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hi folks

i had my badn fitted in june i have lost just over 6 st but i have bee having problems since january when i was over restrictied i can still tak on fluids Soups and stuff but most soild food causes me to pb. I went back to see my surgeon a cople of weeks ago and he refused an unfill but said to go onto fluids again for 4 weeks to give tit cahnce to settle and thans should give me a good weight loss and in turn taht will reduce the restriction to be honest i was desperate so agreed

first wek in fluids i lost 7lb or there abouts

i ahve remained on around 700-800 cals a day and this week i ahve gained 3lb work that one out becasue i am so frustrated

i have had enough now i ahve ben out walking 3 timnes this week and generally stepped up my activity over all i really do not see teh point right now

i feel like going and buying the biggest bar of chocolate throwing cautin tot eh ind and eating till i throw up becasue i so do not see the point of all of this if i am going to gain weight

the dietican said to me yesterday that my matabolism is so stuffed up that my body has forgetton what it is suppose to be doing

please help

how can i reduce i am only having 3 200mls of Soup a day and 1/2 a weetabix i veg juice and tea/coffee/sugar free squash

thansk dee

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don't lose hope! truth is, you WILL lose weight at that rate of intake. of course, your body may currently be trying to hold onto to what it can due to the extreme lack of intake. try to raise the calories, but more importantly, you need Protein. can you not eat hard Proteins at all? what about egg drop Soup? or Protein shakes? 700-800 calories is just not enough. can you not eat flaked tuna, fish or chicken? what about trying these blended? how slow are you eating when you eat solids? are you chewing until it is mush? are you able to get in your 64 oz of Water?

please try to focus more on Protein .. check out www.fitday.com to see how your protein/calories add up..

it will get better, I promise!

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don't lose hope! truth is, you WILL lose weight at that rate of intake. of course, your body may currently be trying to hold onto to what it can due to the extreme lack of intake. try to raise the calories, but more importantly, you need Protein. can you not eat hard Proteins at all? what about egg drop Soup? or Protein shakes? 700-800 calories is just not enough. can you not eat flaked tuna, fish or chicken? what about trying these blended? how slow are you eating when you eat solids? are you chewing until it is mush? are you able to get in your 64 oz of Water?

please try to focus more on protein .. check out www.fitday.com to see how your protein/calories add up..

it will get better, I promise!

no i can not tollerate any hard foods and even blended meats are making me feel ill my surgeon was clear no soild foods for 4 weeks so i am not even trying any more but when i was i was eating really slowly in fact my dietican told me i was eating tom slowly can not get it right i am going to up my Water intake this weekend to se if that makes a difference

my dietican does a weekly nutrition evaluation for me and it is not good news :)

thanks

dee

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:clap2: Please dont gilve into chocklate!!! It isnt worth it. There are probably many non scale victories you have acquired, check out the threads that address other nsvs that people have had and you may discover some of your own! Numbers can drive us crazy, we are so much more than that. The bigger picture says you are very different than last year right? Its all in the right dilrection so hang in there with us, we need to stick together. Its when we are isolated that trouble gets to us! Take care and listen to some oldies and if you are young, watch a few cartoons, they help us find a happy place. :)

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Ok, I spent a month at 700 calories and less and lost 1.5 pounds total.

Please please please find another surgeon!

Being too tight like this is not healthy nor is it helpful. For him to insist that you stay too tight is nothing short of curel and inhumane!

I don't know if any of our UK bandsters can help you, but you need help fast. This isn't fair for him to do to you, and you desperately need an unfil.

I think some bandsters want to be too tight, but you obviously do not, and I think you need to demand an unfill. Make a deal with him and tell him for every day that he can stay at that amount of food, so will you. Fair's fair.

I am so very sorry you are being treated so poorly! You have my deepest sympathy!

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Ok, I spent a month at 700 calories and less and lost 1.5 pounds total.

Please please please find another surgeon!

Being too tight like this is not healthy nor is it helpful. For him to insist that you stay too tight is nothing short of curel and inhumane!

I don't know if any of our UK bandsters can help you, but you need help fast. This isn't fair for him to do to you, and you desperately need an unfil.

I think some bandsters want to be too tight, but you obviously do not, and I think you need to demand an unfill. Make a deal with him and tell him for every day that he can stay at that amount of food, so will you. Fair's fair.

I am so very sorry you are being treated so poorly! You have my deepest sympathy!

i am afraid that here in teh uk it is not that simple

the helth service have paid for my operation and my orimary care trust only have a contract with him so can not pay for me to see a different surgeon and because i am on state benifits i do not ahve the money to go private and if i did go for a private unfill tehn he would discharge his responsablity to me so iwould be left with no care at all

i ahve been to his office and demanded an unfill he said it is not possible for me to be over restricted as the fill was done under xray and it is his opinion that it is not possible for my band to be too tight

i must be doig somthign to cause inflamation and swelling to my stoma so if i stick to the ru8les and stay on fluids for 4 more weeks it is his opinion that i will sort the problem out but he will not see me agian till end of may

and it is his opinion that if i had been following hte rules i would not have a nutrition problem the fact that i have been bringing back more than i ahve been keeping down since january and i was limited before that has nothig to do with it in his opinion and of course he is the surgeon so he knows best surely he has all the txt book knowldge dam arrogant ******* i am living hte walk not him

dee

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Dee, I agree that an unfill is really called for! If there's no possible way that can be done, can you get a prescription for Prevacid or something like that? Staying on fluids is doubtless a good idea, and you really will lose weight over time that way. So don't worry about your weight, just worry about getting your stomach better.

Hugs to you--I KNOW it sucks not being able to eat. :hug:

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I'm sorry you are having a hard time...since you are stuck with your dr., you have no choice really. Do the liquid thing, make sure you are using Protein Powder or Protein Shakes, and you will lose weight...your body is in starvation mode and is holding on to whatever it can. It will figure it out eventually, and you will start losing again.

Medical system in UK...is everyone on government medical care, like Canada? I don't know if I'm using the right words; if not, feel free to educate me!

Good luck with your situation,

Cindy

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