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My story begins in 2009. I received the lap band b\c my doctor told me that I was too big for the hysterectomy surgery that I needed or my cysts could, and probably would become cancerous. Believe it or not, I received the my lap band w\in 4months. I did lose just enough weight to have the surgery, but complications came about, and the doctors could not finish removing my cervix. After the surgery depression hit HARD, and now I am heavier then when I first started. My surgeon did not have support groups, nor did I adventure out to find one. I thought I was strong, and did not need one. Boy was I WRONG!

I now have a second chance. Yesterday, April 27, 2013, I made a HUGE mistake by eating a piece of steak,and it got logged in my lap band. I am admitting I need help and support. I'm so glad I found this site. To see the disappointing look on my surgeon's face, and the pain I am still going through pains me. It's about time I get my act together, lose weight, and become healthy!

Day 1: sips of Water throughout the day.

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you can do this !!!

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Remember, you're not a failure. You're only a failure if you give up and you haven't given up. That means you're still on your journey towards success.

You've been through an awful lot. Is your surgeon at all supportive of you? Do you get good guidance from him? Do you feel like you have adequate Fluid in your band?

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Well as of right now there is no Fluid in my band. My surgeon is supportive, but that is all he is, a surgeon. In a group of just surgeons, not a lap band facility. Mentally, I'm ready now to do this the right way, and with support. I'm even thinking about going to food anonymous groups.

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Sorry about your issues but glad you have another chance. I started my second chance October of last year. I had my band checked gotta small fill and a copy of my doctor's guidelines. Found this site and I havent looked back. 100.02 lbs gone now 58.8 since October. I only see the nurses at my office and they never made me feel bad never looked at me bad only have encouraged me and helped me find my way back. I dont know your surgeon and I want to punch him in the face!! First step is letting go of any guilt or any sense that you are a failure and never ever look back. Change what you can change and dont focus or worry about things you can not. Please join my recipe group in Facebook. You can friend me at hely lb. We have games and challanges. People share recipes and ideas and post pictures of what they eat. Best of luck!! Dig down deep and find that "want power" and you can do it!! If I can do it I promise you anyone can!!

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Thanks for posting, thoward. I wish you the best of everything and I hope to find the same resolve you have. Please keep posting back here. I'd like to follow along and MAYBE find some inspiration.

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Stuck steak sucks. It hurts so badly. I ended up in emergency and had to get a partial unfill when i made that mistake.

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My story begins in 2009. I received the lap band b\c my doctor told me that I was too big for the hysterectomy surgery that I needed or my cysts could, and probably would become cancerous. Believe it or not, I received the my lap band w\in 4months. I did lose just enough weight to have the surgery, but complications came about, and the doctors could not finish removing my cervix. After the surgery depression hit HARD, and now I am heavier then when I first started. My surgeon did not have support groups, nor did I adventure out to find one. I thought I was strong, and did not need one. Boy was I WRONG!

I now have a second chance. Yesterday, April 27, 2013, I made a HUGE mistake by eating a piece of steak,and it got logged in my lap band. I am admitting I need help and support. I'm so glad I found this site. To see the disappointing look on my surgeon's face, and the pain I am still going through pains me. It's about time I get my act together, lose weight, and become healthy!

Day 1: sips of Water throughout the day.

This site is amazing with the most supportive and amazing people to help you the whole way. I love my monthly support groups. I live outside of Boston and the Boston hospital where I had the band has meetings every 2 weeks but I go to the smaller hospital closer to my house, my surgeon is now there. Good luck with your new journey.

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First of all, it sounds like you are too hard on yourself. You've been through a lot. We all have our ups and downs, stuck and unstuck stories. I don't understand how eating a piece of steak is a HUGE mistake (your words, not mine). Did you think you could never eat steak again or am I missing something? Did you just have the band put in again? Anyway, stay positive and use this forum for support (and education). I believe in anyone who believes in themselves and reaches out for help. Good luck to you.

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be sure your band have the right amount in it that's how it works best so don't need any other need it half full and more as they go Be sure you tsl it out with s doctor who can give a fill when needed.

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I have seen the support, and it is great on this site. I will continue to post and hope to find new, long lasting friends that will help me, and in turn help others.

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My story begins in 2009. I received the lap band b\c my doctor told me that I was too big for the hysterectomy surgery that I needed or my cysts could, and probably would become cancerous. Believe it or not, I received the my lap band w\in 4months. I did lose just enough weight to have the surgery, but complications came about, and the doctors could not finish removing my cervix. After the surgery depression hit HARD, and now I am heavier then when I first started. My surgeon did not have support groups, nor did I adventure out to find one. I thought I was strong, and did not need one. Boy was I WRONG!

I now have a second chance. Yesterday, April 27, 2013, I made a HUGE mistake by eating a piece of steak,and it got logged in my lap band. I am admitting I need help and support. I'm so glad I found this site. To see the disappointing look on my surgeon's face, and the pain I am still going through pains me. It's about time I get my act together, lose weight, and become healthy!

Day 1: sips of Water throughout the day.

This is my second go of the band too! We can do it! Good Luck. We are all going to make mistakes. We are recovering addicts! Follow my Lap band blog www.biscuitsandexcuses.blogspot.com

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Hello, I feel ya, I had gastric bypass 2001 and i was just had band over bypass 2/27/13. However I did not have my broken thoughts removed, and I am still struggling, I cant have my band filled till end of May and I have only lost 20lbs. I hate this struggle. If you would like a support buddy I would be glad to help each other. Hang in there.

Connie

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I will be looking up all info and following blogs too. Apparently I have gotten wrong info about a lot, so I will be asking a lot of questions and getting involved with whatever and whoever wants to join me on my new journey. New day, new me! :)

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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