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Im having my surgery 6 am Monday, and my Mother just informed me that she won't be offering me any kind of support whatsoever because she disagrees with the surgery because she thinks it's too risky, and that I could lose weight on my own. Her words were so hurtful, and this happening one week after my boyfriend broke up with me, and surgery in less than 48 hours is just so painful and overwhelming

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sorry to read this...wish i could take those hurtful words away because i would if i could..words hurt bad.

that being said, do it for you..come to this forum, we will support you 10000000%

ps, i find people who are hateful, mean, and cruel about the lapband or any wls are the ones who dont truly understand and are ignorant...hang in there...

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sorry to read this...wish i could take those hurtful words away because i would if i could..words hurt bad.

that being said' date=' do it for you..come to this forum, we will support you 10000000%

ps, i find people who are hateful, mean, and cruel about the lapband or any wls are the ones who dont truly understand and are ignorant...hang in there...[/quote']

You are always so sweet on these forums:) can I ask how the first month went with you? I had the plication too and am 12 days out. Hoping it gets easier;)

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Good luck Peace, we are here for you. I was banded dec 4 and its the best thing I ever did FOR MYSELF! For many years I heard the same thing "you can do it on ur own". Well I tried and tried.

I couldn't be happier right now, happiest I have been in years!

It's gonna be fantastic for you and your new life to come!

Enjoy it!

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Breaks my heart to read this . I can completely relate and this is why my band is top secret. Never second guess your choice to take control of your health.

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Im having my surgery 6 am Monday' date=' and my Mother just informed me that she won't be offering me any kind of support whatsoever because she disagrees with the surgery because she thinks it's too risky, and that I could lose weight on my own. Her words were so hurtful, and this happening one week after my boyfriend broke up with me, and surgery in less than 48 hours is just so painful and overwhelming[/quote']

I wish I loved near you because I would take you to the hospital and then take you home when you were done. Being a mom myself I can't imagine NOT supporting my daughter in something she felt so strongly about.

You have made the right decision to go forward. There are a lot of people on here who will support you. If you want,, you can always start conversations on here with members if you maybe want things a little more private. But I will say a prayer for you because I know you are going though some pretty rough stuff. ((((Hugs)))))

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Be Yourself

Everyone Else is Already Taken

Best wishes... we will be here for you!

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You are always so sweet on these forums:) can I ask how the first month went with you? I had the plication too and am 12 days out. Hoping it gets easier;)

well ain you just the sweetest thing :)

thank you very much..

first month was good. had some serious shoulder pain for 4 or 5 days and def felt tired but just stayed with it...sipping and getting nourishment. i had the ruins pretty good so my dr said immodium ad was okay for me..i went back to work after 8 days,,,had a hernia repair and it hurt to take a deep beath, so i didnt do that haha....my port area was sore/tender for about a month. nothing bad, but just tender.

each day, you will feel better. hang in there :)

let me know if i can help in any way

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well ain you just the sweetest thing :)

thank you very much..

first month was good. had some serious shoulder pain for 4 or 5 days and def felt tired but just stayed with it...sipping and getting nourishment. i had the ruins pretty good so my dr said immodium ad was okay for me..i went back to work after 8 days' date=',,had a hernia repair and it hurt to take a deep beath, so i didnt do that haha....my port area was sore/tender for about a month. nothing bad, but just tender.

each day, you will feel better. hang in there :)

let me know if i can help in any way[/quote']

Thank you for the tips:) you are an inspiration, not just for the lapbanders, but for us plicationers too. It's scary sometimes getting a procedure done that is so new. But let's face it, they were all new at some point. That being said their isint many people to talk to regarding my procedure so I appreciate any and all input/advise you have:) I have to say I'm not hungry per say, but am a little sick of the full

liquid stage as I have to do 2 full weeks of it. 10 days to go! I don't have very much energy. I'm not sore, I wonder if its the minimal calories I get? Prob around 300-500 right now. So the thought of expending more energy on excersizing... Well exhausts me lol

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