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I am in mourning...well kind of...let me explain. This weekend I got partially stuck on a chocolate chip cookie--not one of those hard, dry ones but instead it was one of those warm, gooey, chocolately, surely directly from Heaven. It looked and smelled so good that I guess all rational thought left my head because although I sure enjoyed that warm, gooey cookie...I suffered almost as soon as I swallowed it. This made me wonder...how many of you are now mourning foods that were once a huge part of your life and now you can't go anywhere near them??

Please...I don't need lectures saying "oh you shouldn't have eaten that." or "You know Cookies aren't healthy, I only eat health stuff." etc...yeah...I know all this stuff and really don't want to hear it. I am not the only one who has/or will do this--and yes...it was a learning experience...but it was also a huge disappointment that I will no longer be able to enjoy this yummy treat. I know that I'll get over it and move on.

Please feel free to share some of the foods that you are mourning...maybe together we can share a moment of silence and a few smiles and then move on toward our new healthy life.

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having a band is way different from (dieting)

its all up to choices. its all up to our mental thinking.

if i want a cookie like you described, i am gonna have it. just one. not the whole box or bag (that is how i got obese in the first place).

i dont mourn anything. i dont (miss) anything. i ate enough junk/high fat foods in my past that i really dont need to have them right now. but since i am not in that diet thinking, i will eat what i know is better for my body and my health. food is not the enemy. overeating is. (i was a huge binger/purger).

my hub and son love junk food. i have it in the house. yep i do. do i want to eat them? heck yeah but i am stronger then a bag of chips or Cookies. those high fat/junk items cannot make me eat them. if we choose to eat that, then we do. if you do, eat it and get on with it.

far be it from me to lecture anyone, but def think we need to eat to live and not focus on (what you cant have) because you can eat whatever you want. (the band makes it in smaller amounts)

i wish you and anyone who reads this, the best always :)

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You're right!!! If I want something I'm gonna have it (or at least try a bite to see how it goes down before trying another). I do know that there are foods that I can no longer eat because getting stuck just isn't worth it--no matter how good that bite tasted--such a pizza, my mom's chicken and noodles. Thanks for your kind comments.

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I completely agree with Carolinagirl. I can and still do eat whatever I want. There is nothing I can't eat and I wouldn't want it any other way. I just know that when I do want to indulge it has to be occasionally and in moderation. For instance, about once a month I order pizza for my kids and I, but I only have 2 pieces rather than a half a pizza like I used to. A couple days ago I was really craving a Peanut Butter cup, so bought one pack, had one and gave the other to my son, rather than eating two entire packs alone like I used to.

I go by the 90/10 rule. 90% of the time I eat healthy, 10% of the time I eat what I want. But I don't mourn any foods. I just enjoy them in moderation.

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You're absolutely correct that as bandsters make their adjustments to healthier eating, we can actually mourn the loss of our comfort foods as we say good bye to them.

Like carolinagirl, I usually allow myself to have a bite of what food I am craving...it does not happen often, but I accept that we are not perfect, and will not be compliant with our bandster diet 100% of the time.

Mourn your loss...and focus on how much healthier you will feel in the future without your cookie who is not your friend.

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Yup not in mourning for things.

chocolate chip Cookies are good some days not others. 1 of them did not get any of us here. Its too many of lots of things.

Actually thought i mourn bread and rice but not really.

Enjoy life!!

Wendy

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I would love a nice bgg chesseburger from Mcdonalds or a cheesesteak. Neither one of them goes down well, so I steere clear of them. Boy oh boy

would I like one though....lmbo

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I would love a nice bgg chesseburger from Mcdonalds or a cheesesteak. Neither one of them goes down well, so I steere clear of them. Boy oh boy

would I like one though....lmbo

Thank you for posting something that you are missing. This is what I wanted to hear...not "oh have a bite if you want it." We all have things we miss/must steer clear of no matter what thoughts enter (or my case leave) my head. Thanks for sharing.

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let me just add, i sure do miss (alot of the stuff i use to binge with) i am only human. a princess also but def human.

all the best you guys :)

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In mourning...subway sandwiches, a huge cheeseburger, a thick sirloin steak, pizza, Bagels and doughnuts, hmmm I could go on and on. But, in the midst of mourning I am celebrating life!!!!! Walking and running, bending to tie my shoes, pulling myself out of a bath tub, riding in amusement rides, hiking and climbing, swimming at a public pool. So it's a small sacrifice that yummy food.< /p>

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I eat whatever I want as far as sweets, etc go.

The only thing I could honestly say I will miss eating is this delicious hot beef/mozzarella cheese/cream cheese/pepper sandwiches that this local shop makes. We only used to get them a couple times a year, but I wouldn't be able to handle the bread anymore. And fresh french bread :)

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I miss donuts. They seem to be the only bread product that gets stuck, no matter how well I chew.

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I'm in mourning big time too. I can't eat any bread products so no BLT's, grilled cheese, sub sandwiches. Nothing like that. Or cake, brownies, Cookies, donuts.

No pizza or burgers or burritos.

Can eat candy and ice cream though.

I think it must be a good thing for me that I can't eat those things. But I sure miss them, sometimes a whole lot!

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I miss donuts, candy, chips, and DR PEPPER like crazy! I use to cry over the Dr. Pepper, but those days are mostly gone. I know share my candy as well. I don't eat chips and donuts. I obviously don't drink my DP, but like all good addictions, yes I cry for it.

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I feel very fortunate that 5 months out I haven't had any complications or trouble with anything getting stuck yet (knocking on wood! ) but with the being said I haven't pushed the limits very either. I too am mourning some of my all time favorite comfort foods such as STEAK!!! But in return I am gaining so much and for that I am truly thankful!

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