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Last week I was doing really great. I exercised six days a week, burning around 220 calories each time (according to myfitnesspal.com), ate about 1100 calories a day, drank at least 64 oz of Water a day, and got my Protein. Yesterday was a rest day, but I still took a leisurely walk with my fiance. Then we went to my in-laws for dinner. I wasn't too bad, although I did eat my first jelly donut in about 7 months (I told myself I was just going to have a piece, ha ha). That was really my worst indiscretion for the whole week., and surely didn't undo all of my hard work.

I stepped on the scale today expecting to lose at least 2 pounds. What did I lose? 1 measly pound. Now, I should be pretty proud of myself for losing and not gaining or plateauing, but I'm just MAD! Why am I mad at myself? Now I'm starting to feel the old habits creeping in: "Oh well, you did all that hard work and only lost 1 pound. Here, eat this bag of Cookies, you'll feel better." There is NO way I'm going down that road again, but why can't I just be happy with my progress so far? Maybe PMS has something to do with it? Is my body rebelling against me for trying to take away its precious fat? Or am I doing something wrong and I really should have lost two pounds?

Thoughts? Comments? Am I just being a whiner for no reason?

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i think you already know the answer. maybe it was a plateau. but the bags of Cookies will make it a + instead of any -. just keep up what you know is the right thing to do. dont let your doubts do you in, just think next week it will be 2 pounds, maybe more. as long as you go down and not up!

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You are doing great! 1-2 pounds is what is to be expected. I know well the feeling of wanting more. Keep on doing what your doing and the scale will continue to move. Try to be patient. You didn't gain all the weight in a short period of time, and you won't loose it in a short period of time either. Again, you are doing awsome, keep up the good work!

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Last week I was doing really great. I exercised six days a week, burning around 220 calories each time (according to myfitnesspal.com), ate about 1100 calories a day, drank at least 64 oz of Water a day, and got my Protein. Yesterday was a rest day, but I still took a leisurely walk with my fiance. Then we went to my in-laws for dinner. I wasn't too bad, although I did eat my first jelly donut in about 7 months (I told myself I was just going to have a piece, ha ha). That was really my worst indiscretion for the whole week., and surely didn't undo all of my hard work.

I stepped on the scale today expecting to lose at least 2 pounds. What did I lose? 1 measly pound. Now, I should be pretty proud of myself for losing and not gaining or plateauing, but I'm just MAD! Why am I mad at myself? Now I'm starting to feel the old habits creeping in: "Oh well, you did all that hard work and only lost 1 pound. Here, eat this bag of Cookies, you'll feel better." There is NO way I'm going down that road again, but why can't I just be happy with my progress so far? Maybe PMS has something to do with it? Is my body rebelling against me for trying to take away its precious fat? Or am I doing something wrong and I really should have lost two pounds?

Thoughts? Comments? Am I just being a whiner for no reason?

Jenn, you've lost 59 pounds in just a few short months. That's awesome! Be proud of yourself. I have found that once you hit Onederland every pound lost is a struggle! Remember, you are not on a diet. You have changed your lifestyle. Jelly donuts and cookies happen...so do plateaus. Don't beat yourself up over them! Just keep doing what you have been. The weight loss will continue. It just may be a little slower now.

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Dont beat yourself up. I have gained 8 pounds in just a few weeks i have had only 1 fill. I just want you to know the gaining is horrible. i am in a bad depression right now and it is partly due to the gaining. Come on girl lift your head up. You are doing great. dont grab the Cookies but if you do grab 1 bag of the 100 calorie packs. they are pretty good. Give the rest of the box to DH if he is not trying to lose. or take them to work and give em to your co workers. You dont want those little bags sitting around calling your name i promise you. Again keep your head up you ARE doing GREAT! just get back on the wagon and forget about that donut.

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100 calorie packs are great but they're soooo expensive! I buy the regular size packages of cookies...crackers...whatever and figure out how many in a 100 calorie serving and put them is zipper bags. It's much cheaper that way!

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100 calorie packs are great but they're soooo expensive! I buy the regular size packages of Cookies...crackers...whatever and figure out how many in a 100 calorie serving and put them is zipper bags. It's much cheaper that way!

good idea. zipper bags are expensive too. but i can get em at the $ store.

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I've come to realize that it will never be fast enough for us.. whether it's 1-2 pounds or 9-10 pounds... we will always want it to be more! Just be happy you are going in the right direction.. And keep on keepin on! :-)

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The best advice I have seen on this board said, “Hey, remember this is a lifestyle change. If the process of going-on-a-diet-failing-and-then-beating-yourself-up worked, none of us would have needed a lapband in the first place.” (I wish I could remember who posted it so I could give them credit)

Anyway, this is a lifestyle, not a diet. The idea of being perfect everyday for the rest of your life is unreasonable. My fear when I see these types of post (or I see myself doing it) is that overly high expectations lead to self anger, self anger leads to hopelessness, hopelessness leads to sabotage, and sabotage leads to weight gain. Don’t go down that path.

Breath. You’ve done awesome. It could be the PMS (definitely a factor). You know what you’re doing otherwise you wouldn’t have done so well this far. You know what you have to do, so do your best at it.

Great job all around!

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I understand how you a feeling, i have been at 183lbs for over 3 weeks...Driving me Crazy

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Thanks Jenn for your comments - I know how you feel. I get so angry with myself with I eat something I know I should not eat. I know this is a lifestyle change but for some reason, my lifestyle isn't changing enough for me. Yes, I am loosing weight and yes, it is at the 1-2 pounds a week level and I know I didn't wake up one morning and find myself 118 pounds overweight - but I am not a strong person and I have very little self-control/will power. That is why I have the band. Comments like you made make me feel "normal" and that is was ok when I made my goof - I am not alone...thank you Jenn. Good luck with the rest of November and December and hang in there we will get through this together !

Melinda (63 pounds thinner since I began the lapband thing - 55 more to go !)

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Thanks everyone :-) I needed that!

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