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Hello everyone,

I was lap band on March 21, 2011. I've had many ups and downs since then. At my two week check up with my surgeon, I had lost 13 lbs. That, coupled with the fact that I can wear more clothes from my wardrobe makes me happy. But, I am struggling with a few things and hoping someone could help me out. I noticed that I tend to get more upset at people or situations in my life. Normally, I would be annoyed, but I will shrug it off and get over it. Now, I dwell on it and become really upset. I am wondering if the sudden change in mood/ coping is because now I cannot be an emotional eater. Is there anyone out there that experienced something similar after being banded? I want to be happy and enjoy this new life that I have, not be upset the whole time. Thanks,

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Hello everyone,

I was lap band on March 21, 2011. I've had many ups and downs since then. At my two week check up with my surgeon, I had lost 13 lbs. That, coupled with the fact that I can wear more clothes from my wardrobe makes me happy. But, I am struggling with a few things and hoping someone could help me out. I noticed that I tend to get more upset at people or situations in my life. Normally, I would be annoyed, but I will shrug it off and get over it. Now, I dwell on it and become really upset. I am wondering if the sudden change in mood/ coping is because now I cannot be an emotional eater. Is there anyone out there that experienced something similar after being banded? I want to be happy and enjoy this new life that I have, not be upset the whole time. Thanks,

Hello,

I am not banded yet so can't respond to what you are going through right now. I just want to say I am sorry you are struggling and hope things get better soon. I am on my pre-op diet right now and feel kind of weak at times and this makes me seem to get upset much easier. Good luck.

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I haven't had mine either; however, one of the criterias for the insurance to cover was behavioral health counseling. I not only did the evaluation visit require, I went back because there was a lot of stuff going on on the inside of me and I plan on going back because it it helping and I am finding me again. Hope that helps. Also writing down your feeling in a journal.

Bev.

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I am day 6 post op and have not had any emotional upsets yet but I know I will. It is hard to go from using food to deal with your emotions and then abruptly not have the food available. It will take time to develop other coping skills. I am trying to take a breath when something comes up so I can get a handle on what is bothering me. There is a lot of things that need changing other than just the eating for me to be successful at losing the weight!

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Hello everyone,

I was lap band on March 21, 2011. I've had many ups and downs since then. At my two week check up with my surgeon, I had lost 13 lbs. That, coupled with the fact that I can wear more clothes from my wardrobe makes me happy. But, I am struggling with a few things and hoping someone could help me out. I noticed that I tend to get more upset at people or situations in my life. Normally, I would be annoyed, but I will shrug it off and get over it. Now, I dwell on it and become really upset. I am wondering if the sudden change in mood/ coping is because now I cannot be an emotional eater. Is there anyone out there that experienced something similar after being banded? I want to be happy and enjoy this new life that I have, not be upset the whole time. Thanks,

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Hello everyone,

I was lap band on March 21, 2011. I've had many ups and downs since then. At my two week check up with my surgeon, I had lost 13 lbs. That, coupled with the fact that I can wear more clothes from my wardrobe makes me happy. But, I am struggling with a few things and hoping someone could help me out. I noticed that I tend to get more upset at people or situations in my life. Normally, I would be annoyed, but I will shrug it off and get over it. Now, I dwell on it and become really upset. I am wondering if the sudden change in mood/ coping is because now I cannot be an emotional eater. Is there anyone out there that experienced something similar after being banded? I want to be happy and enjoy this new life that I have, not be upset the whole time. Thanks,

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i am on day 4 of post op and i find i get emotional easily too well i realized that from the pre op too. i realized i have an addiction to food and an emotional eater. without that it is really hard. i seem to mope a round a lot more now and not sure what to do most of the time. Granted.. i am happy that only a couple oz of broth fills me up and the scale seems to be going down but not having that "friend" to turn to is hard

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I have been banded a while and i think any time we make adjustments to what we call our norm, it will take it's toll on us. Although I did not have that, I did have the surgery. We are use to having that salty or sweet thing to make us feel better. All of our emotions were poured on inflicted on that comfort food. Now with out that, we are unsure where to put it. Makes sense to me. A very honest thought. Once you can feel that well up inside of you, remind yourself who you are becoming and go there, make that your happy place, not the food, not the hiding out behind some fatty dish, make your success your new go to place. Make a list of things you want to do that you have not been able to in along while. On my list i had little things like do my own pedicure, walk with out huffing and puffing, look at me in the mirror and not cry, bend over and tie my shoes with out almost blacking, When you can mark something off that list as DONE, that is the best feeling. Make a list of at what lose you will reward yourself, and how you reward yourself. Like I was at 30 pounds I am getting my hair colored in the salon. At goal I am getting braces. For one goal you can spend the night away from home, or say for every 25 pounds I will get one new outfit. Turn it around, don't allow you to rob you of the joy of the new life that is yours. It may take a little practice but you are feeling deprived of some favorite Snacks, but that is what got us all to the need for the lap band. i am so grateful every morning for my lap band. It has NOT been easy the entire time, but I found out early on if it is not working, it is my failt. I take ownership and figure out what is going on and I fix it. I have met the enemy and it is me. So don't let it be you. Look at the wonderful list and trade in your anger, hurt and sorrow for a real joy. We thought we found happiness in our favorite foods, but we just thought we knew what happiness was, NOW WE KNOW and it is one right choice away. You can do this, you deserve to succeed, it is all in you. JUST DO IT!

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