Frustrated...

[dhs917 14]

Been been lurking for a while, finally posting!

I was banded on 9/4/12. I lost 8 lbs pre-op and only 7 more since. I had my first fill las week, not really noticing a difference.... Only 15 lbs altogether since mid-August....

I feel like I'm failing AGAIN. I see others losing 60 lbs in the first 6 weeks, I haven't even lost 20 since this process started. I failed weight watchers, and all the other "diets" which Is why I wanted to get banded, and now I'm failing this too...

I feel like I wasted a ton of money on this surgery... Almost $9,000 for 15 lbs?

I don't know what to do...

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

keep in mind (people like me who are on the larger size with higher bmi's) do tend to lose alittle faster than those who arent. i know it doesnt seem fair but i got alot more numbers to lose then most. *am positive you would not want to lose what i have to*

i think what you lost is right for you. you need to stop right now comparing yourself to whomever as it doesnt help with anything and certainly wont help in the long run. you havent even given the band time to work. you gotta heal first (the first month you shouldnt even be weighing as your body is in recovery and your weight can go up and down. put your big girl shoes on, put a smile on that face, follow the doctors instructions and keep doing what you are doing as you are losing.

seriously, it doesnt matter how much you lose, as long as you are losing (because you will get there eventually).

[dhs917 14]

I started at 5'5" and 235 lbs. I guess seeing everyone's numbers compared to mine makes me feel like I'm not doing enough or not going fast enough.

I have noticed that as it gets colder and I'm beginning to wear last-years sweaters that some are too big so that's good. And my favorite jeans are a little lose as well... Baby steps.....

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

I started at 5'5" and 235 lbs. I guess seeing everyone's numbers compared to mine makes me feel like I'm not doing enough or not going fast enough.

I have noticed that as it gets colder and I'm beginning to wear last-years sweaters that some are too big so that's good. And my favorite jeans are a little lose as well... Baby steps.....

well, i feel that way also. so see, you are not alone

as long as your clothes are getting looser, you are feeling better

(physically and mentally) who cares if the number (creeps off). because

a creeping number hopefully means it will stay off.

and no matter what someone weighs, it will come of the same way. 1/4 pound at a time.

you are doing so great.

keep going.....

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

You were just banded 4 weeks ago and have lost 15 pounds. The first 4-6 weeks after surgery are for healing not losing, so the fact you lost at all is outstanding.

I'm not sure what you were expecting, but the average is 1-2 pounds per week. Be patient.

[lassie 247]

I started at 5'5" and 235 lbs. I guess seeing everyone's numbers compared to mine makes me feel like I'm not doing enough or not going fast enough.

I have noticed that as it gets colder and I'm beginning to wear last-years sweaters that some are too big so that's good. And my favorite jeans are a little lose as well... Baby steps.....

you are doing just fine, at your weight it will come off slower and that is ok. Just keep up the doctor's instructions and stay positive. Hugs

[Toddy 758]

I started at 5'5" and 235 lbs. I guess seeing everyone's numbers compared to mine makes me feel like I'm not doing enough or not going fast enough.

I have noticed that as it gets colder and I'm beginning to wear last-years sweaters that some are too big so that's good. And my favorite jeans are a little lose as well... Baby steps.....

I started at 5' 2", 212, and felt the exact same way you do. I'd see others that were banded near or even after me that had lost A LOT more than I had and felt bad. But I'm 8 months post-surgery, down 50 pounds, and as long as the scale keeps moving in the right direction, I'm okay with that.

One thing that helped me is to write down my weight once a week, on the same day and time. When it seems like the scale hasn't moved in FOREVER, you can go back and see, oh, six pounds in one month isn't too bad!

[Kime-lou 648]

As you see we all feel like this at some point. From what my doctor say you are doing wonderful. Right now worry about healing and not losing. You have had many fills yet, so it will get better. Stick to the plan and it will come off.

[dhs917 14]

One thing that helped me is to write down my weight once a week, on the same day and time. When it seems like the scale hasn't moved in FOREVER, you can go back and see, oh, six pounds in one month isn't too bad!

This is helpful! I'm going to try this :-)

[dhs917 14]

you are doing just fine, at your weight it will come off slower and that is ok. Just keep up the doctor's instructions and stay positive. Hugs

Thank you for the encouragement. I have a Westie too :-) She's my best buddy :-)

[SinCityGal 43]

dhs917- you're doing great, just keep going!

[Maddysgram 6,159]

You were just banded 4 weeks ago and have lost 15 pounds. The first 4-6 weeks after surgery are for healing not losing' date=' so the fact you lost at all is outstanding.

I'm not sure what you were expecting, but the average is 1-2 pounds per week. Be patient.[/quote']

DITTO

[RhondaMarie 67]

Also keep in mind some of us had to wait 6 months and lose during that period. I sounds like you had <30 days!!! You have lost WAY MORE than I did my first two months! Keep you head up!!

[Sojourner 2,446]

Been been lurking for a while, finally posting!

I was banded on 9/4/12. I lost 8 lbs pre-op and only 7 more since. I had my first fill las week, not really noticing a difference.... Only 15 lbs altogether since mid-August....

I feel like I'm failing AGAIN. I see others losing 60 lbs in the first 6 weeks, I haven't even lost 20 since this process started. I failed weight watchers, and all the other "diets" which Is why I wanted to get banded, and now I'm failing this too...

I feel like I wasted a ton of money on this surgery... Almost $9,000 for 15 lbs?

I don't know what to do...

Been been lurking for a while, finally posting!

I was banded on 9/4/12. I lost 8 lbs pre-op and only 7 more since. I had my first fill las week, not really noticing a difference.... Only 15 lbs altogether since mid-August....

I feel like I'm failing AGAIN. I see others losing 60 lbs in the first 6 weeks, I haven't even lost 20 since this process started. I failed weight watchers, and all the other "diets" which Is why I wanted to get banded, and now I'm failing this too...

I feel like I wasted a ton of money on this surgery... Almost $9,000 for 15 lbs?

I don't know what to do...

You did not gain the weight in a short amount of time...and it's not realistic to expect to loose it rapidly either. You are still in the healing stage post op, and priority one now is to heal, and the weight loss will come.

You did not mention if you are getting any exercise...for me, no exercise = no weight loss. Even if it is only a walk, get active and try to get your heart rate up at least 3-4 days a week.

First fills typically do not provide any restriction...and I've learned that restriction does not mean (at least for me) the complete disappearance of an appetite. Much of the responsibility for my weight loss is tied with my degree of diet compliance.

Try to focus on what you have accomplished thus far (you really are off to a good beginning), instead of what you want to accomplish and have not yet done. Along your journey it is important to focus on yourself, as we are individuals and no two bandsters will have identical weight loss journeys.

Life with my band has helped me develop a life skill which eluded me for many years...to be patient.

Best wishes...

[lassie 247]

Thank you for the encouragement. I have a Westie too :-) She's my best buddy :-)

love my westie. name (MacTavish). Do you have a support group in your area, the hospital where I had my band done has one each month, it might help to check into it. We are all here for you keep reaching out. Hugs and more hugs.