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PrettyThick1    1,860

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My story begins in 2009. I received the lap band b\c my doctor told me that I was too big for the hysterectomy surgery that I needed or my cysts could, and probably would become cancerous. Believe it or not, I received the my lap band w\in 4months. I did lose just enough weight to have the surgery, but complications came about, and the doctors could not finish removing my cervix. After the surgery depression hit HARD, and now I am heavier then when I first started. My surgeon did not have support groups, nor did I adventure out to find one. I thought I was strong, and did not need one. Boy was I WRONG!

I now have a second chance. Yesterday, April 27, 2013, I made a HUGE mistake by eating a piece of steak,and it got logged in my lap band. I am admitting I need help and support. I'm so glad I found this site. To see the disappointing look on my surgeon's face, and the pain I am still going through pains me. It's about time I get my act together, lose weight, and become healthy!

Day 1: sips of Water throughout the day.

Don't be too hard on yourself; we are imperfect creatures. All you can do is try your best - and find a good support group to join. Good luck to you!!!

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BayougirlMrsS    3,938

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My story begins in 2009. I received the lap band b\c my doctor told me that I was too big for the hysterectomy surgery that I needed or my cysts could, and probably would become cancerous. Believe it or not, I received the my lap band w\in 4months. I did lose just enough weight to have the surgery, but complications came about, and the doctors could not finish removing my cervix. After the surgery depression hit HARD, and now I am heavier then when I first started. My surgeon did not have support groups, nor did I adventure out to find one. I thought I was strong, and did not need one. Boy was I WRONG!

I now have a second chance. Yesterday, April 27, 2013, I made a HUGE mistake by eating a piece of steak,and it got logged in my lap band. I am admitting I need help and support. I'm so glad I found this site. To see the disappointing look on my surgeon's face, and the pain I am still going through pains me. It's about time I get my act together, lose weight, and become healthy!

Day 1: sips of Water throughout the day.

did your LB Dr. or Nutritionist give you the rules too follow? If not, i did post some a while back and would be happy to share them with you... Of if you have question, are just need to talk... we are all here for you...

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Toddy    758

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Are you in an area where you can possibly find another doctor that specializes in bariatrics? My original surgeon was in a dedicated bariatrics practice and always took time to counsel me with all the do's and don'ts. The entire staff from the NPs to the receptionist were kind and caring and acted genuinely interested in my progress and success. If I had a bad month there was no scolding or shaming!

Then a year after surgery, we had to move and I had to find another doctor. The doctor I'm seeing now is a general surgeon that also does bariatrics. It is a completely different feel in his office compared to my original surgeon. Everyone in the new office is nice enough, but I just don't feel like they genuinely care about my success. There is no counseling... it's just more or less "Do you think you need a fill today."

The right support can be key to success!!!!

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CanCan1791    57

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Holy Cow you have been through the ringer. I can't believe you think you could ever be a failure after surviving such a traumatic experience. You're strong girl! Don't beat yourself up over a little piece of partially chewed steak. Relax, you are learning an entirely new way of life. Most people give up and make excuses for their size. You are obviously a fighter. Remember, the key to winning is not to never get knocked down, it's to always get back up.

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thoward    14

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I got no info. when I got my surgery. I did most of my own research, but it was half fast to be honest. I do have a good surgeon, but that's what he is a general surgeon. In and out, kind of thing.

I found a class at our local hospital that I'm going to sign up for. This is good:)

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victoriab    21

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Congratulations on the start of a fantastic journey

Vickie x

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Toddy    758

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I got no info. when I got my surgery. I did most of my own research, but it was half fast to be honest. I do have a good surgeon, but that's what he is a general surgeon. In and out, kind of thing.

I found a class at our local hospital that I'm going to sign up for. This is good:)

That's so sad! There are much better out there if you can find them. I'm sure your surgeon was fine, as my doctor is now. But sometimes "fine" just isn't good enough... I hope you can find someone else...

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PrettyThick1    1,860

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hope this helps

Thank you very much for this useful information...it is the beginning of my barriatric bible! Where are you Bayougirl? I'm in Houston...Bayou City! :)

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BayougirlMrsS    3,938

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Houma, La.

My doctor/nutritionist/RN gave me that information. I have kept it and have passed it along to banded and non banded friends.

Full of great information and tips to succeed.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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