laura71

Thank you Elcee, Cherri, and Lellow for saying what was on my mind, but I was too afraid to speak. I am newly banded and have no restriction at this point. I have been following the dr's instructions on food and exercise to a T, and AM STARVING. I believe this is what is referred to as bandster hell. BUT, I will deal with it because...
1. I don't want to damage my pouch or band
2. I can hang on until my first FILL/FIX!! did she really call it that?!! I am actually very looking forward to a bit of restriction, even if it does not result in my sweet spot immediately.
3. I interviewed 4 surgeons before choosing the one who's staff and record of success I was most impressed with. If my surgeon wants to do a fill in 3 weeks, I trust he has done this far more than I have, and knows what works. (I'm with Dr Adam Smith, who has performed more bandings in the fort worth area than any other bariatric dr, has a band himself, performs all fills under fluro, and teaches at the local med school) If I didn't like what he did and his fill schedules, I would have chosen someone else.
4. Does the initiator of this somewhat judgemental topic realize that everyone is different, internal organs have different amounts of fat around them, and therefore, the band itself may provide restriction for some higher bmi patients, but none for loser bmi? Every situation is different, and to refer to a fill as a fix, is offensive. A fill is a necessary part of the banding process in order to achieve success. Also necessary for success is active participation on the part of the bandster, but if I could have done this without a band or the necessary fills, I would have done it long ago.
Once again, thank you more experienced bandsters for putting voice for what I was feeling, but was too afraid to say.
All the best to members on this site, and may your sweet spot be found soon and be lasting!
L

What a great group of women...I've enjoyed reading your posts, and your positive supportive attitudes. I'm laura from Texas and was banded on 11/24/10. Self pay low bmi, and I haven't told my kids. So in this Sawyer, we are alike. I don't consider it lying, lol elfie, our family didn't do the whole santa thing either! I just consider it extreemely private. Like my sex life...I have one, I just don't talk about it with my kids. I didn't want them to know 1. didn't want them to worry, and 2. I've never spent this much on myself in my life, and we don't have a lot of extra money around, and I guess I still think I should somehow be spending this money on the kids. (I paid for this by cashing out my ex husbands 401K that I got in the divorce...It's totally worth it to me to have to work a few extra years in order to get quality of life NOW...but, teenagers may not see it that way) AND 3. I did NOT want my ex to know, and I didn't think it was fair to ask the kids to keep something like this from him. So the "burden" so to speak, rests upon my shoulders. One thing I have mentioned to my boyfriend, which may or may not help with your dear man, is "please don't talk about my eating or food at the table" I know what I can and can't handle, and if I need your help, I will ask." I know they are concerned, but we are big girls (HA!) and are in charge of our bodies. FINALLY!