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It's been 5 days since surgery and I thought I was sooooo prepared. But I still hurt on all my incisions. I hurt to walk, I hurt to cough, I hurt to spit out toothpaste for crying out loud. I'm 55 yrs old, and I think this might be my body telling me I don't heal as fast as I did when I was younger. But I've already missed 5 days of work and I don't feel any stronger. Since I paid a lot of money myself to do this, I find myself very down about the decision and wishing I hadn't done it. How stupid am I to pay good money to feel so bad!

And then to maybe jeopardize my job?.

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Hang in there, this is only temporary! You will feel better soon and, just like childbirth, the pain will fade in memory. Don't overdo things at this stage and follow your dr's orders.

Best of luck.

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It does get better! I felt the same way a few weeks ago... Now I'm SO glad!! Hang in there!!!

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I know you're probably sick of hearing this, but it really does get better and soon. Keep in mind you're likely a lot more emotional than usual right now, too. Not only have you been through surgery and are likely Vitamin deprived from the post op diet, but there is something in the anesthesia that can make people very emotional and depressed. When you combine all those factors, it's no wonder so many of us go through the very emotions you're going through right now.

Hang in there, it's about to get a lot better for you and very soon!

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It does get better. I was so surprised when I had so much post op pain. I was told there was very little pain with the procedure, so I was not expecting to wake up with so much pain. I was actually a little angry that my doctor hadn't prepared me for the pain. He said it wouldn't be bad and they could control it. Well that didn't happen, but I had a problem where they had to reverse all the pain meds out of my system and then couldn't give me anything. Long story there.

Don't feel too bad. Pain is very real, and it is okay to give in to it for a few days. It should be improving day by day. I found a heat pad on my belly helped, and sometimes alternated that with ice. Remember no lifting more than 10 pounds, and make someone else do the vacuuming, mopping the floors, etc. This is your time to rest and heal up. We've all been where you are. I'm 2 weeks post op, and don't feel incisional pain at all. Good luck.

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I have a question, did you have a hernia repair during your lap band surgery, that might have something to do with it. I was super sore after mine.

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It's been 5 days since surgery and I thought I was sooooo prepared. But I still hurt on all my incisions. I hurt to walk, I hurt to cough, I hurt to spit out toothpaste for crying out loud. I'm 55 yrs old, and I think this might be my body telling me I don't heal as fast as I did when I was younger. But I've already missed 5 days of work and I don't feel any stronger. Since I paid a lot of money myself to do this, I find myself very down about the decision and wishing I hadn't done it. How stupid am I to pay good money to feel so bad!

And then to maybe jeopardize my job?.

well it is major surgery so yeah, it is gonna hurt somewhat and be uncomfortable...and hard to believe but in a months time, you will be right as rain...you must think positive and give yourself some time to heal....being a debbie downer will only make you feel more miserable....so head up and realize you made a terrific decision....give your body some time to heal/adjust....it will be worth it....

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Your age isn't the problem.. I am 66 and I had my surgery on 1/15.. I was really sore and couldn't take the pain meds because it caused nausea... I took children;'s tylenol (liquid) and used a heating pad and walked around the house about every hour... rest is so important as well.. I was surprised as well but now I feel like a million bucks.. have lost 28 lbs , have tons of energy... It is normal to question your decision, I thought what in the world was I thinking... but now I am very confident that it was the best decision for me.. My diabetes is under control, blood pressure down, back pain and knee pain gone.. I still have a way to go but feel for the first time in many years that I can be successful . as my mother used to say keep your eye on the doughnut.. (don't eat it) :D

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Thank you all so much for the helpful words and encouragement! I've got to keep my eye on the end goals here. It's good to hear it gets better. Thank you.

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I also do not think that age is the concern I was 65 when I got my band. I was in pain but not as much as you describe, have you checked with your doctor? I would give him/her a call just to be sure. hugs

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