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Luckily I have a great support system in my home life. My boyfriend supports me and so does my family. My best friend was banded 2 years ago. I'm actually getting transferred to a different hospital for my dream job (yay). I'm not sure if I am going to tell any of my new coworkers . I don't really care what any one else thinks but I also don't feel like hearing any bs ;)

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Luckily I have a great support system in my home life. My boyfriend supports me and so does my family. My best friend was banded 2 years ago. I'm actually getting transferred to a different hospital for my dream job (yay). I'm not sure if I am going to tell any of my new coworkers . I don't really care what any one else thinks but I also don't feel like hearing any bs ;)

The person who said you were going to die, do they work in a healthcare setting too? They said ignorant, I hope not! I work in a hospital and to my face, everyone has been nice as pie and getting banded seems like its getting more popular. 3 coworkers are currently preparing for surgery. Good luck!

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The person who said you were going to die' date=' do they work in a healthcare setting too? They said ignorant, I hope not! I work in a hospital and to my face, everyone has been nice as pie and getting banded seems like its getting more popular. 3 coworkers are currently preparing for surgery. Good luck![/quote']

She's a nurse and has been for the last like 40 years. I know she is ignorant.

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I am in a friend's wedding in October and my consult is next week. I told my "friend" the bride to be that I was going to have it done. She kinda freaked out on me - it what it boiled down to was that she didn't want me to be skinnier than her...she actually said that. She's not supporting me at all and said that I can never eat again. I told her I've had a long relationship with food and over eating and that I was ready for it to be over. I can't wait till her wedding is done with....gonna trim the fat in other areas of my life.

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Rachel - this process of self-discovery we go through with being banded really puts into focus who are friends are. The way I saw it, if you weren't going to be supportive, or at least quiet, then I didn't have room for you in my daily life anymore.

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Jen - agreed. For the most part everyone is supportive - I was just appalled by her reaction. I have two kids. My oldest is special needs and I worry about not being around for him when he's older b/c of my unhealthy life style. I told this friend that she should be supportive and should want me to be healthier and that I need to be there for my kids in the future...etc....she was like "fine, I'll be supportive" - but she voices her anti-surgery band any time I bring it up. I told her I wouldn't be having it until after her wedding...so she should be happy..lol. I keep telling her I'm going to stop talking to her after the wedding..she thinks I'm joking.

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once I get an official surgery date I plan on telling everyone I know via Facebook :D gotta love the social network. I'm hoping my friends will be positive.

That is what I did after I had surgery! I have been lucky I guess I have had a lot of support an if people didn't agree w my choice they haven't said anything to my face anyways. I figure I hope to be a positive role model for lap band and I'm one of those people that puts everything out there anyways!

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