Now my old "real" job is open again, and I've sent in my application. I was in the role for 15 years and innovated every procedure they still use. We parted sadly and they tried to talk me into staying at the time. It's an understatement to say I'm qualified for the position. :Banane13:

(I have to say it was really strange to tweak my resume and write a letter of interest describing my qualifications for a job I basically invented. Has anyone else done that? Imagine writing your resume and running it by your boss for critique! :Banane11:)

Anyway, as often happens with organizations run by boards, there are all new faces at the helm now. If, for whatever reason, they have determined that a new direction is needed, I may represent the old direction and so suffer from their prejudice. So far I have no reason to think that's the case, but this period with my application on their desks and days of silence passing by, I can imagine all sorts of things. It's torture!!! And if they DO decide they want me, then we have to talk about what I need to make it work out--salary and part-time telecommuting, for example. As the former executive director (and current bookkeeper) I know exactly what they can afford and how telecommuting could easily work, but nonprofit boards can be stubborn.

So I'm putting my superstition aside and asking for good thoughts and crossed fingers. If this works out I will be reborn; it will feel like putting on natural fibers again after years of wearing polyester!! I just have to manage to breathe somehow for the next several weeks. AARRRGGGHHH!!!

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Alexandra, what an exciting opportunity! My fingers are crossed - and I'll throw in my toes for good measure. Good luck to you! :Banane13:

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(( HUGS!!! )) Hang in there thru the agonizing wait time! Think happy thoughts & keep yourself busy, lol.

I'm so excited for you for the possibility!! Crossing my fingers, eyes, toes & legs!

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WOW Alex I couldn't imagine them not wanting you. You are an awesome person. If that job is what you want, you already have it. Claim, tell God thank you and wait for the phone call.:Banane13:

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*sigh*the anticipation!

Almost like pregnancy - LOL.

Find peace in knowing that IF this is supposed to happen - IT will! ((but Im crossing my fingers for ya!))

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The luckiest thing in the world is Bamboo, it is supposedly,

lucky to whoever has it. It is also very easy to care for,

and will grow and grow. Go get some quick!!!

Good luck with or without it!

Linda Bell

brand new to the site 5/11/06:confused:

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I don't think you need luck.... If you want them, they would be fools not to want you. Besides... we make our luck by our attitudes and you have a great one...

I hope this is all that you want it to be : - )

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I am such a firm believer that things happen for a reason. If it is meant to be it will happen. If for some reason you don't get this, maybe just maybe you are now open for something you hadn't even considered. Now that you see how you could telecommute and make a contribution, you just might find another opportunity that is better. Hang in there. Our priorities are not necessarily theirs. They may be busy on other matters and the delay or no word has nothing what so ever to do with your request. :Banane13:

Good luck. Good things are coming your way.

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Thanks, peeps! This is exactly the sort of thing I needed to hear. You guys are da bomb!!

I'm not really worried about the time frame; the person I'd be replacing isn't leaving until September so they probably don't feel any pressure to act on this too quickly. (Though if I were their executive director, I'd be pressing them to move before summer--that's why I was good at this!) I know it will be a couple of weeks minimum before they get back to me--you know how committees work. But in the meantime I'm seeking my zen place. :Banane13:

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Alexandra,

My DH is also a non-profit director and has been in non-profit his entire career.

Suggestions-call your old board members, give them the info you just told us. Someone of old has to know someone of new. Board members always know other board members. If you have any contacts or networks from when you had the position-call them.

No matter how long it has been since you've been in contact with them-call them.

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Hi Diva!

You know, I absolutely have thought about that, and actually did write to a couple of past presidents letting them know that I was applying and that I might need to tap them as "references." They laughed and were totally enthusiastic.

But it's a double-edged sword; I don't want the current board or search committee to think I'm going behind their backs or anything. For now I just have to wait and see what they say. (For what it's worth, I was encouraged to apply in the first place by the current treasurer, who said "what would it take to get you back?" :Banane13: )

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I wish you the very best on this! I too, have recently made an attempt to change directions in my career path. I'm holding my breath as well and it's tough. Good luck and I'll send a little prayer up that you have the desires of your heart answered!

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Fabulous! I should have figured you'd already have networked! It really sounds like you should get this. It takes such a looonnnnggg time though. It took DH about 4 months to even get the interview. Keep us posted-I really think you are in from the info you've given us. Lots of luck coming your way.

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