Getting banded and not telling kids!

[laura71 12]

I still haven't told anyone, and the day is getting closer. Have to shut down the laptop on this site everytime my kids run through my room. I just don't want them to know for some reason. They are both so thin and in control and are varsity athletes in their respective sports, and got their FATHER's (my ex is a 6'4" Norweigan Viking) genes. They hopefully will never struggle with their weight, but they don't understand my struggle with mine, nor do they understand why I just don't eat less. (sometimes I don't understand it myself) Now I will be "eating less" just with a little help!

[honk 780]

I was really good the day after the surgery but no way could I have cooked Thanksgiving dinner. I highly recommend getting one of those "catered meals" from the grocery store. You will need to make your order soon though.

As for your reasons for not telling your children I see your point. I do not however agree. The body image thing was something I worried about with my 13 year old neice. She has clearly seen both my and my sisters' struggle with weight. Though my sister has never been as overweight as me. Luckily my neice took after he maternal grandmother and will be tall and thin. I had no intention of having this be something that everone in the family knew about and she did'nt.

I don't know your children but teenagers are a lot smarter than perhaps we like to think. When you start to loose weight could they worry that you are sick or perhaps dying and not telling them? Not to sound alarmist but if my mother suddenly lost a lot of weight I may have dreamt up all kinds of stuff.

When I was a senior in college my mother decided to have a lump removed from her breast. It had been there a long time and the doctor did not think it was a problem. My mother who had lost 1 parent and 3 siblings to cancer decided it had to go. She had the procedure and did not tell any of us. Later when she told me she said she did'nt want to worry me during my exams but I was really hurt.