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I'm 46 and am peri-menopausal. I haven't had my period since January. I've since forgotten when you get the signals that you have your period. Do they come before? Do they come during the period or do they come after? I never remembered to write down my TOM schedule.

The reason I ask is twofold. (if you're a man, get off this thread!) My breasts feel like they weigh 20 lbs each, my nips feel like they've been freeze dried and are about to crumble at the slightest touch, my abdomen is killing me. At what point of menstruation do these types of signals occur? BECAUSE...

I notice my band feels "tighter" during this time. And I have gotten stuck more than I care to think about. It's worse in the morning, some liquids even made me feel stuck. Can the band get tighter before, during and/or after your period?

I'd love to hear what you say, it would be nice if I could predict my life better.

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Yes, my band definitely gets tighter the week before my period. It usually goes back to normal by the 2nd or 3rd day after I start.

Here's an interesting (but crappy lol) fact- when you're peri-menopausal, you can go through all the PMS symptoms without actually getting your period. I know, it sucks right? It's because your hormones are still doing some fluctuating, even though your ovulation is slowing down or stopping.

So, you can have all the symptoms of PMS without actually getting your period.

Don't ya love being a woman? ;)

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she right and it never ends gets less intents but you have it all plus the Water gain so be sure to count that in.

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Yes I have problems with tightness too. I all of the sudden kept getting stuck on foods for a week and kept wondering what is going on. So when I went in for my last fill I asked about this and my nut said it is pretty common and her advice is that you can drink some hot tea 20-30 minutes before you eat to help "loosen' It up, I have not tried it yet, but may next time.

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I had my last period during my pre op diet.....how weird is that.... It just stopped coming. I went to the obgyn after I missed the 2nd period because I was sure I was pregnant.... Not likely at 50 but crazier things have happened. She thought the surgery just delayed it awhile and told me to wait until 6 months post op and if I hadn't had it...come in for blood work. Which I did... And turns out she thinks the surgery sped up my menopause.... Because my estrogen level was very low. Well here I am almost 2 yrs post op and it never returned.

So... In your case your body could be just jumbled up and you might get it again...or not. I would make an appoint ment with the GYN to get a feel for what's going on.

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I hadn't had my period for over 20 years. I had my surgery and now it comes every 30 days!! Why did I ever miss it!!! YES, my band does crazy things the days before my period and the first few days of my period. Foods I could typically eat, I can't and there are times when I have to do a day or two of all liquids just to get through. Start tracking things and you will see patterns. I was driving myself crazy with wonder/fear until I started journaling and started to see patterns each month!

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Thanks,

I am glad that I'm not the only one who experiences these things!

So I have many, many more years to look forward to? Missy, it does suck!

About the weight gain, I have a conundrum...I gained 10 pounds OVERNIGHT! I imagined you could gain a few, but 10?

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The weight gain is not real...10 pounds overnight would have meant you overrate by 35,000 calories. In a banded belly, I don't see how that would be possible.

Drink your Water, get Protein in through shakes...ride it out and you'll likely drop the 10lbs plus extra :)

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