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ape087    1

ape087
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so my poor husband has been trying to help me out and be supportive, and for the most part he has been.

We were watching TV the other night and he grabs my hands and starts looking at my fingers. He goes "hey honey, I can tell you are losing weight". He's peaked my interest so I say "oh yeah, how?" "Well", he says with a big smile, "you dont have fat stubby fingers anymore, they look normal! :thumbup:"

:) IS HE CRAZY?!?!? I appreciate that he has noticed my weight loss, but he could have chose a better way to state that. Poor man, I have to love him, but sometimes I wanna smother him with the feahter pillow he had to have. :w00t: Lord help me lol :)

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AllieB    1

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Poor guy, he meant well!

My stupid husband is wanting a boat so bad so i said "maybe when i'm skinny I'll be more willing to buy a boat since I'll be more comfortable." and he says...."when you're skinny we can fit more people on the boat"

are you serious!??!?!?! Men.

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Llyra    3

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I think it is sweet that he noticed your fingers, but more people in a boat? I might've smacked him one for that!:wink2:

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jguttery    0

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so my poor husband has been trying to help me out and be supportive, and for the most part he has been.

We were watching TV the other night and he grabs my hands and starts looking at my fingers. He goes "hey honey, I can tell you are losing weight". He's peaked my interest so I say "oh yeah, how?" "Well", he says with a big smile, "you dont have fat stubby fingers anymore, they look normal! :thumbup:"

:scared2: IS HE CRAZY?!?!? I appreciate that he has noticed my weight loss, but he could have chose a better way to state that. Poor man, I have to love him, but sometimes I wanna smother him with the feahter pillow he had to have. :biggrin: Lord help me lol :wink2:

Don't you know that's our way of saying "Baby, you look so beautiful tonight." :thumbup:

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gingerjane    5

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I think I would have had to strangle him. I've had my hubby screw up and say the wrong thing, too. Kind of sucks because you want to slug them but you realize that they didn't mean it like you took it.

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jingleboob    5

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They do say things without thinking... the other day we were getting intimate and he said "wow, your boobs have gotten smaller- look at the loose wrinkly skin". Which made me cover up and thank him for the lovely compliment. He immediately said he thought it was cool and would love my boobs no matter how wrinkly they got.

men!

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ap44    0

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Men are certainly good at those types of "compliments," but so are women! At the point I had lost 40 pounds, I saw a coworker I hadn't seen in a while and she told me my "nose looked thinner." I wanted to punch her in HER nose.

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cwm812    11

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They do say things without thinking... the other day we were getting intimate and he said "wow, your boobs have gotten smaller- look at the loose wrinkly skin". Which made me cover up and thank him for the lovely compliment. He immediately said he thought it was cool and would love my boobs no matter how wrinkly they got.

men!

OMG.. I think we're married to the same guy! or, at least 2 guys who think alike. My husband said the exact same thing! He thought it was a compliment, too! You'd think after 24 years of marriage, he'd have learned how to think before he speaks, but he tries hard. He just doesn't always pull it off!

Cindy

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Tsaleen    1

Tsaleen
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My husband has told me so far

Babe I can tell you are losing weight, you used to have this huge fat bump on the back of your neck and now it is gone!

After having sex he told me my legs lost weight because when I used to bend over the fat in my thighs used to squish my vajayjay together and now it is more spread apart!

I can tell your losing weight, your neck and chin used to be HUGE and now it is almost gone!

WTF, MEN!!! :w00t:

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Linnielady    4

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I am preop and can't wait to hear my husbands compliments. I read these to him and I have to say we were both in tears with laughter.:) Thanks

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lparedes    1

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so my poor husband has been trying to help me out and be supportive, and for the most part he has been.

We were watching TV the other night and he grabs my hands and starts looking at my fingers. He goes "hey honey, I can tell you are losing weight". He's peaked my interest so I say "oh yeah, how?" "Well", he says with a big smile, "you dont have fat stubby fingers anymore, they look normal! :thumbup:"

:sleep: IS HE CRAZY?!?!? I appreciate that he has noticed my weight loss, but he could have chose a better way to state that. Poor man, I have to love him, but sometimes I wanna smother him with the feahter pillow he had to have. :thumbup: Lord help me lol :)

That's funny:thumbup:. Mess up, but funny.. At least he is trying...

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msdv    5

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They mean well, but that's funny because that's how I can tell I'm losing or have lost some over night.

I look at my fingers and if they're not puffy I know I've lost or haven't retained Water. :)

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ape087    1

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:wub:I know he means well lol. I havent even been banded yet, and at that point hadn't even started my liquid diet. He is in the navy and went out to see for almost a month. I started my 3 week liquid diet a few days after he left, and will be banded a few days before be comes home, so who knows what he will manage to say when he gets back.

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ravendays    2

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This is hilarious because the other day my husband said something and I told my bestie I think my husband needs a mouth filter because his brain ok's him to say things that could result in me putting ice cubes on his side of the bed *evil giggle*....

My husband, brother in law, and myself were joking around about me talking to a guy friend of mine and my brother in law pops off with a sarcastic "Well you know she is about to get the Lapband done and is planning on losing all that weight"...My husband comes back with, "Doesnt mean she will cheat on me, it means she will be my artifical trophy wife"....My response "ARTIFICAL???? So I want be a real skinny healthy wife...no I'll be a fake? How the heck do you figure" Oh my ice trays are in the freezer full and about to be used!!!! lol

But hey at least he knows I wont cheat on him hahaha

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BlairE    1

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Its 5 days till I am banded, my hubby has been a jerk all day (he gets this way before I have to have surgery.....nerves) so I came here to see whats going. I am so glad b/c this was the first post I read and have sat here lmao.... each and every one of these stories are so funny, it could be a Dave Letterman top 10 list .... things spouses say after weight loss.... thanks for putting the smile back on my face.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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