I Don't Want To Tell Anyone I'm Considering Lapband

[MiniMi 1,468]

i'm having my surgery on november 19th...i've only told my family' date=' and a few close friends.....its going 2 be hard 2 explain to my coworkers why i havent been to work for a month, why im not eating like i usually do (we order take out all the time and do lots of pot lucks) and why im losing so much weight....but we've just started a health club at work w/zumba and weight watchers etc. so i plan on just telling them im eating healthier and exercising...i feel like its none of their business and dont want my name to be in their mouths with negative things 2 say behind my back. point blank period. i havent told any of my male friends because they've already talked bad about weight loss surgery, and like me just the way i am...especially my best friend, he'd just try 2 talk me out of it and frown upon it. My oldest sister had some negative things 2 say about it at first but i shut that down quick by letting her know that if she continues with the negativity ill be forced to slowly cut her out of my life being as though this is a LIFESTYLE CHANGE....and that shut her up and made her more supportive very QUICKLY. my middle sister is the most supportive keeps me motivated and positive and makes me stay on track....my mom wishes she could have the surgery...her doctor told her no (he's just no knowledgeable) and she doesnt want to quit cigarettes...my dad was against it at first but when he realized i was actually serious he hopped on board and is very supportive, even plans on taking off work 2 be in the hospital with me the entire time 2 make sure my doctors are on top of things (yeah im such a daddy's girl <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /> im a bit worried about my personal life i.e. dating, relationships etc. im just recently out of a relationship (eehhh 6mos is recent for me) and with not being able 2 eat normally how that will affect my dating...and how ill bring it up to anyone i decide 2 date in the future....buuutttt im just going 2 take it one day at a time, and if they are important enough, they will understand. (sorry for the lllooonnngggg bio, just in a chatty mood)[/quote']

Realistically, when you have the band you eat less and exercise more. That is the only secret to success. So you don't have to mention anything to anyone!

[roxa 15]

Most people who aren't successful or have problems don't follow the rules of the Band. It's a tool, not a cure all. I have done my research and am completely ready for my surgery Nov. 13th. I have told people but I have thick skin and am comfortable with my decision. To hell with the nay Sayers... Time to do something for myself and take my life back! Good luck!

Good luck tomorrow!!!!

[ladymarshall 61]

I am just starting to research Lapband surgery. I don't want to yell anyone that I'm considering have the surgery. Does anyone else feel this way?

I'm only told my mom, hubby, aunt, and two best friends that's it nobody else!!!!!!

[paula2468 7]

I only told close friends and family but once I lost about 40 lbs everyone wanted to know my secret so I decided to let the cat out of the bag. So many people were supportive!

[Ladybandito 516]

I only told my husband, and then after a while, a very close friend. Everyone always thinks that people will be watching what or how you are eating and will guess (that's what I had thought), but in reality most people are preoccupied with themselves! My band is not very tight with 3 cc in a 10 cc band, so I pretty much eat normally but in smaller (normal-size) amounts. I've lost about 50 pounds, 40 since surgery this past January, and Sverige knows I am eating better and exercising more. That works for me. :-D

[Darkangel321 61]

Me too! I told my mom yesterday. She had gastric bypass 8 years ago so she knows how I feel. I don't want to have gastric. Besides her and my dad- my husband is the only one I want to know. I'm embarrassed that I can't do it on my own.

Don't be embarrassed. Think of how many things in your life you were unable to do on your own...Consider the band the training wheels on your bicycles. Before the training wheels you would wobble and fall over and over again. Just couldn't get your balance. The training wheels are on now. They have to be tweeked while you are learning. The band is helping you permanently change your physical and emotional health. We all need help sometimes.

It's refreshing that you are strong enough to admit you can't do it on your own. Together you and your band will meet your goals. Best wishes to you.

[destynee1 417]

Don't be embarrassed. Think of how many things in your life you were unable to do on your own...Consider the band the training wheels on your bicycles. Before the training wheels you would wobble and fall over and over again. Just couldn't get your balance. The training wheels are on now. They have to be tweeked while you are learning. The band is helping you permanently change your physical and emotional health. We all need help sometimes.

It's refreshing that you are strong enough to admit you can't do it on your own. Together you and your band will meet your goals. Best wishes to you.

Very well said.. and so true.. never thought of it that way.

[kah1213 311]

I told 2 people-- my dad and a friend. My weight loss so far has been slow and steady so I just tell people that I've been working out more. A couple times eating out with friends has been hard, and I've gotten stuck, but its always been my own fault for not chewing enough.

[utkscvol1 125]

Don't be embarrassed. Think of how many things in your life you were unable to do on your own...Consider the band the training wheels on your bicycles. Before the training wheels you would wobble and fall over and over again. Just couldn't get your balance. The training wheels are on now. They have to be tweeked while you are learning. The band is helping you permanently change your physical and emotional health. We all need help sometimes.

It's refreshing that you are strong enough to admit you can't do it on your own. Together you and your band will meet your goals. Best wishes to you.

Thank you for those words:)

[skuzzie 23]

Hey all, my first lapband i saw the fantastic results my boss had. I think more than 50kg and i talked to her and was fantastic for advice. I told most at work but i was in a close knit ICU. I did alot of research before and found the main complication that was rare was infection or slow healing of the wound. But we all know its so not the easy way out!!!! Except we cant do tradition sit ups cos of were the port sits. If we eat too much we end up throwing up and still have to eat right and excerise. But after the inital pay out its cheaper cos of less food especially buy in bulk and cook big amounts then measure them abd freeze. This works really well when your on mushies! I got it taken out 2 years ago but im getting it put back in 30th november cos i miss the feeling of saity cos im sure im not the only one even though i had eaten a big meal i would eat more and go looking for food were as a lapband you dont have those feelings which is the main reson i gained most of the weight back. Im in Australia and have moved states, i talked with my parents and they agreed and could see how unhappy i was now. At work i have told some but the others i have just told them im having 2 weeks off. Just dont listen to the bad comments, in 6 months when your losing weight they will be the ones commenting in your weight loss. Hang in there and we are all here for you!

[Daisy1244 36]

I am choosing not to tell anyone! I just didnt want to deal with all the comments. Friends of ours had it done a husband and wife and although they don't stay on program, people are their food police at parties BBQ etc., I told my hubby just me and you are in this. Funny thing is because I'm taking off work for two weeks my boss wants a doctors note. The office said I'll write whatever you want us to write. Hope it doesn't leak out. Good luck!!

[Darkangel321 61]

Hey all' date=' my first lapband i saw the fantastic results my boss had. I think more than 50kg and i talked to her and was fantastic for advice. I told most at work but i was in a close knit ICU. I did alot of research before and found the main complication that was rare was infection or slow healing of the wound. But we all know its so not the easy way out!!!! Except we cant do tradition sit ups cos of were the port sits. If we eat too much we end up throwing up and still have to eat right and excerise. But after the inital pay out its cheaper cos of less food especially buy in bulk and cook big amounts then measure them abd freeze. This works really well when your on mushies! I got it taken out 2 years ago but im getting it put back in 30th november cos i miss the feeling of saity cos im sure im not the only one even though i had eaten a big meal i would eat more and go looking for food were as a lapband you dont have those feelings which is the main reson i gained most of the weight back. Im in Australia and have moved states, i talked with my parents and they agreed and could see how unhappy i was now. At work i have told some but the others i have just told them im having 2 weeks off. Just dont listen to the bad comments, in 6 months when your losing weight they will be the ones commenting in your weight loss. Hang in there and we are all here for you![/quote']

You are not alone in overeating when you're not hungry. Whether it's emotional, hormonal, or just plain addiction we need help. The most important things I found is dealing with emotional stress eating and what I call "brain hunger". I also do my best to stay away from judgemental and truly overall negative people. Only 2 friends of mine know. One had the surgery the other is my childhood friend that is also a registered nurse. Whatever it takes to help you succeed is what you do!

[Successful4me 51]

I am just starting to research Lapband surgery. I don't want to yell anyone that I'm considering have the surgery. Does anyone else feel this way?

I haven't told a lot of people either. People are ALWAYS ready to judge before finding out the facts about the Lapband. I've been Banded since 12/22/10

[skuzzie 23]

Before you tell people is this is what you need to do. But do your research and talk to us as we have all been there and all had differant experiances. Im going in fir my second band on friday 30th and my other boss was fishing for what surgery i was having i just said it was a female issue and id prefer not to say

[Successful4me 51]

I am choosing not to tell anyone! I just didnt want to deal with all the comments. Friends of ours had it done a husband and wife and although they don't stay on program, people are their food police at parties BBQ etc., I told my hubby just me and you are in this. Funny thing is because I'm taking off work for two weeks my boss wants a doctors note. The office said I'll write whatever you want us to write. Hope it doesn't leak out. Good luck!!

I've been banded since 12/22/10 & have only told 6 people. The people at work don't know. I'm a private person & don't feel that it's necessary to run around telling people. 3 Family members, my hubby & two best friends I've been buddies with for over 30yrs. This is how I like it.