So it's two days til surgery and I am anxious and emotional. I have lost 9 pounds on preop diet happy about that and now my mind is playing with me. I am nervous about going to Mexico but its the only choice I have since I am self pay. I have soo many people in my family depending on me financially and I feel so selfish for spending the little I am on this surgery. I'm scared something may happen and I have the most beautiful 3 year old in the world t

Don't know why I am all tears today but I am so ready for this to be over and hate myself for allowing it to come to this. If I had half the self control I have had the last 2 weeks thru the pre op diet (not cheating not even once) why couldn't I have more self control before.

So it's two days til surgery and I am anxious and emotional. I have lost 9 pounds on preop diet happy about that and now my mind is playing with me. I am nervous about going to Mexico but its the only choice I have since I am self pay. I have soo many people in my family depending on me financially and I feel so selfish for spending the little I am on this surgery. I'm scared something may happen and I have the most beautiful 3 year old in the world t

Lace my date is coming up too and I get these thoughts often as the time

Gets closer. I have three little girls and the negative thoughts come and the feelings of guilt and "what ifs" come. Then ill look at someone's success story and I start to think what if... It does work and my kids get twice the mom at half the size. Can you imagine how this will affect their life in a positive way? Teach them healthy eating, have some self esteem, be more Active with them, go swimming more cause I won't be so ashamed of bing in a swimsuit! This is how I try to deal anyway. Feel free to msg me if you want as we have similar fears! We can do this!

You are experiencing normal feelings. You will be fine and your daughter will be better because she will have a loving mommy around for a very long time. Congratulations on the decisions you have made. They will last a life time!

I know how you are feeling. I was banded last week and felt so anxious. I finally had to focus on why I was getting the surgery and had to stop focusing on what got me there. I have two small boys and I am doing this to make me the best mommy I can. I have a hard time keeping up with them and the surgery will help me with this. Both of my boys were c-section babies and the pain with the c-sections has 20 times worse than the lap band. Take your pain meds and relax. You will be tired!

Good luck....I know that you will do great!!

hi i was banded in march this year. i'd fogotten about the angst before hand. i'm sure everyone feels anxious before their surgery. on the count down to my surgery i was a wreck. 50% totally excited about my new life and 50% terrified something would go wrong. and on the day it was hell coz my op wasnt til 8.30pm and all i could have was water!! all i can say is i have no regrets. would i do it again? 10 times over. i felt a bit selfish getting a loan to pay for it, but why? im the one paying it back. its only money and money cant compete with quality of life. its an investment on your healthy future! best of luck to you x

I know how you are feeling. I was banded last week and felt so anxious. I finally had to focus on why I was getting the surgery and had to stop focusing on what got me there. I have two small boys and I am doing this to make me the best mommy I can. I have a hard time keeping up with them and the surgery will help me with this. Both of my boys were c-section babies and the pain with the c-sections has 20 times worse than the lap band. Take your pain meds and relax. You will be tired!

Good luck....I know that you will do great!!

Thanks for tge c section comparison. I also had 2 sons via c sect and I was wondering if it would feel like that.

You will do great! I had surgery a week and a half ago and I had anxiety before and even the day after surgery. But it goes away! A few days after surgery you will start feeling like normal and this will all be behind you. I never even took one pain med so the pain is so minimal. Good luck! This is the best investment that you can make for you and your children's future;)

I think we have all been there. Anxiety,nervousness, fear is all part of the process. I was scared right up to the time the surgeon came in to talk to me just before my surgery. He said everything would be good and it was!

Just think how much better your life is going to be after surgery.

Sending you lots of hugs.

Yep, all the same thoughts and emotions! Try to focus on the prize!

I did it so I can have a better life with my grandchildren, so you're never to old to improve.LOL

You'll have a wonderful healthy life with your daughter. Relax, take deep relaxing breathes and say I can do this, I can do this!!

Thought & prayers for peace and quick recovery sweetie!

Thanks for tge c section comparison. I also had 2 sons via c sect and I was wondering if it would feel like that.

When you have a c-section they're actually cutting an organ open, not with lap band. I was trying to compare to my hysterectomy and no comparison at all. It feels like you did a bunch of situps and the gas was the same as hysterectomy, but walking took care of it quickly. More of a discomfort than pain.

I haven't had my lap band yet, but I am nervous like you, I had a surgery in August and was just as nervous. What helped me then, was telling the dr how I felt. Even the day, an hour before surgery as I was getting preped I said to the surgeon, "I guess it's too late now to back out" and nervously laughed and he said, no it isn't. That answer surprised me, but it also made me stronger. It was my decision and I really wanted the surgery and I did not want to back out, I just wanted to survive and have little to no complications/pain. So I prayed and positive self talked. I told myself I was strong, I could do this, I wanted this etc.

When the anesthesiatologist met me a little after, I said I have 3 kids who will be distraught without me, so do your best work please. I also said please I am scared I will tell you my deep dark secrets or say something I'll regret as you put me to sleep, so please talk to me about yourself or general things as I fall asleep. She did and it took away that personal fear. She also asked me what else I was scared about and explained things.

And I told the nurse assigned to me, when she said how are you doing, I said I'm good but really nervous.

Telling the team, helped. They treated me the way I needed to be treated. It really helped.

Lap Band surgery is not as bad as many other surgeries I have experienced. We all had our doubts and second thoughts, but I don't know anyone with a band who would trade it for anything!

Lap Band surgery is not as bad as many other surgeries I have experienced. We all had our doubts and second thoughts, but I don't know anyone with a band who would trade it for anything!

You are right CHEZ.... Yesterday the plastic surgeon told me the lift and Tt i am considering makes the lap band surgery a walk in the park.

Thanks everyone for the support. I am so glad I am not alone. I had a good cry last night and now I feel better!! I'm optimistic and ready to take control of my life!! Surgery tomorrow.

You are right CHEZ.... Yesterday the plastic surgeon told me the lift and Tt i am considering makes the lap band surgery a walk in the park.

Amen to that. I had my TT before LB. Fortunately my gut sucked right in, no more flab! I went by to say thanks to my Plastic Surgeon!