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Feeling a little discouraged. I had my surgery on July 26th I had lost 10 pounds on the pre diet. I did not get any resistance until 3 weeks after surgery and now only have 3 cc's due to complications last time I had a fill. Since I have lost 8-10 pounds more and I say that because it seems to fluctuate a lot! I can eat almost anything and unfortunatly now I can eat a lot more of it and I'm hungry all the time. I just fill stuck. I have a dr appt late today and am hoping we can get a new fill in without the trama we had last time. I hoped I would lose 40-50 pounds by late November for our Disney trip but now I don't know if that will happen. My oldest daughter gives me the evil eye everytime we eat together because she is watching what I eat as much if not more than I do but I stay hungry. My calorie intake seems to be going up everyday, I'm still under 1200 calories but I have to do something quick. Mainly just need someone out there that's been through this to give me some good advice.

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You need to return to the basics of the bandster diet; what were your surgeon's instructions to you?

Bandsters are more successful with weight loss if they measure their portions. You also have to consistently make good food choices...and stay with basic healthy choices...lean Proteins and Fiber carbs for meals.

It would help for you to keep a food journal so that you have a better awareness of everything you eat. Consulting with a dietitian would be helpful also; they can assist you to modify your diet plan for better success.

Just because you can eat larger portions does not mean that you should. I"ve had to learn strategies to manage my hunger between meals; and try to drink the necessary FF/SF fluids and stay busy so that my thoughts do not stay focused on food.

It would help for you to understand the difference between "head hunger" and authentic hunger. It's entirely possible that some of your hunger is based on inaccurate thinking as it relates to your pre band eating patterns. Only you can change this...and for weight loss it has to change.

Set some realistic goals for yourself...and make exercise a priority.

Best wishes for your success...

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Another starry eyed bandster meets reality. :angry:

Many bandsters ignore the warnings and advice of the doctors, nutritionists and support goups, in favor of the utopian ramblings of the very very few who meet extreme success immediately after surgery?

I somewhat recall a year ago as I was going through the seminars, doctor visits, support groups and reading this forum that the weight will come off slowly. But I don't recall anyone mentioning "Bandster Hell"? I've commented on BH numerous times and probably will in the future.

I lost 12 lbs the first 30 days. Then nothing for the next 3.5 months. It took me 6 fills and 6 months to finally get to the green zone. I started losing weight again in my 5th month. Slowly, very slowly losing weight. 40-50 lbs of weight loss by November is unrealistic for most of us. If you weigh 350 lbs, it's possible to lose that much but only because you're carrying around about 40 lbs of excess fluids trapped in your fat cells. So you can lose weight but not necessarily fat.

Your band is not tight enough most likely and won't be for a few fills. It happens to almost all of us. You will have hunger problems until you get some restriction. B-52 is a forum member and he always says: "Until there's restriction, it's just another diet"! This is so true.

So, almost all of us have been where you are and many of us were disappointed the band didn't start to work miracles immediately. I know I was. Brace yourself for a long journey but a journey worth taking. Hang in there, it will get better, slowly.

tmf

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Exercise plan is your best bet for many reasons - its always calories n calories out regardless of bariatric tool. Remember you are on journey - doing battle - The Victory isn't about doing Extaordinary things It IS about doing Ordinary things DAILY - hit me up if you need help

Lee

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']Just because you can eat larger portions does not mean that you should. I"ve had to learn strategies to manage my hunger between meals; and try to drink the necessary FF/SF fluids and stay busy so that my thoughts do not stay focused on food.

couldnt have said it any plainer than my pal sojo--i live her and tmf's comments daily.

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I really don't expect miracles. Probably just need that extra push to get me to where I need to be physically and emotionally. I am dealing with a lot of personal stuff (as most are) on top of this. The day after my surgery my daughter who has lived away for 7 years moved back in with us and as much as I love her being here it's been a challenge along with this. Yes I have to get on with the band wagon and exercise more, I was doing pretty well with my walking and then the rains came and I think it will rain forever but there are other things I can do now that I have almost completely healed. I have definitely seen some differences and others have to, I just need someone who's been there to remind me of how, why and when. :)

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I really don't expect miracles. Probably just need that extra push to get me to where I need to be physically and emotionally. I am dealing with a lot of personal stuff (as most are) on top of this. The day after my surgery my daughter who has lived away for 7 years moved back in with us and as much as I love her being here it's been a challenge along with this. Yes I have to get on with the band wagon and exercise more, I was doing pretty well with my walking and then the rains came and I think it will rain forever but there are other things I can do now that I have almost completely healed. I have definitely seen some differences and others have to, I just need someone who's been there to remind me of how, why and when. :)

you got this

just go day by day

there is no time limit placed on you to lose any amount of weight in a short time. to do so is dieting. you are not dieting. you are just changing what you and how much you eat now bc of the band.

just because you have not lost (what you consider alot) does not mean you are a failure. you lost what 20 pounds? that is nothing to sneeze at missy. that is 4 .....five pounds bags of sugar. be proud of yourself. i sure am. as all of us here on LBT

do what you can with what you have

(i cant walk much/far bc of my knees, but i do what i can)

its all i can do. it doesnt make me less than my bud dan who rides 40+ miles a week on his bike....just means we are different

hang in there

put a positive tude on your face and move on :)

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I really don't expect miracles. Probably just need that extra push to get me to where I need to be physically and emotionally. I am dealing with a lot of personal stuff (as most are) on top of this. The day after my surgery my daughter who has lived away for 7 years moved back in with us and as much as I love her being here it's been a challenge along with this. Yes I have to get on with the band wagon and exercise more' date=' I was doing pretty well with my walking and then the rains came and I think it will rain forever but there are other things I can do now that I have almost completely healed. I have definitely seen some differences and others have to, I just need someone who's been there to remind me of how, why and when. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />[/quote']

You will find it helpful to read my sisters blog www.300poundsdown.com She is following my plan is down 180lbs - look at her past entries in posts - I think it will give you the bump you want.

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Wow, all of you guys give great advice !!!

I got my surgery three days before you lindabug and I went trough the same thing as you're going. But you can do it, just take it one day at a time and talk to your doctor about what you're feeling and how much you're eating, he will be able to help you accordingly. You're on the right path, be proud of that!!!

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Thanks guys!

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WOW Her blog is the inspiration I need, I plan to go to it everyday and know if she can I can. Thanks so much for sharing it!!!

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You will find it helpful to read my sisters blog www.300poundsdown.com She is following my plan is down 180lbs - look at her past entries in posts - I think it will give you the bump you want.

Her blog is so inspiring, I have saved it to my favorites and anytime I need that push I can look at it and know if she can I can. Thanks so much for sharing it with me!!

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I agree with all the others. It is a journey so take one day at a time. Be sure to exercise, Water aerobics is a great exercise as it is easy on the joints and you move every part of your body. Even if you just go to the pool and walk for an hour every other day you will see a change. It toke me almost 2 years to lose 120 lbs but I did it. Let me tell you it is worth it. Make sure you eat Protein every meal and if you have a snack. One other thing I found that helped my was to drink plain hot water when I felthungry the warmth helps you fell full and satisfied. Good luck, Keep putting one foot in front of the other and always move forward even if it is only and inch at a time.

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