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My husband has been with me from day one. He has come to every single seminar and up to including day of surgery sitting and waiting with me until they pushed me into the surgery room. He sometimes might make a remark how hot I look, even at my age and that somebody might steal me and I feel very pleased with myself when he says that. But...he also knows we have been together 32 years and nothing on this earth would make me leave him for another man whether fat or skinny. I am off all meds and even though he is 10 years older than me and heavy he is on no meds either ( good genes in his family). I explained that even though his mom is 99 years old, the people in my family have died by the time they hit 70 because of weight issues. Good luck and just keep reassuring him that you are there for him. If the marriage falls apart, I do not believe it would be because of the weight but because there was problems from other things that just came to a head after you getting the weight off. Time will tell and I for one believe in fate, which is to say that some things cannot be controlled. I never regretted the surgery and you will not either.

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Your story has me thinking more now then ever. I hope things work out for you n your husband. I do worry sometimes if this surgery will change who I am as a person if I will turn out to be a mean girl after its all done. I know that I would not ever leave my husband because we have been married almost 10 years. But I still worry if my attuide might change after surgery. He might not like the new me even if I'm not mean I'm sure my cofondence will go up afterward's n he might not be able to deal with that. I'm so worried but I know that this is the best and right step for my life right now.

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